Ex wants to hang out again

[Doglover12]

I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years about 3 months ago. I was away at college and things just weren't working out very well for us. We were fighting more and I didn't feel as I was being treated as I should be. Something just felt different between us so I ended things. He was completely crushed. He was my first boyfriend so I feel like I need to get out in the world and explore a little. We would fight over the littlest and dumbest things and that wasn't healthy for either of us. He has occasionally texted me about small things and over break he has become a little more constant about it. He knows he made a lot of mistakes in our relationship and has admitted and apologized about them. The other day I went to lunch with him to catch up on things and now he wants to hang out again. I don't really now where my feelings stand and I really don't want to lead him on so he can get hurt again. I go back and forth with my feelings all of the time because I do miss having someone to count on and always talk to but then again I want to be treated like I should be. Of course I don't hate him or anything like that I just don't want a new relationship with him to fall back into the same habits of the old one. He says his friends will be drinking and he doesn't want to be involved in it because he knows how I feel about that. It's a nice gesture but should I hang out with him again or not?

[towardthefuture]

I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years about 3 months ago. I was away at college and things just weren't working out very well for us. We were fighting more and I didn't feel as I was being treated as I should be. Something just felt different between us so I ended things. He was completely crushed. He was my first boyfriend so I feel like I need to get out in the world and explore a little. We would fight over the littlest and dumbest things and that wasn't healthy for either of us. He has occasionally texted me about small things and over break he has become a little more constant about it. He knows he made a lot of mistakes in our relationship and has admitted and apologized about them. The other day I went to lunch with him to catch up on things and now he wants to hang out again. I don't really now where my feelings stand and I really don't want to lead him on so he can get hurt again. I go back and forth with my feelings all of the time because I do miss having someone to count on and always talk to but then again I want to be treated like I should be. Of course I don't hate him or anything like that I just don't want a new relationship with him to fall back into the same habits of the old one. He says his friends will be drinking and he doesn't want to be involved in it because he knows how I feel about that. It's a nice gesture but should I hang out with him again or not?

 

Well, your conditions are pretty valid. There has to be some way you can test the waters as to if he's truly internalized his mistakes in the relationship and improved them. Maybe if you have some mutual friends you can ask them if they think he has made life changes.