For those of you who tried Eharmony, how long did to find a relationship?

[musicalsteve82]

For those of you who tried Eharmony, how long did it take to find a relationship?

[newmoon]

still looking... i got a 6-month subscription and i'm in month 4. unlike OKC and Match and other sites it seems to take a lot longer to get to the point of actually securing a date, let alone a relationship

[nofeelings22]

The infinity symbol is missing from my keyboard, unfortunately, so it's hard to provide an accurate answer!

[musicalsteve82]

Is it really that hard? Why?

[Art_Critic]

When I did it many years ago (it might be different today) the one thing that sucked about Eharmony was they matched you up with people who were either no longer participating or were not a paid membership so you would spend time on your matches waiting for them to answer a question set, they never would of course and in essence it just wasted your time and money.

 

The few dates I did have from there were not even close to being my match...

[missliss908]

When I did it many years ago (it might be different today) the one thing that sucked about Eharmony was they matched you up with people who were either no longer participating or were not a paid membership so you would spend time on your matches waiting for them to answer a question set, they never would of course and in essence it just wasted your time and money.

 

It's still the same. :/ The only dating site I've ever liked is OKCupid.

[d0nnivain]

I didn't find a relationship.

 

 

I was only on there for 90 days. I was matched with some quality guys. I spoke to several on the phone. I went on 1st dates with 3. One was the worst date in my life. The other two were nice enough people but they just didn't get my motor running if you will.

 

 

I also know that I don't care for OL shopping so it was a stretch to think that I could OL date.

 

 

Even though I didn't find true love, I believe I got what I paid for: the opportunity to meet quality, compatible men who I might not otherwise have gotten to know.

[PhoenixRysing]

I didn't find a relationship.

 

 

I was only on there for 90 days. I was matched with some quality guys. I spoke to several on the phone. I went on 1st dates with 3. One was the worst date in my life. The other two were nice enough people but they just didn't get my motor running if you will.

 

 

I also know that I don't care for OL shopping so it was a stretch to think that I could OL date.

 

 

Even though I didn't find true love, I believe I got what I paid for: the opportunity to meet quality, compatible men who I might not otherwise have gotten to know.

 

 

I had a similar experience. Two dates in the first month. Both gentlemen were nice enough (though the second lost the plot when I got strep throat and had to cancel on a follow up phone call - he thought I was blowing him off and got a bit nasty - after that, I did say no thank you). After those two dates, I had a few more first contacts but nothing that stuck or turned into a date. After the first month, the well dried up and I only got new options once or twice a week (usually with no photo or no content). Following that, the last month or so was just matches incredibly far away (several states) and even those were few and far between.

 

That said I am an agnostic, biracial, divorced, career focused, tech-nerd in the South so truly compatible matches for me are somewhat limited anyways! I hope your experience will be better!

[Frank2thepoint]

The infinity symbol is missing from my keyboard

 

Here you go: ∞

[angel.eyes]

I tried it a few years ago and liked it a lot. They matched me with men who were a really good fit. A lot of enjoyable dates. Good guys, but often a lack of chemistry.

 

I had a three-month subscription. I ended up in a LTR with someone I matched with two weeks into my subscription.

 

When I did it many years ago (it might be different today) the one thing that sucked about Eharmony was they matched you up with people who were either no longer participating or were not a paid membership so you would spend time on your matches waiting for them to answer a question set, they never would of course and in essence it just wasted your time and money.

 

The few dates I did have from there were not even close to being my match...

 

They started listing matches' activity right after I joined. Everyone I matched with was active on the site...typically within the last day or week. That of course doesn't address matches who are active on the site but haven't paid and therefore can't send you questions or message you, but that will be a problem on any paid site. My one gripe was they didn't list whether the person was single (never married) or divorced.

[musicalsteve82]

I tried it a few years ago and liked it a lot. They matched me with men who were a really good fit. A lot of enjoyable dates. Good guys, but often a lack of chemistry.

 

I had a three-month subscription. I ended up in a LTR with someone I matched with two weeks into my subscription.

 

 

 

They started listing matches' activity right after I joined. Everyone I matched with was active on the site...typically within the last day or week. That of course doesn't address matches who are active on the site but haven't paid and therefore can't send you questions or message you, but that will be a problem on any paid site. My one gripe was they didn't list whether the person was single (never married) or divorced.

 

 

Is there something wrong with a divorced person?