GemmaUK Posted January 9, 2015 Share Posted January 9, 2015 Yeah, I'll wait out the weekend and call her Mon. or something. If you are meant to be seeing her this weekend and she doesn't get in touch then leave it be. Don't contact her Monday. Delete her #. If you are talking next weekend for your date then chill and give it time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted January 9, 2015 Author Share Posted January 9, 2015 If you are meant to be seeing her this weekend and she doesn't get in touch then leave it be. Don't contact her Monday. Delete her #. If you are talking next weekend for your date then chill and give it time. Talking about next weekend, as I have plans this weekend. If she doesn't return my calls...she can piss off. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 9, 2015 Share Posted January 9, 2015 You probably should be careful of not coming on too strong in an inappropriate way, you have a date a whole week from now, the particulars seem to be communicated. Just wait til next week to confirm. Link to post Share on other sites
DukeNukem47 Posted January 9, 2015 Share Posted January 9, 2015 Either she is not interested or playing hard to get. Since you did not go on any dates yet and you have no reason to believe that she's interested, she's probably doing the fade. This is likely the reason that she's so old and single. She likely did this throughout her life. Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 We got to talking about dating as she's told she's rarely dated due to the fact that she's extremely picky as she's gotten older and now she's open to making new friends, but...if something happens....well, that let fate go from there. This is a woman who treads very cautiously and slowly. This was her way of letting you know she sees potential in you as a mate, but that she does not like to rush at all, or get serious at all for quite a while into getting to know a potential mate. It's basically a sort of coy way of saying, "Courting me will take a lot of time and patience, and even then you could wind up investing all that time and I'll wind up not being romantically interested. Are you sure it's worth the time and hassle to you?" A bit of a veiled question posed to you, really. Your expectations if you choose to court her, should be that she will often be aloof in the beginning. She gave you a fair warning, in essence, although it certainly could have been more straightforward. But OP you often seem rather self-assured and steady-minded, so perhaps you could handle courting a really cautious woman if everything else about her was worth it to you. Ultimately up to you, though, of course; just don't go in with unrealistic expectations. Link to post Share on other sites
DukeNukem47 Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 This is a woman who treads very cautiously and slowly. This was her way of letting you know she sees potential in you as a mate, but that she does not like to rush at all, or get serious at all for quite a while into getting to know a potential mate. It's basically a sort of coy way of saying, "Courting me will take a lot of time and patience, and even then you could wind up investing all that time and I'll wind up not being romantically interested. Are you sure it's worth the time and hassle to you?" A bit of a veiled question posed to you, really. Your expectations if you choose to court her, should be that she will often be aloof in the beginning. She gave you a fair warning, in essence, although it certainly could have been more straightforward. But OP you often seem rather self-assured and steady-minded, so perhaps you could handle courting a really cautious woman if everything else about her was worth it to you. Ultimately up to you, though, of course; just don't go in with unrealistic expectations. I recently experienced this with a woman. I could see myself pursuing someone like this if she really appealed to me. However, I was just "meh" about her so I dropped it after a few dates. I still can't decide whether this is a good quality in a woman or a bad one. It also made me wonder if she treated every guy like this and whether or not she was even into me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I recently experienced this with a woman. I could see myself pursuing someone like this if she really appealed to me. However, I was just "meh" about her so I dropped it after a few dates. I still can't decide whether this is a good quality in a woman or a bad one. It also made me wonder if she treated every guy like this and whether or not she was even into me at all. I don't think it's inherently good or bad, just depends on how one perceives it, I guess. I mean it's more time and work, for damn sure, but then you also know she's genuinely really into you if she does develop romantic interest, due to how selective and cautious such gals are. But yeah, I think the guy has to be very smitten and determined, since he'll need to get a lot more mileage out of his enthusiasm, so to speak. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted January 10, 2015 Author Share Posted January 10, 2015 Well, she returned my call last night and we had an hour and a half long converstion and firmed our plans for next Saturday. I'm picking her up. So it's still a go! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Find out if she's ever had a long term boyfriend. She could be a virgin. Don't ask that, though. Ask about her college days, funny dates she had but first tell her about yours. See if there is a theme, like she was always avoiding physical contact or says things like boy only want sex. She's Italian/Mexican. Did she go to Catholic school, is her family very religious, did she want to be a nun when she was young? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted January 11, 2015 Author Share Posted January 11, 2015 (edited) Find out if she's ever had a long term boyfriend. She could be a virgin. Don't ask that, though. Ask about her college days, funny dates she had but first tell her about yours. See if there is a theme, like she was always avoiding physical contact or says things like boy only want sex. She's Italian/Mexican. Did she go to Catholic school, is her family very religious, did she want to be a nun when she was young? She's actually been in long term relationships, the longest were a couple of 4 year relationships...one of the men proposed marriage to her, but she felt it wasn't meant to be. She grew up Catholic like me, spent most of her life in the same career field. I would say she isn't highly religious She doesn't routinely go to church. Are you asking because she's over 50 and never been married? She used to live where I currently live as her parents and other family members live near me. She claimed she "got the heck out of dodge" and purposely cut ties from her back water friends as these people tended to be hung up on ONLY spending time with the people they grew up with. Yeah, kind of sad. I could kind of relate as the area where I live people tend to be not open to getting to know outsiders ..but when you meet people living in a fishbowl community. A rather cliquish community, some are not open to getting to know new people...the idea of Meetup events isn't their cup of tea because they are content on continuing their friendships from the people they went to grade school with. And of course, the propensity for people in smaller communities to get married at 18, pop out 3 kids by the age of 21. LOL She indeed had nothing to do with following the same fate as her barefoot and pregnant female friends as their husband/former prom date went to work in the roofing industry. LOL She actually avoided going to the same college THEY were going to for that reason. She's been a Meetup member for a while, but hardly attend events...she just goes on a whim, so I'm lucky I bumped into her like I did as attending this event was rather last minute (friend made me aware of it.) Edited January 11, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst Link to post Share on other sites
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