Hija77 Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 My ex and I dated for 5 years. We were apart for another 5, and then got back together for 2 more years. HUGE MISTAKE!!! Unless both people are willing to put in the effort to change what wasn't working before, you're doomed. I will never, ever get back with an ex again. Some things, once broken, can't be made right. Link to post Share on other sites
rossini Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 In the early stages of a reconciliation currently. Things are going well so far. I feel much more wary this time.... I think you lose that innocent joy you have first time around You are damn right! We got back together but I miss the innocence and purity we had before. It' not just Love that makes a relation.. Link to post Share on other sites
Antares Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 (edited) A friend of mine was w her bf for a few years and then broke up with him. She soon got into another relationship w a guy that lasted about 2 years and then broke up w/ him. Dated around for a bit. Ended up in another relationship with another man and that lasted 6 months. That relationship soured quickly and I guess she just realized one day that the original bf from 2+ years prior was someone she deeply missed and thought about constantly. After she broke up with the 6 month guy, she mulled it over for a few months and she contacted the original exBF. They slowly started speaking again, they had lunch...and then started dating again. They were separated for almost 3 years. They've been dating for about 1.5 years now since getting back together and plan on moving in soon. So yeah, I think that the longer NC/Break up periods, ones that are over a year or more, have the better chance at a stronger reconciliation. Both parties need to move on w their lives, the dust needs to settle, the emotions set back to sq one, before something can really start again. Edited January 30, 2015 by Antares 3 Link to post Share on other sites
toffeecream77 Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 A guy I recently dated told me about the story of his best friend, who at the age of 30, broke up with his girlfriend of one year because he didn't feel like he was experienced or had 'lived' yet much. So he broke up with her and slept around, but after a year, wasn't enjoying it and went back to his ex who accepted him. They since married and have a baby. Another story I have is of my girlfriend. Dated a guy for a few years, but again he didn't feel ready to settle (despite proposing) and they were on and off for a year or two but now he's moved abroad, he's asked her to join him and she's considering it. So it does happen. Probably a lot more than people think, but I think success is higher beyond age of early-mid 20s. Link to post Share on other sites
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