NewfieEd Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Hi, I was seeing a girl until last April when it came to a sudden halt, she said it wouldn't work because she was going away for school and soon then after she did leave for school. We didn't talk since, I still like her but I don't know her feeling for me (probably none). I was at a club last night with some friends and while I was there she walked in with some friends, we saw each other 5-6 times throughout the night but barely any eye contact was made and zero conversation. This morning I posted a photo on social media and she was the first person to like it, I thought this was strange. I don't know what to do, should I just leave it alone or should I ask her to go out for a coffee and chat as friends just so there is not this weird stigma between us? I did ask her in April after we split up if she would like to go out and chat and she Told me she was too busy which I know through our friends was not true. Some advice would be appreciated, Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
TB1608 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 She probably saw you and felt guilty for not saying anything to her and probably wanted you to say something first. If she's liking your photo she is giving you a sign that she noticed you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TB1608 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 for not saying anything to you* Link to post Share on other sites
Author NewfieEd Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 Thanks, that does make sense what you are saying. We both know we saw each other. Do you think I should ask her to talk again? Link to post Share on other sites
ThreeYearsDumb Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 You don't mention how long you were seeing each other but it doesn't sound like it was very long. At this point if you still like her you have nothing to lose by asking to see her. She's probably going back to school, so the main obstacle is still in the way. And she may still be too busy. She might say yes, she might say no. Prepare yourself for either option and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 I don't think her liking a photo means much at all to be honest. I'd chill out and see if she makes a more overt overture. Link to post Share on other sites
sportygirl89 Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Don't she's feeling guilty about how things ended. You don't want to ask for coffee only to find out "they want to clear their conscience." It's a way to make themselves feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 You and her speaks different languages. You speak loud and clear and she speaks with "likes" and other hints. You can try to learn her language, (with a help of one of your female friends), but you will never get to her level and you'll probably be exhausted with it. So just drop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NewfieEd Posted December 30, 2014 Author Share Posted December 30, 2014 So last night I wrote her, asking how her Christmas went. I told I don't want it to be weird like it was the other night. She outright refused ever seeing me, told me she did not see me and that "you know I would say hi and talk to you". I guess at this point I should just let it go because it don't sound like she even wants to admit she even saw me. My stupid mistake for writing her. Link to post Share on other sites
frigginlost Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 So last night I wrote her, asking how her Christmas went. I told I don't want it to be weird like it was the other night. She outright refused ever seeing me, told me she did not see me and that "you know I would say hi and talk to you". I guess at this point I should just let it go because it don't sound like she even wants to admit she even saw me. My stupid mistake for writing her. She's game playing. Trust me, she saw you and she knows you know it. She's trying to make it appear that she was having such a good time, you were not even noticed. She's trying to feel you out and see where you're head is at. By you contacting her (no shame in that at all) she knows you are "aware" of her and still have some feelings. The games people play... You'll hear from her again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 (edited) So last night I wrote her, asking how her Christmas went. I told I don't want it to be weird like it was the other night. She outright refused ever seeing me, told me she did not see me and that "you know I would say hi and talk to you". I guess at this point I should just let it go because it don't sound like she even wants to admit she even saw me. My stupid mistake for writing her. That's why you shouldn't have sent her anything. You may have seen her and it is possible she didn't notice you, but sounds not likely. You emailed her and said it was "weird" and it shouldn't have been and you don't say that because even if she did see you, you don't know that it is "weird" for her too so you don't wont to give up your emotions right now. Always best to say nothing and let them contact you. You learned. That's ok, you found out what you needed to. you need to start moving forward without her. If she comes back strong at some point soon with a clear message you can re-evaluate the situation, but it doesn't sound good. She would have to be the one coming to you though and not with just a breadcrumb. Be strong and don't give in. She dumped you. Edited December 30, 2014 by dumbass2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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