dsprimal Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Hey everyone, So i'm going out with this girl next weekend and i'm planning things out. We both initially agreed to meeting in a town midway of where we both live since were about 45 min apart. I googled restaurants and things to do in that town and it sucks. But theres a town 15 min away from the town we chose that i'm more familiar with and can guarantee a good time. But that would be 15+ minutes further of a drive for her cause that town is closer to me. I thought it all over and i'm not gonna make the girl drive further for me. So heres my options. -Have her meet me in the town we initially agreed on and just go to that one single good restaurant I found? -Tell her that theres a town 15 min further of a drive for her thats better? -Drive the full 45 min and pick her up at her house and then have her choose a place to eat since its in her area? If so, should I plan everything by googling places in her area and not have her worry about anything? Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
plugga Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 I would either meet half way as originally planned, take a chance on the single good restaurant, or otherwise just get in touch with her and say hey, i know its a bit more of a drive for you but if you wanted better venue come to xyz town as I know a good place, we can go there. If it is this weekend i'd go to the middle town. I think it's a bit keen to drive the whole way to her, but then again 45 mins actually isn't that far to be honest. I guess it's all relative to where you come from/live... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Use review sites like yelp to pick a restaurant in the midpoint you chose. If all else fails make it a multiple choice question you narrow it down to 3 & let her make the final decision. For the 2nd date ask her to come to the other town. By the 3rd date you can pick her up. Especially if you met her OL, she's not going to be comfortable enough until then to let you pick her up. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Best bet with you just pick area 1/2 way and place to eat or she can recommend somewhere nice. But still you both should go to a place to eat that neither one has been too. You don't want friends or family on both sides to walk up to you on your very first date. Keep the first date as private as you can. Be yourself also, but don't over do it. Be a Gentlemen always. (watch her when you do act that way) this will tell you has she's raised. Open the doors, pull out the chair for her to sit down. Stuff like that. See her reaction too doing all of that. One more thing stay focus on her always. As much eye contact as possible. But don't over do that either. But don't look at other women while your on your first date. She should also being doing the same not wandering around with the eyes staying focus on you. Good luck on your first day and do report back how it went too? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dsprimal Posted December 30, 2014 Author Share Posted December 30, 2014 so you don't think its a good idea to pick her up on the first date? i've been told to never let a girl drive to meet you somewhere on a first date. but idk I could have been given bad info haha. I agree that it should be somewhere we both haven't been to make it more personal. i'm also usually always a gentleman, i open doors etc for my dates but the pulling out the chair for her to sit seems too cheesy for me =/ she may think i'm trying too hard Should first dates be short and sweet? I was planning on an early dinner/ a movie? but idk if thats a bit much.... id gauge it and see if things went well during dinner first then probably bring it up during the date if i felt good vibes. Great replies so far!! thank you guys and ladies Link to post Share on other sites
Assada Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 I think this is a great opportunity. - Meet midway as you originally planned. - If the date is going well, tell her that there is a town 15 minutes further. ---Drive her there - This will build incredible rapport with her. - Then get some dessert or something in the new town. Also, never try too hard... good rule to live by Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 First dates take a lot of different shapes & forms. If you already know each other, it's very gallant of you to want to pick her up. If you do that go on the date in her town since you are already there. If this is a 1st date from OLD or some other social media thing, for safety reasons, she is better off meeting you somewhere. Then you don't have her address & she can leave when she wants & isn't at your mercy to drive her. Hence the need to meet in the middle. OLD recommends a short & sweet 1st date so nobody is obligated to spend a long time if you don't click. Also it's cheaper. If you already know the person, something longer is OK. Generally a movie is a bad 1st date because you can't talk during it so you can't get to know the person. Link to post Share on other sites
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