I am scared, diagnosed with breast cancer

[angelheart]

Hi everyone,

 

I don't know where to begin.

I am a young girl with breast cancer, i am scared and i have a hectic treatment sheule.

I have a LDR b/f in Germany, i miss him so much!

 

I just wish all of this could go away!

I hate being ill, and going to the hospital everyday!

I hate the pain and the treatment i am on!

 

I know they found the cancer early enough, but i am scared that the cancer will break my b/f and me up!

I love this guy with all of my heat and soul! :love

In my treatment i keep on thinking of him!

 

I keep on thinking when we will see each other even though i don't know when yet!

I miss him so much, i cry a lot! :cry:

We talk every now and then on the net, he is a busy guy!

But as long as i can talk to him i am fine!

 

I am currently studying and to go through this everyday and to keep my smile up during class is eating me up!

 

Please give me advice what do i do when i have my low painful days?

How can one go on each day and keep a smile on ur face?

 

I am scared and alone in this!

 

Thanks for everything

 

Angelheart :cry:

[moimeme]

I'm very sorry you're going through this. I'm not much help - it's not something I've had to deal with. Hospitals are usually affiliated with support groups. Is there one in your area? I'm also willing to bet that there are lots of online support groups for people with breast cancer. You certainly are not alone in your troubles - 'way too many women of all ages are still getting breast cancer.

 

I can tell you that I have a friend who was also diagnosed quite young. She went through treatment and is cancer-free now many years later. So it's excellent they found it so early!

[sophia34]

I also have no direct experience with breast cancer, but I do know two friends who have battled, or are battling, the disease. It's simply not fair, and I am so sorry you feel alone.

 

I totally agree with moimeme--try to find a support group through your hospital, church, family or friends. You need to have people who truly understand what you're going through around you, so that you can share experiences and help each other through it.

 

Other than that, just take care of yourself. I don't mean medically. You obviously are doing everything medically to beat it, and because you caught it early you will. But as you go through your treatment, be sure to do things that nurture your spirit--perhaps a yoga class, a day at the spa, dinner with friends, a good movie, a really great chocolate truffle, a great new dress. Although your treatment will take up much of your attention and time, what my two friends have told me is that it is incredibly important that you continue to live your best life to keep up your spirits and remind yourself of the good stuff.

 

My thoughts are with you!

[gridiron]

I am so sorry to hear this angelheart. I really do not have any great advice either, besides as mentioned already, find a support group - you should not have to go through this alone. For me, knowing everything I can about a disease would help out in understanding the treatment. Of course, you don't want to do this so much that it takes away from your normal routine and activities, giving you time to not think about it. But having some knowledge of what you are dealing with and understanding how the painful part of treatment is used to defeat the disease may be helpful. Just from my pov. Most of us are a lot stronger physically and mentally than we think we are, and I have confidence you have the strength to fight it, with the help of others. I wish you the best of luck.

[quankanne]

I really can't think of anything to add to the good words of advice from the others, except to find something -- be it a book, a stuffed animal, a poem, a song, a movie, a picture -- that soothes you so that you've got it when you need that extra boost.

 

does your guy know about your cancer? You say that his voice calms you: would he be willing to tape himself talking or reading? Sometimes, that can be the biggest help, knowing that you can hear his voice anytime you need. I've got an old answering machine tape with my mom talking on it, and it's my secret weapon against depression. Just knowing I've got it is enough to make things all right ...

 

in the meantime,

[color=violet](((((((HUGS)))))))[/color]

[BiancaRura]

I know what youre going through... I was in the Navy this past summer and they found cancer on my cervix. I got discharged right after that. Im still waiting on my med records so I can get the rest of my treatments. What they did in the Navy was thousands of dollars and I cant afford to get the biopsy redone, etc. until I have my records......

[Thinkalot]

I also have no personal experience with this, but want to send you good wishes, and I am sorry you are going through this. It's great they diagnosed you early though! The others have given you top advice.

Hang in there.

[angelheart]

Hi everyone,

 

Thanks for all of your advice and thoughts!

 

I am so glad that i am not alone; i know i am not but sometimes when i go online and my b/f status is away i feel so alone and i just hate that feeling!

I miss him so much!!!

 

I know i will get through this, i just have 2!

Yeah i told my b/f about this, he was the 1st one who knew.

it was really hard and i felt embarrassed to tell him something so personal but i did and now i know i have his love like always!!!!

 

 

To all of you who know how i feel, good luck to all of you!

I know this is hard and it will be for a while but life goes on!

 

I am going to keep my head high and smile, but i know that if there is times that i can't go through this alone or i am not strong enough i have people who are there for me!

 

Thanks all of you!

Have a great day

[quankanne]

Angel, I'm glad that today is going better -- just know that the people here are a wonderful, supportive community, and who will be here for you when you need them most. Sometimes, it's through words of confidence, other times with tacky jokes, but they're always here for you.

 

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[HokeyReligions]

angleheart, I have been battling BC for a couple of years now. I was not diagnosed early and I have other health factors that play a big part in my beating this.

 

Besides support groups and personal counseling that most hospitals offer, there are also on-line support groups for people going through BC diagnosis and treatment, and you can talk about the emotional effects in all aspects of relationships.

 

 

 

Try here: http://bcsupport.org/ I've found some laughs and strength here, and some tears too.