Onlyafterdark Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 As it states its urgent, my ex wife who ive come to learn through all the help ive had on LS prob has borderline PD . All though ive given her notice that id be working on NYE, has gone loony on me stating i cannot change my days with the kids. Since the split 6 mnths ago ive had my kids tue wed thur for 3 weeks of the mnth then 4th week mon wed fri. This is all i can do due to work, i also ring my kids via facetime everynight which she has put a stop to. I tried to remind her the other day about NYE she went crazy and has now stated i cannot change my day for one week(is that unreasonable of me) My festive rota for 1 week has been change to allow me time off with my kids She has told me i can no longer see my kids and that on my days i must organise childcare how unreasonable is that i ask you. Can she really do this to me is it not in my kids best interest to continue seeing their father ?? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 I don't know UK law but in the USA we take these things to court by filing a motion. Will you still get to see them Friday since it's your day? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onlyafterdark Posted December 30, 2014 Author Share Posted December 30, 2014 Since posting she has told me i have to stick to those days, meaning tues wed thurs even thought im working wed thurs. Ive had to ask my mum to look after them as she said ask your brother sister or mum, its my problem. I personally think its unreasonable i wasnt neglecting the amount of days just asking for 1 week in 6mnths due to my work rota changing for the festive period. My brother and sister work full time jobs and have never looked after my children, i cant ask them out of the blue. Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 OAD, you don't say whether you have this agreement in writing? There is a lot of info on the gov uk website about looking after children when you divorce/seperate. I would start there. In the meantime, if you are still able to see your kids, get your family to help if you cannot be there due to work. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 She probably just has plans for NYE and doesn't want them there to mess that up. I think you should ask her about that and if she does have plans don't say you can't. Tell her you'll try to figure something out. And then figure something out. They're your kids too. Link to post Share on other sites
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