nikki76 Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 (edited) Folks seven pages of posts . She is not going to end until she gets caught but she is convinced that will not happen. We all know what the probable outcome is here so let her have he fun while it lasts. She's not listening and doesn t care. She is betraying two people very close to her , two families and she does not care. I believe her oroginal question was if it was worse because it was her friends. It is . She is not interested in trying to be talked out of it. She has made it clear she has no intention of doing anything but continuing her affair. Let her be and be here for her she it comes crashing down on her Seems like you have all the answers Edited January 16, 2015 by nikki76 wrong post Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 I first came here about a year ago trying to end my affair. We ended it for 6 weeks after new years last year.. But as of now are the closest we have ever been. I can include a link if you need my back story.. But is anyone else really close to their AP's family? It feels like both a curse and a benefit. Run along if you just came to waste your time telling me how horrible I should feel. I definitely have my moments and you typing a tantrum is unnecessary If it is "unnecessary" and just a "tantrum" why do you care? You could merely block those people or shrug the posts off. So why exactly is this an issue? Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 It will eventually fade to a stop and end. That's what I envision happening. This sounds good but it isnt reality. Someone gets their world torn apart and hurt. You either get caught or get dumped (or be the dumper). As you get older more problems will occur. Your mental health is at risk. Look at your attitude already. Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 Good people do good. Bad people do bad. I'm talking continued behaviour. A spouse who hits his wife but is loving to his children is still a bad person. I did a lot of "good" things while cheating on my husband. But I was a bad person during the affair. But I believe that bad people can become good and good people can become. Because goodness and badness isn't an inherit trait. It is our actions. Not enough good actions can erase certain bad actions. Only stopping those bad actions can change us back to good. Another point. You say it isn't a "fantasy" but then say your relationship is "in stares" (please watch the honest trailer for twilight on youtube). That is what the poster means. So you basically are saying the vast majority of your relationship is wanting each other. The fantasy . Next point You don't want it to end (i totally get that). But you don't love yourself and you can't sleepnat night. And you obviously are overly sensitive to advice (calling it judgements and getting those panties twisted). I repeat. You are killing yourself. You need to see a very experienced shrink. And you need to choose to want to be someone who you see as worth loving. Get help. Not on a forum for cheaters that tells you it is okay and enables your destructive behaviour. And not here. From real life people. And keep searching until you find it. Because would you want this for your daughter? Or would you want your son to be married to someone like you? O your daughter married to someone lime him? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
summerdowling87 Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 I genuinely care for their entire family and that's what shows. How do you care for their family? You're sleeping with your friends husband and your kids friends dad. What if your husband and his wife and all the kids find out what are you going to do then? What if all the kid end up hating you two for breaking up the families and friendships what will you do then? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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