I'm sad

[Lear]

Sorry for being so whiny but I don't know how else to talk to.

 

Have you ever experienced the feeling that suddenly everything feels not quite right anymore and you start questionin basically every step you have ever taken? (this sounds more dramatic than I intended it to sound, sorry)

I was happy a few weeks ago (really happy) and the circumstances haven't changed at all. I just can't stop my mind from overthinking every damn thing.

It doesn't help that my boyfriend is so busy preparing for his upcoming exams that we don't see each other often at the moment. And I don't want to bother him with being whiny for no reason. I don't even know why I'm feeling like this.

 

It's like everybody is suddenly trying to convince me that I have problems when I didn't think I did.

 

I tell people that I don't want to have "real" sex with my bf, they tell me that I'm probably not really attracted to men and just going through a phase and that it's unfair to keep the relationship going.

 

I keep contact with my mentally unstable ex-girlfriend and people tell me it's unfair doing this behind my boyfriend's back. (even though it was completely platonic)

 

I mention to a friend that I feel best when I'm high and she freaks out and thinks I have a drug problem. (Which I know is completely untrue but still unsettled me.)

 

I tell people that I feel I'm not doing enough with my life and that I haven't exctaly chosen the most promising career option anyway and suddenly everyone tells me that I should think about doing something else. Which I don't want, and also I'm not good at anything, so I wouldn't know what to do.

 

I just feel really stressed out any I don't even really know why. Maybe I'm just getting sick and that's why I'm feeling weird (I've been feeling slighly nauseous for days and it seems to become worse when I think too much.)

 

I'm sorry for being so whiny. I'd really like to talk to my boyfriend but he's under enough pressure already and doesn't need my whinyness on top of that.

[Van AZN]

Our circumstances are dissimilar, but I hope you find what you're looking for. When I have that despair while everything around me hasn't changed, I turn to meditation and re-focusing my life goals.

 

Mindfulness and Focusing does wonders for the mind and soul.

 

Good Luck!

[Frivolous]

I have suffered with depression and in the end decided to take antidepressants. Thankfully after some time it came really good and I started feeling more normal than I had done in years.

 

It has been about 2 years now and I'm still happy. However since new year I have felt similar to what you have said.

 

From my experience it feels like a mild wave of depression but so I am considering all the triggers. At the moment I'm just thinking cold weather, lack of social interaction, little money.

 

Hopefully it is just a wave and it will pass after some warmer weather, couple of pay checks and visits to friends etc.

 

So I'd say give it

some time and things will improve

[The Poster]

As I've gotten older the most important thing I've discovered in life is that nothing else matters except happiness. Money, possessions, social status, all that stuff that I used to think were the most important things, really mean nothing if you're not happy.

 

I'd rather be broke and happy than rich and unhappy. I'd rather have one amazing friend than fifty subpar friends.

 

The key is finding what makes you happy. Finding what makes your soul sing and keeps you warm, and don't let anyone try to tell you it's not good enough. I know people who have everything and still aren't happy and I know people who have nothing and are always smiling and upbeat.

 

I wish you the best of luck in finding what makes you happy, and I wish you peace and strength in accepting it and not letting anyone try to convince you otherwise.

[littleblackheart]

Sorry for being so whiny but I don't know how else to talk to.

 

Have you ever experienced the feeling that suddenly everything feels not quite right anymore and you start questionin basically every step you have ever taken? (this sounds more dramatic than I intended it to sound, sorry)

I was happy a few weeks ago (really happy) and the circumstances haven't changed at all. I just can't stop my mind from overthinking every damn thing.

It doesn't help that my boyfriend is so busy preparing for his upcoming exams that we don't see each other often at the moment. And I don't want to bother him with being whiny for no reason. I don't even know why I'm feeling like this.

 

It's like everybody is suddenly trying to convince me that I have problems when I didn't think I did.

 

I tell people that I don't want to have "real" sex with my bf, they tell me that I'm probably not really attracted to men and just going through a phase and that it's unfair to keep the relationship going.

 

I keep contact with my mentally unstable ex-girlfriend and people tell me it's unfair doing this behind my boyfriend's back. (even though it was completely platonic)

 

I mention to a friend that I feel best when I'm high and she freaks out and thinks I have a drug problem. (Which I know is completely untrue but still unsettled me.)

 

I tell people that I feel I'm not doing enough with my life and that I haven't exctaly chosen the most promising career option anyway and suddenly everyone tells me that I should think about doing something else. Which I don't want, and also I'm not good at anything, so I wouldn't know what to do.

 

I just feel really stressed out any I don't even really know why. Maybe I'm just getting sick and that's why I'm feeling weird (I've been feeling slighly nauseous for days and it seems to become worse when I think too much.)

 

I'm sorry for being so whiny. I'd really like to talk to my boyfriend but he's under enough pressure already and doesn't need my whinyness on top of that.

 

You're not whiny, and you shouldn't have to apologise for feeling the way you feel. Sometimes it can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel Lear, I know that all too well, and at my age I've also often felt the way you feel now. It's all worth it, though. The good, the bad and the ugly. You make bad choices sometimes but the good ones you make outshine them all. It's in the small things (you boyfriend will finish his exam soon), it's in the big things (your new career path), but more importantly it's all in your mind - you can be happy if you wanted too. I won't tell you my life story, and some may say I don't have much to be happy about, but I still feel happy and grateful everyday for being able to enjoy the simple things in life.

 

 

I'm sending a lot of virtual hugs and positive thoughts your way, and hope you find a way to chin up and see that life isn't that bad, after all.