Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 Because I select my men carefully. Because it takes me a long long time to like a guy and even longer to manifest interest. Because for me to make a move at a man, he must be.... something else. And also, because that does not happen all that often . Oh okay I can totally see why your style of dating and who you are as a person would lead to you feeling dejected regarding the rejection side of dating! I am different to you, obviously! I just wanna have fun in life - I am hedonistic and enjoy pleasure a lot... I enjoy the high of meeting someone knew, I get to know them and if it doesn't work out, so be it. I have stopped caring! It happens! I go for instant fire works and passion - with a compatible partner that I also adore, and who adores me. I don't sit tight and wait for a man with certain jobs, of a certain background or of a certain "look". I guess if I feel great chemistry, I feel they are instantly very attracted to me (and vice versa) and I like what I see of their personality, I GO for it.... It works for me - I don't get upset when men fade out and we don't end up clicking on a deeper level! And I enjoy the dating process in the meanwhile. I am no robot and would care if I invested deep seated emotions in them and if we were serious! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 Sorry Leigh but a genuine guy with his act together is highly unlikely to meet a girl twice, charm her off her feet, and then call her and drunkenly tell her how he wants "it" to work even though there is nothing between them. That is not the behavior of a "together" person by any stretch of the imagination!! No I'm not, I'm posting in a thread YOU started about what lengths a guy will go to to get into your pants!!! yes Leigh, we all know how attractive you find yourself!!! This is not about you and how hot you are or nice or whatever. From what you have said he sounds like a guy who is looking for a good time and with your fabulous body and nice personality why not you, especially since he comes there once a month!! But in any case Leigh I hope you get what you want out of this and have a good experience! I don't think I am that attractive at all - but I know for a fact that there are enough men out there who do find me very attractive! NOT ALL MEN do and MOST MEN do not, but a good enough portion of them do - so I don't see it as outlandish to expect this guy to be into me for my looks and nice personality. It is just not hard to believe that a guy could find me really attractive and also really like my personality - enough to be into me! He may be looking for a good time, or you never know, he may step it up and want commitment. Who knows. We don't know whether he is into me or not - he may be into me, you just don't know, it is too soon to tell, there is not enough evidence to suggest that he is only after sex. You have to give someone a chance and get to know them for a few months before you can saw " yep, that are not that into me and they just want sex" My friend met her fiancé at a club, they made out instantly upon meeting and they happened to have a deeper connection than the intense physical appeal they initially felt! ^^^^ there are exceptions to each situation and it is no that rare. People meet, they feel really attracted, they hang out and hey, they actually get along well and both wand children and to have a family and all of that stuff; with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 No I'm not, I'm posting in a thread YOU started about what lengths a guy will go to to get into your pants!!! yes Leigh, we all know how attractive you find yourself!!! This is not about you and how hot you are or nice or whatever. From what you have said he sounds like a guy who is looking for a good time and with your fabulous body and nice personality why not you, especially since he comes there once a month!! But in any case Leigh I hope you get what you want out of this and have a good experience! How do you know he just isn't that into me, you don't know him either. He may actually really like me? He wants kids and all of that - why wouldn't I be a woman he is considering a good option for a relationship? I don't see why not me - I am career focused, I earn a decent income despite soon starting a very challenging medical based degree..... I am a really sweet and nice person.... I am naturally thin with a great body... I think I am enough of a catch for him to consider me as relationship material - if he doesn't, it will soon be evident but it is too early to tell at this stage! I may not like him! He may not like me! Maybe he is into me to begin with, but will lose interest? Maybe on my holiday there, I will not like him as much as I thought I did initially? It probably wont work but no one can say that " he just isn't that into you" since it is way too soon to deduce that he doesn't like me as an option other than easy sex! Some men go about things the wrong way! He has been single for years, he may not have a clue how to go about courting in a healthy manner - hence wanting to be together with me without really knowing one another - and that is ok, I am enjoying it and will be OK if he were to suddenly disappear too. Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 yeah, but you see... chemistry can be a bit of a b*tch, at times. I mean, you can have chemistry with a stupid, idiot man, will you still go ahead with it? Of course attraction is important, but I do not allow it to be the sole criteria. That's why I take it easier. I want to get to know the guy, to talk to him, what are his likes, dislikes, his values. See, to me, the most attractive body part in a man's body is his brains . I understand and appreciate your openness to live your life to the fullest and experience, just... ask yourself what do you know about the guy in front of you. Do you really like him? what is it that you like in him? Do you like the person in front of you or the idea of a boyfriend? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 I have always marvelled at the lengths some men go to in order to get laid. ... I just wanna have fun in life - I am hedonistic and enjoy pleasure a lot...! "hedonistic: the belief that pleasure or happiness is the most important goal in life" There you go I think you just answered your own question .. men are also just hedonistic...case closed no need to argue..lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 May I ask how old you are? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 ONLY positive responses that laugh at men in general from now on! I am an attractive, nice lady and there is every chance that this guy is into me! However, there is also a chance he may not be, but it is NOT a far stretch to believe he could actually be into me! Case closed! It will be a fun trip, I have not travelled in over a year (the longest stretch of my life that I have NOT gone on an plane) Now can we stick to men and how far they will go for sex please? That is what interests me now that I have blogged about the latest guy I am dating. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 ONLY positive responses that laugh at men in general from now on! I am an attractive, nice lady and there is every chance that this guy is into me! However, there is also a chance he may not be, but it is NOT a far stretch to believe he could actually be into me! Case closed! It will be a fun trip, I have not travelled in over a year (the longest stretch of my life that I have NOT gone on an plane) Now can we stick to men and how far they will go for sex please? That is what interests me now that I have blogged about the latest guy I am dating. Why would some one laugh at men for trying to get laid? there is a blog section on LS to honestly I dont know if you realise this I dident for a while.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 In order to get he thread back on topic, and away from the stupid notion that of course this guy isn't into me (how insulting of people to ASSUME that he is likely not into me when I am a good enough catch) The furthest a guy has gone to have fun times with me was when... I met a guy who I had great chemistry with, he pretended to fall in love with me and then he disappeared. The rest of the men I have dated legitimately lost interest I feel although "berlin guy" talked of wanting to fly me over to see him and that money was no object to him blablabla and then I ruined it - I don't think he used me or feigned interest....He kept in touch most days even though he was travelling the world after all and it was me who I feel screwed it up, as my friends all think I did based on my actions and what I wrote to him at the time! How far have YOU gone to get sex? How far has a MAN gone to have sex from YOU? The disappearing pr!ck I wrote about above got in contact with me this year for fun, and he drove 1 hour to see me just to go down on me and pleasure me, when he knew full well I didn't want sex. He seemed really glad. So driving one hour total is how far a guy has also gone to have fun with me lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 Why would some one laugh at men for trying to get laid? there is a blog section on LS to honestly I dont know if you realise this I dident for a while.. I think it is funny and strange to pretend to be really into someone, tell them you want a relationship, tell them that you want to introduce you to all their friends as their "girlfriend", just to get sex. To be is IS bizarre if that is indeed what this guy is doing, if it is all lies and strictly to get sex. To me it is funny and insane - I cannot fathom lying to a guy to get sex, I don't see why a guy would say all those things in order to get sex, it is much easier to just go out and pick up an easy girl at a club who is down to f*ck... Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 ONLY positive responses that laugh at men in general from now on! .........wat? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 At least for me and my friends, we are just not the types of people who would bother pretending to really like a person just to get something from them. I associate with people that have good morals, my friends are decent people. I grew up in a good family also, as well as keeping in good company with decent types of people - and therefore, it is quiet alarming to think that a guy would outright lie to get sex - and lie to this extent. I think, most likely, the guy is into me so far, from what he knows of me, and means what he says but it still wont work out because hey, it is hard to find someone compatible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 .........wat? I am from a background and associate with friends who just don't pretend to like a person in order to get something from them! To me.. and to my female friends it is bizarre. To me.. it is also funny. If a guy lies to get sex and pretends to want a relationship with someone just to get laid, I find it so pathetic that it is funny. I wouldn't even be friends with a guy who said to me " yeah, I pretended to want a relationship with a girl once to get sex":sick: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Share Posted January 4, 2015 again - DO NOT mention my own personal situation again - I want to focus on men in general please. I have written enough about my dating life for now and want to see how it plays out before people make any more rude assumptions that " he just isn't into you". Any men here that are willing to ADMIT the lengths they have gone to in order to get sex? Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 I am from a background and associate with friends who just don't pretend to like a person in order to get something from them! nevermind ….. Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 I think it is funny and strange to pretend to be really into someone, tell them you want a relationship, tell them that you want to introduce you to all their friends as their "girlfriend", just to get sex. To be is IS bizarre if that is indeed what this guy is doing, if it is all lies and strictly to get sex. To me it is funny and insane - I cannot fathom lying to a guy to get sex, I don't see why a guy would say all those things in order to get sex, it is much easier to just go out and pick up an easy girl at a club who is down to f*ck... Oh my God, it is insane that you'd make exactly this comment and I would read it. Soooo, allow me to talk you about the August guy: we hung out in the same circle of friends for two months. He told his best friend he wanted to be my bf, kissed me in front of his friends, told his sister - who was asking me to lunch and stuff, all of a sudden - and to me... discussion over the phone (can you read any more red flags?) , talks about the future, plans, etc... luckily, I was smart enough to not sleep with him, after he started doing "the dance". Well.... turns out he was not all that sure all of a sudden and wanted us to be "just friends", when he saw that I was actually expecting him to take me out on dates and not just take his word and sleep with him. Bastards happen all the time. Like ALL the time. and I knew this guy, he lives in my city, he is not a stranger off the internet. Key take out: keep your eyes open and your legs crossed until you've figured the guy out. For sure, do NOT believe him only because he talks nicely. Get to know him first. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 I think it is funny and strange to pretend to be really into someone, tell them you want a relationship, tell them that you want to introduce you to all their friends as their "girlfriend", just to get sex. To be is IS bizarre if that is indeed what this guy is doing, if it is all lies and strictly to get sex. To me it is funny and insane - I cannot fathom lying to a guy to get sex, I don't see why a guy would say all those things in order to get sex, it is much easier to just go out and pick up an easy girl at a club who is down to f*ck... You ever consider that men like the "chase" just as much as some women do? Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 I wouldn't even be friends with a guy who said to me " yeah, I pretended to want a relationship with a girl once to get sex":sick: I think you find your potential pool of friends very small then as ide imagine a high percentage of them at some point in their lives did something at least some what along these lines to get a women's affections knowingly or not. That said lets flip it for a sec as well here as I feel like playing devils advocate today..what about women who use men for free dates/meals and have no intention of seeing them again how are they morally superior to men who play games? Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 There are a lot of guys on this site who are very happy to talk about what lengths they'll go to to get sex and how funny they think it is when they manage it, I think they're called PIA's or something like that, you can search for them. Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 PUA - Pick Up Artists. horrible thing Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted January 4, 2015 Share Posted January 4, 2015 Men: Why Do You Try Hard For Merely Sex Its not merely sex which you can get with a gf, its sex with a new woman. Its more exciting. Its like asking guys who often get up early and drive for a fair while to the river/dam/sea for fishing even though often they catch nothing or nothing worth keeping, if they catch just one beauty of a fish on the day or have a great day's fishing every so often it makes the whole fishing passion still worthwhile 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 It's simple logic. If lying presents a greater chance of success than the truth, then it makes more sense to lie. In general, a man has to put in effort of varying amounts to get sex. By comparison, many women can simply call a guy and have him come over. I guarantee that if an honest approach (me texting a woman to come over and have sex) had any chance of success, you would see more men using honest approaches. OP, you probably see it as "merely" sex because it doesn't take much effort for you to get it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 I read a little bit more and its not that the guy backpeddled to just sex.Your issue is more that he needs to keep chatting to you when you are a sure thing. I would say he's not convinced you are a sure thing, and that maybe he thinks you placated him or that your definition of fun is maybe not nsa sex so he still thinks he needs to work on you. Maybe also he knows women can be fickle, and feels he needs to keep in touch to keep the feelings burning. A lot can happen in a month when it comes to a pretty women who likely has numerous other guys vying for her attention. A lot of guys would think it would be risky for a guy to go quiet on a girl that they had met and hoped to hookup with in a month's time. Maybe daily communication is a bit over the top but maybe he really found your looks & easy going personality very appealing in person, but just not enough for him to pack and move or fly down every week for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 5, 2015 Author Share Posted January 5, 2015 It's simple logic. If lying presents a greater chance of success than the truth, then it makes more sense to lie. In general, a man has to put in effort of varying amounts to get sex. By comparison, many women can simply call a guy and have him come over. I guarantee that if an honest approach (me texting a woman to come over and have sex) had any chance of success, you would see more men using honest approaches. OP, you probably see it as "merely" sex because it doesn't take much effort for you to get it. I see. Thanks for your input. I have had guys who were honest with me! There politely told me that " I think you have an amazing body and you are really pretty, however; I just don't think we click at that level, but if you are keen for some fun then that is great" I have had guys tell me the truth in a nice way and it didn't offend me -like, what, they are attracted to me and think I am a nice girl and all but they don't click with me enough to want a relationship? So what? I agreed to FWB before with men who were HONEST; they never TRIED to pretend to want a relationship! Some of the FWB became good friends and still are to this day after years! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 5, 2015 Author Share Posted January 5, 2015 Maybe daily communication is a bit over the top but maybe he really found your looks & easy going personality very appealing in person, but just not enough for him to pack and move or fly down every week for. He met me twice. What girl that he meets twice will be enough for him to pack up and invest thousands for:lmao: Maybe he is really into me for the short amount of time we have gotten to know one another, and he is just seeing how it goes, but genuinely likes me enough to want to see if it can work? I don't think most men lie - I think they are usually genuinely into you at first and then things just don't work out, MOST fledging relationships DO NOT work out after all, and it is not because the guy just wasn't into the girl or vice versa! Link to post Share on other sites
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