hallowedheart Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 So this is a bit of an odd situation. I recently met a guy and we got along great - but I never had him as a romantic option in my mind because he is 19 and I am 27 and I genrally dontlike the idea of dating men more than a couple years younger. However, since he's gone back home to the Carribean (I'm in North America ) he's been slightky enboldened and has lwt on his interest. I like him and am disappointed that he is so much younger. Now, if our genders were reversed I don't think there would be any guilt or confusion. I'm just not quite sure how to handle myself in this situation. Some friends say "go for it!" Others say "gross that's way too young!". So looking for some outside opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 "go for it!" what is the it? elaborate, i see a man who likes sex, do you both share the same it Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Just treat it like you would with any other guy. You don't have to feel like you're the man or you need to run things because you're the older one. He's the guy and you're the girl, that's it really. Whatever it means to you. Link to post Share on other sites
SJS Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 As long as you are both ok with it, who cares what others think? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 So this is a bit of an odd situation. I recently met a guy and we got along great - but I never had him as a romantic option in my mind because he is 19 and I am 27 and I genrally dontlike the idea of dating men more than a couple years younger. However, since he's gone back home to the Carribean (I'm in North America ) he's been slightky enboldened and has lwt on his interest. I like him and am disappointed that he is so much younger. Now, if our genders were reversed I don't think there would be any guilt or confusion. I'm just not quite sure how to handle myself in this situation. Some friends say "go for it!" Others say "gross that's way too young!". So looking for some outside opinions. For me that's way too young. I'm around your age and I just can't see myself dating a 19 year old guy. What do you want from the relationship? I suppose if you are only interested in sex or something casual then it's a little more understandable but I wouldn't be looking for something more serious if I'm closer to 30 and my bf is closer to being a teen/is a teen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 I'm 27 and I would feel strange being with someone who has 1 as a first age digit. But 20ies are near so I wouldn't feel strange for long. Think about the enthusiasm and energy he will probably have along with the relevant immaturity in certain other topics, and choose for yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 8, 2015 Share Posted January 8, 2015 I'd feel odd, personally. But he is of a legal age and you're not exactly old enough to be his mother yet, so it isn't necessarily a bad idea. But if you find yourself 'disappointed' in him at the revelation, perhaps you might want to reconsider the R. It's not fair to him if you're settling for his age. Link to post Share on other sites
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