strawberrypie77 Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 I have been married to my husband for fifteen years to many details to list. He abandon and left me and my kids on Father's Day. 2013. I'm almost certain his elderly but strong angry and selfish mother whom I forgive has something to do with it. First of he says he didn't abandon me and our kids because he had to leave because of to much arguing. He justifies it. Any way to make a long story short i took him back after six months apart even though he told me on the phone he was never coming back. Now here is what really bothers me the other night he fell fast asleep on the couch and I'm not a hundred percent possitive but I thought he was mumbling a name also it ccould be imagination because I'm traumatized by the fact that a woman's number called four months after he came back. And he never admitted anything about person hasn't called back. Anyway I thought since he was sleeping and maybe mumbling a name I would say my name to find out what he says and he said WHY DO YOU WANNA KNOW ABOUT HER and I was shocked and heartbroken then I said do you love blank my name AND HE SAID NO I DONT with no feeling no conscious i couldn't believe it. After that he said he was asleep didn't know what he was saying he didnt mean it he loves me. Does anyone know if a person really knows what they are saying in a good sleep when you ask him/her questions. Please no cruel answers this is a sense tube situation. Link to post Share on other sites
BrighterDays21 Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 First off, as a woman who is struggling emotionally at the hands of a husband, I want to say I'm sorry you're going thru that. I've read somewhere that dreams are true emotions of the heart and that you're not tapped into that area of the brain where you can like. Lying is a conscious act. I truly believe if a person loves you they wouldn't do things to hurt you and if he sees you in pain, he'd do all he could to fix the hurt. That's just my opinion and where my thoughts have led me. Of course it's up to you to decide. Link to post Share on other sites
Tocook Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 if he sees you in pain, he'd do all he could to fix the hurt. I can't agree with this statement more. There are people out there who love their spouse but do things that hurt them for selfish, cowardess, insensitive reasons. The true test of love is whether or not they can admit their wrong doing, and even if it's not their fault, do whatever is in their power to make their loved one feel better. It's not a good sign that your husband is saying another woman's name, even if it's in his sleep. Maybe he doesn't love her and he really does love you, after fifteen years it's impossible for the love to be completely gone. But you possibly uncovered something that you need to look more into. Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Personally, I would be less concerned with what he says when he's asleep and more concerned with how he acts toward you when he's awake. It's his actions, not his words, that I would pay most attention to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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