ktya Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 (edited) I heard woman say over the years......"sex is not free" I have a great example. Went on a date with this teacher, given how much teachers make here she likely made more money than me, definitely if you include the benefits. We had a nice date and i paid and it was only a couple drinks. Brought her back to my house made out a bit no sex. We talked on the phone for hours several times and i was going to line up the next date, she seemed like a nice girl who wanted the real boyfriend trajectory so i thought i might cook her a gourmet meal. I playfully asked if we had to go out for our next date, to open it up that id like to invite her for dinner. She said, "Yes. Take me to dinner.". I laughed because i was going to invite her over for the very same thing. She answered, "No. Buy me dinner." Despite that i told her that i used to be a sous chef she insisted i buy her dinner. I never went out with her again. Ill tell ya that chick missed out on a 5 course meal to die for. Edited January 13, 2015 by ktya 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CALOVELY Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 His opinion is rooted in fact, albeit his bias is a bit extreme. Women tend to "marry up", and one common thing women look for in a man is a good job when looking for a LTR. Women are attracted in part to a man with resources, while men are attracted to sex and looks. Dragging us back to the original topic, no, a man shouldnt always pay for his girlfriend, and its a red flag for any woman to expect he does. If she cant afford to pay for dates they should do cheaper dates or she should get a better job. A bit of generosity is nice, but if its only one way its a sign of disrespect. Us men unfortunately, are all to easily played by a beautiful woman whos great in bed and bats her eyelashes when the check comes. God gave us two heads but only enough blood to think with one, and some women use this to great effect. Rooted in fact? You left out a large part of that fact. Both genders tend to "marry up". Men do so for looks. Back to dating, you lay blame on the willy woman. I think men are much stronger and capable than that. It is perfectly reasonable for a man to tell his date that he would like to split costs. If she has a problem with that, she is not the right one. Her eyelashes be damned. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 Fellow men are our own worst enemy in this situation. If you stick to your principles and insist on equal investment, the woman can simply find another man who is willing to throw his money at her. I heard woman say over the years......"sex is not free"The female bartender at one of my favorite hotspots has a similar line: "Pussy has a price". It is not really possible to have sex without investing money, one way or another..This is not universally true, but it's very rare for me to have sex with a woman whom I've spent no money on. I can think of two occasions. Perhaps the men who are more successful with women experience "free" sex more often. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 Fellow men are our own worst enemy in this situation. If you stick to your principles and insist on equal investment, the woman can simply find another man who is willing to throw his money at her. The female bartender at one of my favorite hotspots has a similar line: "Pussy has a price". This is not universally true, but it's very rare for me to have sex with a woman whom I've spent no money on. I can think of two occasions. Perhaps the men who are more successful with women experience "free" sex more often. Out of about 30 women ive slept with, i landed about 10 without spending money on them. They in all but one case were the best ones, most of them on the first night. Another 10 were women like the subject of this thread, very expensive, im talking thousands of dollars. At the centre of the bell curve, those 10 didnt cost a lot but they took forever to get between the sheets. The expensive ones tended to be absolutely incredible in bed. Link to post Share on other sites
CALOVELY Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 Out of about 30 women ive slept with, i landed about 10 without spending money on them. They in all but one case were the best ones, most of them on the first night. Another 10 were women like the subject of this thread, very expensive, im talking thousands of dollars. At the centre of the bell curve, those 10 didnt cost a lot but they took forever to get between the sheets. The expensive ones tended to be absolutely incredible in bed. Time is money so the "free" ones might have cost you more in the long run. A little finance humour. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 I think in real life, outside of message boards, there is a lot of pressure on men to pay for everything.. Especially if the woman is attractive. I guess it would be like if I started a thread "men, should your wife or gf do all of the cleaning?" I am sure many women on here would chime in and disagree. I would like to see a shift where paying 50/50 becomes common place.. It only seems fair in today's world.. Then I think you should look at the women you are attracting or looking to attract. I can't say that this is true and especially if you are in an area of higher household incomes I think you will see more parable actions. Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted January 13, 2015 Share Posted January 13, 2015 Time is money so the "free" ones might have cost you more in the long run. A little finance humour. Actually the "free" ones were not only some of the best ones but i also got to make them breakfast the morning after the first date. Sometimes expediency trumps money. Link to post Share on other sites
smg15 Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 Fellow men are our own worst enemy in this situation. If you stick to your principles and insist on equal investment, the woman can simply find another man who is willing to throw his money at her. The female bartender at one of my favorite hotspots has a similar line: "Pussy has a price". This is not universally true, but it's very rare for me to have sex with a woman whom I've spent no money on. I can think of two occasions. Perhaps the men who are more successful with women experience "free" sex more often. That's what they tell me lol Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 This thread is rather amusing. I'm a female, and in all my relationships, I was the one doing the paying. In some instances, I paid for absolutely everything, Everytime. It was worth it to me, because I enjoyed getting to do things with that person. I'm not accustomed to being paid for, don't expect it, and am used to and totally fine with being the sole spender. Not a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
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