How many first dates have lead to second dates?

[musicalsteve82]

I never saw any statistics, so I was wondering what the norm was.

[DirtyHairy]

50% is my real life statistic.

 

Now how do I know that exactly?!

Well I had a girlfriend in highschool and college for about 3 years. Prior to that highschool dating doesn't count because its not the same.

 

After she left me it took me about 5 months to get and go on a single date. That one didn't lead to second date.

Couple months after that I got a date with another girl. That turned out to be someone I would date for about 3 months.

 

So in conclusion second date success 1/2=50% lol

[musicalsteve82]

Yeah I've been googling for statistics and never found any.

[JohnM]

Hmm. Not that my numbers are massive.

 

First date became my first gf.

 

Second had four dates with before I stopped after consideration.

 

Third became my second gf.

 

Fourth had three dates before she flagged as mental and I stopped it.

 

Fifth was about two months and then I stopped due to concerns.

 

Sixth was a one date, just no spark.

 

Seven was a one date, Eight was a date the night after Seven. The second girl was better suited and we are about eight dates in now.

 

So 2/8 didn't lead to a second date.

[Otter2569]

My experience is 50-60% were second dates. This is based on my online dating experience in the last 4 years. A bunch of theses dates became GF's from anywhere from 2 to 24 months.

 

I did go on a streak where I was one and done. Dating gets real expensive real quick from a guy perspective. Forget all the time and effort that goes into it.

[Andy_K]

The number changes as I get older. In my mid-twenties, perhaps one date in four or five lead to a second date, and most of the time it was me getting rejected. Now In my early thirties, and it's more like 60-70% will lead to a second date, and for those that don't it is more often me not being interested than the other way around.

[d0nnivain]

Most of my 1st dates lead to a 2nd date. I only remember one guy not asking me for a 2nd date, but I wouldn't have gone had he asked. The few times I didn't have a 2nd date it was by my choice.

 

Before you conclude i'm stuck up or something, I do remember dozens of times I didn't get asked for the 1st date or I had a crush that wasn't reciprocated.

[Sunfire73]

Met 20 and had 5 2nd dates. Out of the 5, 1 8-month relationship and 1 - now 17 months and counting.

[central]

I met around 50, and about a third led to second dates. Mostly, I was very selective and didn't want to ask them out again. Some weren't interested in me, either! Probably half or more would have gone on a second date, but I can only speculate on that.

[Phoe]

First person I dated became first boyfriend.

Second person I dated became second boyfriend.

Third person I dated got 2 dates before we agreed there was nothing there.

Fourth person I dated got about 4 dates before he dumped me.

Fifth person I dated for several months before he dumped me.

Sixth person I dated became my third boyfriend and he dumped me after a month.

Seventh person I dated became my fourth boyfriend. Broke up after ten months.

 

100% rate of turning into a 2nd date. And I've dated 7/10 of the men who've asked me on a date, so I have a 70% acceptance rate for a first date.

[FortunateSon]

I haven't done a spreadsheet on it but I would say 75% of my first dates lead to second dates. Unless there are obvious red flags, incompatibilities, or gross misrepresentations, I usually give it a least one more date to see if anything is there.

[Eighty_nine]

I'm pretty sure everyone I've ever met in person and gone out on a date with, there was a second date.

 

Online dating = met 11 people, went out on 3 second dates. Out of those 11 though 8 contacted me re: second dates. I was only interested in 3. (And of the 3, one ended up dumping me).

[SomeDude16]

I'm at 100% success rate. Of course by revealing this I probably jinxed myself...

[mysteryscape]

real first dates -- or online "first meetup" aka the dreaded "coffee date"?

[MissBee]

I've gone on way more first dates that didn't pan out to anything more than I can remember, especially when I was younger and when I was heavily into OLD. In my whole life I'd say for me I've had way more dates that didn't make it to a second date than those that did.

 

But within the past year I went on 4 dates, the first we didn't have a second date although we still spoke. I just saw him as a friend plus maybe a week after our first date I went out with another guy who became my boyfriend. After he and I broke up, about 6 months in, I went on another first date that made it to a second and third date and us seeing each other casually. I'm attracted to him and he's cool but not someone I want to be in a relationship with. Last guy I went out with was not all there I'm sure and I didn't go out with him past the first date. So I guess 50% of my dates last year made it to second dates.

[Erised]

I never saw any statistics, so I was wondering what the norm was.

 

If I get to the point of going on a first date with them, there's usually a second.

 

 

I have had a couple before where there wasn't; those were both from online... in one case I was very not interested, in the other, neither of us were.