picnicinthepark Posted January 6, 2015 Share Posted January 6, 2015 (edited) Short summary: - Together for almost 5 years (since university) - Lived together for over a year in the city where we worked - I was laid-off - We had communication problems - She broke up with me and I moved out of our apartment It's been almost a year since and a lot has happened. First few months were tough and involved breaking NC, social media stalking, etc. It could only get better from here. I was given a second chance and returned to my old job with more responsibility and a raise. I travelled Europe several times and had many great experiences. I started running, playing soccer and learned to sail. I was really focusing on myself, spending time with family, meeting great people and making new friends. I was happy again. A couple months ago at a friend's party... My ex is there. By this point in time I'm fairly impartial but still nervous to see her. We talk all night and its just like old times. We part ways and I tell her it was nice to see her and to not be a stranger. She agrees and says that she hopes to see me again soon. We even exchanged texts to arrange something the next time she was free (ball is in her court). Fast-forward to the present... I haven't heard from her! I really thought things were going well and that maybe we could try being friends. I'm not crushed but this bothers me and I've been losing sleep over it lately. We have mutual friends and I've thought about asking them if she is seeing anyone. That way I could make sense out of all of this. Could she really be that cold? I really shouldn't care though right? I wish she would just talk to me and be honest. picnicinthepark Edited January 6, 2015 by picnicinthepark Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLosingLove Posted January 6, 2015 Share Posted January 6, 2015 That sounds harsh. Most likely she was just being courteous when you two saw each other last. I think I remember reading a sticky on one of these forums about expectations and how they never live up to what we want(nonverbatim). IMHO don't look at it as if she's being cold. She just seems to have moved on and is busy with her own life now. You should do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 A year is a long time. And now, even if she still likes you, there needs to be a spark to get the fire going. I have wanted to re-like a guy, but I couldn't because there is just that something missing. Sometimes ex's are afraid to flirt and seduce because of the fear of rejection again, which is understandable. So it's hard to get that chemistry going again. And since you've moved on, you are probably more polite than passionate with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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