Is he just keeping me sweet?

[slipped halo]

In a nutshell we are both students at different unis and my ex left

me at the start of 2nd year said I was too demanding and clingy , he wanted to party more than me. Anyway he couldn't handle even any casual interest I had from other guys and began contacting me again and we arranged to meet at

Xmas. Anyway in the midst of all this I found out he was doing 'party' drugs am so I refused to speak to him so his friend from home persuaded me to meet him so he could explain which we did. He said he wanted to try with me again and would devote me more time and ditch the doing drugs on nights out. He also bought me an expensive locket for Xmas. Anyway 1st wk back at uni and I'm wondering if he's just keeping me sweet as an option because I asked him to come over and see me this week and he couldn't give me straigth answer until the last minute , work to be done etc then finally realised ar the 11 th hour he has a late lecture. This is the last time we could

Have met for a while too so I'm gutted. He said he felt bad but did he? Is he stringing me along? My friends think he's enjoying controlling me and I really don't know where to go from here because I do want to get back with him

 

Ma

[Light Breeze]

One thing that your ex really hates, especially a guy his age, is interest from others toward you. Of course he'll come running back but it doesn't change a thing about his personality. He'll still want to party and run wild and free, boys in college are like that, moreso the partying type like your ex.

 

I'm going to bet that you've been placed at the backburner. If he was serious about your renewed relationship he won't dawdle around and just see you period.

 

Well, you have to think long and hard if you want to continue this.

[Bellaisa]

He started having interest in you when you started to move on, right?

 

Here's my experience. Every jerk I've ever dated has wanted me back after I started to move on. Why? Because suddenly he is not in control of the breakup and that makes him want me more. Moreover, I'm comfortable, and that's always something men will want to come back to.

 

But, when we get back together, they start to act up again and the true feelings come out again and it goes back to the way it was.

 

Bottom line: If he hasn't visibly changed his ways, actions, beliefs, or whatever, then he probably hasn't changed his mind about how he feels about you.