What old fashioned act would you bring back?

[Nikki Sahagin]

A lot of old fashioned courtesies and niceties have unfortunately gone the way of the dinosaur.

 

I'd love to see men come to the door to collect their dates rather than text or call them telling them they are outside. I think there's something really charming about your date coming to personally get you.

 

I also know that in Britain young boys used to 'doff' their caps to the elderly, which means to take the hat off and make a respectful gesture. Most of us younguns aren't respectful towards the elderly anyway which is ironic as most of us will live to be old so you'd think we'd want to sow good karmic seeds!

 

What would you bring back?

[GemmaUK]

I also know that in Britain young boys used to 'doff' their caps to the elderly, which means to take the hat off and make a respectful gesture. Most of us younguns aren't respectful towards the elderly anyway which is ironic as most of us will live to be old so you'd think we'd want to sow good karmic seeds!

 

 

You would be surprised, my Dad when he was old, infirm and walking slowly with a stick always got smiles/a hello/kindness from the younger lads with tattoos, piercings and crazy hair and clothes. They were true gentlemen.

 

 

Those who slammed doors in his face were middle aged women and men - in that order.

 

 

I would cut out texts and daily contact. I already ignore social media.

I like mystery and hate feeling smothered.

[Nikki Sahagin]

You would be surprised, my Dad when he was old, infirm and walking slowly with a stick always got smiles/a hello/kindness from the younger lads with tattoos, piercings and crazy hair and clothes. They were true gentlemen.

 

 

Those who slammed doors in his face were middle aged women and men - in that order.

 

 

I would cut out texts and daily contact. I already ignore social media.

I like mystery and hate feeling smothered.

 

I'm very surprised to hear that the middle aged women and men were the rudest - very surprised!

[genuinelyloverly7]

I miss knowing who my neighbors are. Having a real community within my geographical surroundings. Accepting the people in your community because they were your community. People these days are too paranoid or disinterested in one another. I kinda want to blame technology (tablets, phones, the like) but really it is the loss of patience and respect for other people's experiences and situations.

[d0nnivain]

True dating / courting, not this hanging out business.

 

I was watching a 1950s movie this morning & the guy was gushing about how there were big things coming up like the school dance & he was really hoping the girl might be available to go with him.

[regine_phalange]

I can think of several I like, but then again, I think I've encountered most of them in this era as well. They're mostly of romantic nature, like someone bringing me a flower, someone singing under my window or someone kissing my hand when we're introduced.

 

Oh, oh oh! I know what I want.

I want to send and receive letters

[Woggle]

People being able to think for themselves instead of always picking a side and sticking to it.

[Anela]

I miss people being able to be tactful/kind, without being shamed for being "politically correct".

 

I also miss being a part of a real community, and knowing my neighbours.

[SycamoreCircle]

Lttr wrtng. Lng, dscrptv sntncs.

 

Banishment of:

 

LOL

LMAO

ROFL

SMH

[Woggle]

Lttr wrtng. Lng, dscrptv sntncs.

 

Banishment of:

 

LOL

LMAO

ROFL

SMH

 

I am starting to hear people actually talk like that in regular conversation.

[SycamoreCircle]

I am starting to hear people actually talk like that in regular conversation.

Like, OMG 4real? Like that is SO NOT kewl. Not a H8R lol.

[todreaminblue]

old school dating for sure.....i remember when i wsas younger and dates i had were so gentlemanly they would offer me their arm to hold when i walked with them....i love that tradition...makes me feel ....i dont know...sort of beautiful...like the guy not only wants me to walk beside him which is a treat....but offers me his arm like i am special......it truly does make me feel..well...smilin...lol...beautiful....when i was a girl before my grandfather died ...when he was not so sick we went fro lunch at a club.....i was always left to walk behind because i walk slow ....but anyway...he stopped and waited for me he smiled .....offered em his arm and when i took it he curled my hand around his arm with his other hand.....and said...there you go little lady.....i wasnt an after thought...i was special....when dates used to do that with me and a twinkle in their eyes...it transported me......back to sweet memories....where my smile was always heartfelt...........deb

[todreaminblue]

Lttr wrtng. Lng, dscrptv sntncs.

 

Banishment of:

 

LOL

LMAO

ROFL

SMH

 

lol has its place...and so do ellipses.......lots of them between journeying sentences....i love description.......and hand written letters......deb

Edited January 15, 2015 by todreaminblue

[Anela]

old school dating for sure.....i remember when i wsas younger and dates i had were so gentlemanly they would offer me their arm to hold when i walked with them....i love that tradition...makes me feel ....i dont know...sort of beautiful...like the guy not only wants me to walk beside him which is a treat....but offers me his arm like i am special......it truly does make me feel..well...smilin...lol...beautiful....when i was a girl before my grandfather died ...when he was not so sick we went fro lunch at a club.....i was always left to walk behind because i walk slow ....but anyway...he stopped and waited for me he smiled .....offered em his arm and when i took it he curled my hand around his arm with his other hand.....and said...there you go little lady.....i wasnt an after thought...i was special....when dates used to do that with me and a twinkle in their eyes...it transported me......back to sweet memories....where my smile was always heartfelt...........deb

 

That's lovely.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Personally, I'd love to see it ALL come back in style. *sigh*

 

There was something so simple yet beautiful about how people connected back in the day particularly when it came to courting and relationships. That was probably one of the most shocking things I learned when I jumped back into the dating pool after having been away for 20 years. So few men know how to really treat a woman anymore. It's very disheartening

 

That and the fact that I may have been spoiled by my ex husband who was nothing if not one of the most chivalrous men I knew with a panache for old-school charm (apart from my dad of course).

 

Oh and the letter writing...another lost art I wish would make a triumphant return.

[AVarma]

, someone singing under my window

 

Be careful what you wish for. If a man really started singing under your window you would likely be freaked out and call the police.

[pink_sugar]

Chivalry towards women.

[littleblackheart]

I don't know, I may be a little too optimistic but I think it's still all there, if you know where to look.

 

 

I don't always think looking back to the old days is a good idea, and the people I'm lucky to have met (bar a few exceptions) have always been chivalrous and gallant and knew how to 'date' a lady with genuine intentions and the time to get to know one another.

[Els]

I don't know, I may be a little too optimistic but I think it's still all there, if you know where to look.

 

I agree - I haven't found chivalry lacking at all. To be fair I've not experienced the "ye olde England" variety (hat-doffing, offering arm, etc) as I've not been there, but IME other gestures of chivalry still exist.

 

But I do miss the age of letters! Or rather, I haven't even had the chance to experience writing proper letters. I used to collect stamps as a very young kid, loved them.

[Haydn]

I always leave the horse at home but i bring the stirrups.

[Toodaloo]

I also know that in Britain young boys used to 'doff' their caps to the elderly, which means to take the hat off and make a respectful gesture. Most of us younguns aren't respectful towards the elderly anyway which is ironic as most of us will live to be old so you'd think we'd want to sow good karmic seeds!

 

What would you bring back?

 

That hasn't happened for a really long time! Most kids don't wear caps these days to doff anyway! Some do still nod but thats mostly in the rural areas... Either that or they say hello.

 

Do people seriously text from the car to say they are outside? Have we got that bad? I have never done that nor have I ever had that done to me... Just bang on the door or stick your head round to say you are there. Its always nice to say hello to the other people in the house anyway so they know you are not a mass murderer...

 

Things I would like to come back include;

 

Opening doors for you

Carrying things for you

Helping you into your coat

Walking slowly so you can keep up rather than marching on!

Basic manners such as proper hellos and good byes.

Letters and thank you cards

Walking on the side where the traffic is passing...

 

I could go on. Its just basic manners and courtesy to be honest. I always hold the door if someone is behind me.

 

Sycamore - I don't understand your posts... I know "lol" and have used it but the rest? Sorry but I don't get it...

[littleblackheart]

I agree - I haven't found chivalry lacking at all. To be fair I've not experienced the "ye olde England" variety (hat-doffing, offering arm, etc) as I've not been there, but IME other gestures of chivalry still exist.

 

But I do miss the age of letters! Or rather, I haven't even had the chance to experience writing proper letters. I used to collect stamps as a very young kid, loved them.

 

I agree. I like letters too; both writing and receiving them - makes you feel a little more special.

 

 

And the hat-doffing and offering arms is still here! Not so much with the younger generation, although they still hold doors, leave their seats, offer to carry your suitcase and let you in in front of the queue - it's just that sometimes, we women aren't perhaps as appreciative as we could be. I really like it - I just think it's cute!.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Women again having to actually meet a standard instead of it being a free for all of criticism or critiques on men, only hearing women talk about what a man can't or doesn't do for her, not what she can do for him.

 

And having an attitude of self-respect and class within themselves, instead of acting like trash and making bad decisions, but still dreaming of a chivalrous white knight to come sweep them off their feet in some overly romanticized way, which why would a man feel inclined to do such a thing? For Miss I'm dating and sleeping with several men on OLD and determining which one I like best?

 

Because thats the reality of today's dating world and those men just get critiqued on where he takes her, what he does or did, etc...as if they're entitled and some kind of princess of purity. Why put her on a pedestal? For doing what?

 

If men treat women nowadays like the men of old, many women wouldn't even know how to react, they're much more accustomed to selling themselves cheap and likely don't even have that much respect for themselves, and would instead be more comfortable with someone more abusive, abrasive and generally less respectful.

 

Because I've never seen those guys do well, they just get used, even if they get the girl the idiot doesn't realize it's just for the perks, reliable love and attention she gets.

 

A lot of guys get dumped in the trash for trying to emulate what women say in this thread that they'd like to experience, but I think generally the quality in women has dropped more significantly than it has for men, the men are still there just generally not perfect and up to the woman's wildest dreams and expectations, but they weren't seen that way in the past...so she dumps him because she doesn't feel it, but I guess she gets to chalk it up in her book of good experiences.

 

But I hear men praise women with old fashioned values, they're just few and far inbetween. Most women these days are looking for the perfect men...while not exactly maintaining the same idealistic standard, but they think they deserve it anyway just for being their "special" selves. It's funny that women have this well crafted image of the perfect men, but then just themselves which conveniently meets that standard I suppose...what mirror?

 

With the things I've seen and known women personally do to good men, even for them it never changes what they feel entitled to...that's what wrong with women IMO these days...many have zero class or responsibility, only give a damn what happened to them, but when they hurt a guy or treat them poorly...it's like gee sorry buddy.

 

I'm glad I'm an @sshole, saved my heart and the trouble from what I've seen any guy who's tried to put on a pedestal...because Mr 50's guy gets burned at the stake in 2015. Never seen it go down any different.

 

Sorry ladies, but you don't deserve the pedestal anymore...."equality", remember?

[regine_phalange]

Be careful what you wish for. If a man really started singing under your window you would likely be freaked out and call the police.

 

Someone did, but I happened not to be there

[contact1]

Not that I am dating, but probably the thing I would miss the most is getting to actually know someone by just meeting. In this time, I read how people do all these background and google searches, getting all the information about someone before they even date, what the heck do you talk about on the date when you already know so much about one another?

 

OH I know, what happened to the good old day when you would have an entire meal cooked from scratch from a female to win a man's heart? and I mean all like, including a freshly baked pie, mmmhhmmm.