Need a different point of view

[andy25285]

So my ex-girlfriend, of three years, broke up with me two months ago and ever since, things have been very unorthodox. We both are college students. I am in pharmacy school and it is quite time consuming, more so than I anticipated, thus this past semester I was extremely busy. Long story short, my ex broke up with me because she believed that our relationship became lost and that both started to develop separate lives. I always knew I wasn't spending enough time with her, but being my naive self, I thought she was okay with it. The week after she broke up with me I contacted her a lot, I did the begging and pleading, telling her we can make things work and so on and so forth. Surprisingly she was willing to talk to me whenever I wanted to and see me whenever I wanted to.

 

Fast forward about one month and now we move into December. The day before my last exam she sent me a text asking if I wanted to meet up when I get back home and I agreed. We went out to sushi for dinner. During dinner she was very lively and playful, she's usually calm and blah. After dinner, idiotically I asked if she wanted to come over and to my surprise she said yeah. We ended up cuddling and when I dropped her off I asked for a kiss (lol) she said no cause it would make things complicated (figures). So on Christmas Eve I decided to text her. We actually ended up texting each other for three days straight until finally we decided to get ice cream. After ice cream she agreed to come over again, which I thought was extremely odd back when we were together she never wanted to cause there is nothing to do at my house (really there is nothing to do in my house lol). So when I dropped her off I decided to give it another go and I asked for a kiss. She said no of course. I expected her to say no but for some reason it got me really frustrated. So in a sorta angry way I asked her why not? She said something and I responded well "I know you don't want to give me mixed signal but you are" (the second I said it, I regretted it lol). She said how?! I said nothing, looked away, and she walked inside her house. After that whole debacle we didn't talk or anything for a whole week. Eventually I texted her asking her to come to the mall with me, surprisingly she said yes, but she did have to return something. It was a quite awkward. A few days later my friends and I and my ex all went out for the night together. That night was also very awkward. i didn't say much to her and she didn't say much to me. As the night drew to a end a few of us wanted to leave and I decided to go with them. I couldn't find my ex so I opted to just leave and not say bye cause we had a train to catch. But as I was walking out, she came flying my way. Stopped me and started asking me that "oh I can't even say Hi" and "you're not even going to say bye before you leave", blah, blah. I said a few things but it was left unresolved cause I was going to miss the train. The next day she texted me about it. We resolved and we ended up talking the whole day. The next day I needed a opinion on some clothes so I decided to ask her andddd we ended talking the whole day lol.

 

So a few days of very minimal contact passed (just a few snapchats). Yesterday around 4 o'clock she texted me apologizing because she accidentally bought something on my amazon account. That conversation something led to us going out for dinner. Dinner went great, wasn't awkward and nothing felt forced. But before she agreed to go, she asked me if this night is going to end how it usually does with me being mad and ending on a bad note. Anyways after dinner I did ask if she wanted to come over, but this time she quietly, while looking away, said no. She later said only because her stomach is bother her (excuse? Idk?). Anyways this Thursday, her and I are taking a trip down to school to drop some stuff off. I am thinking about bringing up the topic of our break up. I want to explain to her I understand why she did it, try to explain how we can potentially make it work. I do want to ask her to give us a second chance, but I'm not sure. I will try to make the conversation logical rather then emotional and I won't put pressure on her. I don't want to make it awkward again. And I feel like the more I push her towards it, the less she is willing to agree. What do you guys think?

 

Thanks!

[Ieris]

I actually think you should cut her off, just seems like you are slowly being friend zoned. She doesn't want to be with you but still wants to keep you around. You tell her straight.. "Either we get back together or I'm walking..."

[dravas18]

I actually think you should cut her off, just seems like you are slowly being friend zoned. She doesn't want to be with you but still wants to keep you around. You tell her straight.. "Either we get back together or I'm walking..."

 

I concur 100%. She wants you around as a friend, which is only driving you crazy. Going NC will only make her miss you more - or make her not miss you at all.

 

I know the 2nd option sucks but if you keep up the current course of action, you will end up always being around her, sitting around like a chump hoping that she realizes what she is missing out on, while she is out with other guys. Nobody should do that to themselves, that's the worst...