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Would appreciate your thoughts and comments on my situation.

 

The gf and I have been going out 6 years, we've hardly ever fought or anything. The last few months havent been great, but both of us have been stressed with work and i put it down to that.

 

Last week, she broke up with me, packed up the rest of her stuff and left. She brought some of her stuff home to her sisters the week before so she was planning this for a while. I was crying so much and asking her why and she just kept saying its just not the same for her and she needs space. We'd never broken up before and this was such a shock to me.

 

I was destroyed. Couldnt eat or sleep for days, constantly crying.

 

I spoke to her yesterday for the first time in 6 days since the break up and she seemed to think that we might be able to salvage the relationship if I can change a few things. We discussed the problems over the phone, all her demands are pretty reasonable. She says she needs more time but thinks we may be ok to give it another go.

 

I want her back really bad, but I think this is such a terrible way for her to treat me. And how can I be with a person who was feeling terrible about our realtionship for months yet failed to tell me? She could of gone about things totally different and saved me all that pain and hurt. And i ask, how can you hurt someone the way she hurt me if you really love them? I would never do what she did to me as I love her to much.

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"Limerence (also infatuated love) is an involuntary state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated."

 

"With much dismay in his voice Ronald said, “Three years ago I was sure I was head over heels in love with my wife, Helen. About a year ago that all-encompassing feeling just seemed to evaporate. I don’t know what happened. Something must be wrong with me. We have tried to rekindle our love but nothing we do works. It is not anything Helen has done wrong. She’s the same. There’s not anyone else. This can’t be how love works, can it?”

 

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