Mistybelle Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 I was going with and engaged to a man for 5 years that I eventually had to break off. The break up wasn't on good turns we tried twice during that time to put it back together but it didn't work. anyway there was no contact until 9 months into the breakup when he left a message on my cell number and house number with his new cell number saying he had to run something by me. As a curious person I called back it made no sense why he was calling,anyway the conversation lasted over 2 hours so I threw out to him maybe we should get together for a drink,he paused then I said forget about it,he said you no if i call you you have to go. 6 weeks later he called again and said I haven' forgotten about the drink I promised you but I was hoping by know my business issues would be more settled and we could get together. I said there was no need to he said no we should. I want to also make note that both conversations everytime I said i'll let you go he said only if you want too!!! New Years Day he called saying he was putting someting away that I gave him and it reminded him off me. Last year we were broken up for New Years and never heard from him. Anyway this conversation lasted for 3 hours talking about everything and anything. During the conversation he told me he had moved on so on and so forth. I was very confused as to why he called so I did something i'm not used to I told him I was going with a guy and he just gave me an engagement ring. I wanted to see what his response was. He said that was quick and maybe I should take my time if the guy doesn't like it maybe I need to end it. At the end of the conversation he said we have to get together for that drink. I said it's not necessary we just talked for 3 hurs he said no we should and i'll be in touch. 3 weeks later he called my cell and home phone and left no message. The day after Valentine's Day he called to saybe around my neck of the woods and would I like to get together the following evening for a drink and small talk. Anyway the following day he picked me up and got out of his car and rang my doorbell go figure. Anyway he seemed very business,had dinner and drinks for 3 hours I talked about what happened in our relationship since there was very little closure he said he didn't know all this crook of sh** and he said I hurt him by asking for space and it rocked him and floored him. Didn't care about all the times he hurt me so badly. We left into his car and i gave him a quick hug,then I gave him another hug he never pulled away it lasted a few minutes. Then a kiss took place and another one that alot longer. Fast forward we were both crying both reminicing about the times we had. He kept telling me we had great times remembering everything he we did together,we looked great together etc. But it was over. Anyway he dropped me off. I felt kind of embarassed for being upset so I called him on his cellphone and we wound up talking for another 45 minutes. We were rapping up the call and he said if you ever need to talk give me a call. I said thats not necessary I have girlfriends for that. He said if you ever need to have a nail put in the wall or anything hung call me. I said let me get this right if I need something done and I called you you would do it,he said yes it would cost your dinner. P.S. He lives more then an hour away. I can't figure this out. I kind off thought that with the times he called me prior to the dinner he was going to tell me he missed me and wanted to work things out. I am so confused why would he have called me at all since the break-up was less then friendly. Do you have any advice for me,or did I read something different into this. In the past this guy is a very good poker player. Link to post Share on other sites
Tameson Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Im trying to help you out, however your message was very confusing. Maybe you can clear it a little bit. From what I understand, you want to get back together but are acting silly. Give it a try and work things out. Give it all you got, and if it works out then great, if not then you can use the experience for a future case. Link to post Share on other sites
Mistybelle Posted March 27, 2005 Share Posted March 27, 2005 HEY TAMESON HAPPY EASTER TO YOU HOPE ALL IS GOING WELL: Anyway thanks for your reply to my rather long and complicated story. I definately thought that a dinerr drink thing was going to bring out what the real reason for the phone calls,but I was wrong. I was hoping I was going to hear i really missed what we had and let's see if we can get it back together. Instead I got the complete opposite. Maybe I read more into this then what there really was,he has always been very complexed when it came to real emotions./ Link to post Share on other sites
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