EverLastluv Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Hello everyone, My life is all about me and my 13yr old daughter. sometimes I feel so alone and sad that I dont have a family. My daughter dont have aunt/uncle/cus to hang out with. I feel bad for her. The Good news is she dont care cause she is so loved by her friends, friends mom and their family. I am so thankful that my sweetheart has such a great personality that everone loves her My mom and dad past 3years ago, I have 3 brothers. My dad/mom side of the family only call when some one past away or getting married. Years will past and I would not hear from my cusins. I find it so strange that my family act that way. The ONLY reason I figured why they dont contact me is because they considered them self rich & famous lol they only mixed with people thats on their angle. For me I am just simple and normal and very happy with that. My brothers all married with kids. They all live in the same area 5 minutes away. They never comes over to visit. Their only provide for their wife and their wife families. I am their only sister, but in their book i DONT exist. This is the most sadest of all on Thanksgiving my three brothers did NOT call to say " happy thanksgiving, You invited to come over" My daughter and I was home alone and we stay together. she ask why her uncle did not invite us all I cas say is baby they probably not in towne for the holiday Christmas came still no phone call. All I get was a text from the middle brother asking to stop in to drop a pan of cake off that he baked. I simply text back and say " very kind of you but I am not celebrating this year" He tex back and say " well let me know when you start celebrating again" I was like wow. That was it, no more contact or any contact from the other brothers. New years came, None of the say Happy new year. lol I am truly amazed of the family I have. I wonder if thre is anyone out there feel the same like me ? honestly from everyone I know in my life their family meant so much to them. Just so sad my family act like I dont exist. Update, I have been devorce for 10 years now. Never married back. still hoping for that day to marry back into a beautiful family Oh regarding my friends they all old timer friends that married, devorce and marry back and live all over the world. So I have no close friends to hang out with the say hello once upon a time. MY Job friends stay at the Job, I dont mix with personal life. Thats my life, and I am thankful for my beautiful daughter and I am quite content with my life that my bills is paid and dont need to take a man to JUST pay my bill. still looking for my true love Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 My husband's parents passed away by the time he was 30. Most of his relatives are spread out in other states, so we mostly see my family. I also have a friend who has no family in this country whatsoever, but she does have a lot of friends. I think you need to get involved somehow to meet more people and make some friends. Meetup dot com is great for meeting people in your area with common interest. Also think of volunteering or getting active in some sort of cause. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EverLastluv Posted January 15, 2015 Author Share Posted January 15, 2015 My husband's parents passed away by the time he was 30. Most of his relatives are spread out in other states, so we mostly see my family. I also have a friend who has no family in this country whatsoever, but she does have a lot of friends. I think you need to get involved somehow to meet more people and make some friends. Meetup dot com is great for meeting people in your area with common interest. Also think of volunteering or getting active in some sort of cause. hey pink sugar, I find my self sooo busy. Volunteering can not be fit into my work schedule probably when I retire some years from now. On the weekends I stay home cause most of the people I know in my age group is married. They busy with their husband/kids/family. Just the thought of family that not there for me bothers me somewhat. I hope within the next years of my life I would get used to it lol probably when I find a new husband I would be part of his family. I dont know yet who the new husband would be hehe Thanks for your respond Take care Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 I am wondering if you have reached out to them? Have you invited them over for dinner or asked to stop in to say hello? You said when your brother offered to stop in you said no because you don't celebrate Christmas. Could he have come anyway if only for the visit? How do you reach out to them? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EverLastluv Posted January 16, 2015 Author Share Posted January 16, 2015 I am wondering if you have reached out to them? Have you invited them over for dinner or asked to stop in to say hello? You said when your brother offered to stop in you said no because you don't celebrate Christmas. Could he have come anyway if only for the visit? How do you reach out to them? I sure did. starting from my little brother I called and invite him over since thanksgiving all he keep saying was ok ok ok . The holidays past and gone, never seen him. My older brother I ask him come over (the wife couldnt) for my birthay in sep last year he never show up, I took it upon my self to take food and cake over to them. I invite him for my daughter b-day the same thing, the wife cant come my brother stay home. (I always invite all of them, wife nephew and him). My middle brither the same. He never come over cause his wife cant come. The reason I did not accept christmas cake is because of thanksgiving, (I feel hurt that he did not acknowledge me as a family) He nevercall or invite me over. I can always say thanks for the offer but never did he ask. My brothers never come over my home for thanksgiving they alway stay home with their family. thanks for asking Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 What do you do to reach out to them? Did they just simply not respond when you reached out and wished them a happy Thanks Giving and Happy Christmas and Happy New Year? I take it you did....?? I have one brother, my sis in law and beautiful and niece on the other side of the world and lost my Mum just before my 18th birthday and my Dad just before my 34th birthday. My brother and his family have a very full life and very full social circle and if I don't reach out to them then they think I don't want contact. I love them all to bits. My brother and my niece came to stay for a few days in November before they took a trip round Europe (my brother's secret present to my 17 year old niece - she had no idea where she was going aside from shopping in London and Paris...hehe!) and it was wonderful to see them. We were all in tears and unable to speak when they left. Close yourself off and you are simply just..... closing yourself off. Saying 'I'm not celebrating' will cut a person off completely. I didn't celebrate Christmas much at all but I sloathed out watching documentaries on Netflix and had a great day! I told my bro all about the docs I watched and he has given in and has now got Netflix (well...my niece reaaaalllly wanted it!!) I did just what I wanted to do. If you are not reaching out you cannot expect them to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 I sure did. starting from my little brother I called and invite him over since thanksgiving all he keep saying was ok ok ok . The holidays past and gone, never seen him. My older brother I ask him come over (the wife couldnt) for my birthay in sep last year he never show up, I took it upon my self to take food and cake over to them. I invite him for my daughter b-day the same thing, the wife cant come my brother stay home. (I always invite all of them, wife nephew and him). My middle brither the same. He never come over cause his wife cant come. The reason I did not accept christmas cake is because of thanksgiving, (I feel hurt that he did not acknowledge me as a family) He nevercall or invite me over. I can always say thanks for the offer but never did he ask. My brothers never come over my home for thanksgiving they alway stay home with their family. thanks for asking What do you actively do to stay in touch in between special occasion times? How much of you and your life do you share? Sounds like you are busy busy so life must be interesting. My brother writes a journal type thing a couple of times a year to update me and his friends over here and anyone and everyone. He left the UK almost 15 years ago and we met up with 24 of his school friends when he was here for a night out (I have known three of them since I was 3 years old!! . My bro is 52 btw. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EverLastluv Posted January 16, 2015 Author Share Posted January 16, 2015 (edited) @Gemmuk, thought you said "you did not reach out for wat ever reaseon" but indeed they did surprise you after all. I have reached out all the time, my brothers are marriend with families. I am the only one thats single. Didnt understand why they could not check if their sister is still alife? ( I am their only sister). Thanks p.s my mom/dad past away. I have only 3 brothers. Edited January 16, 2015 by EverLastluv Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 @Gemmuk, thought you said "you did not reach out for wat ever reaseon" but indeed they did surprise you after all. I have reached out all the time, my brothers are marriend with families. I am the only one thats single. Didnt understand why they could not check if their sister is still alife? ( I am their only sister). Thanks p.s my mom/dad past away. I have only 3 brothers. You have a huge family compared to me. I think it counts what you reach out with. I've pm'd you xx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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