Afraid to sleep

[Omei]

Not sure where to put this it feels better talking about it

 

Lately ive been having graphic dreams about someone hurting my seven year old daughter it seems to be a made up male, this has got me terrified and afraid to sleep once I wake up I try but its just not happening.

 

Its effecting me, im being paranoid before bed at night ive been shoving a door stopper under my apartment door that already has a lock.

 

And yesterday when a older man tried to talk to me I felt very afraid and moved seats on the bus

 

This has been happening only the last few nights and its been only on my work nights which has been making it annoying because im tired.

 

Its like 3:51 am right now =/

Edited January 16, 2015 by Omei

[regine_phalange]

Not sure where to put this it feels better talking about it

 

Lately ive been having graphic dreams about someone hurting my seven year old daughter it seems to be a made up male, this has got me terrified and afraid to sleep once I wake up I try but its just not happening.

 

Its effecting me, im being paranoid before bed at night ive been shoving a door stopper under my apartment door that already has a lock.

 

And yesterday when a older man tried to talk to me I felt very afraid and moved seats on the bus

 

This has been happening only the last few nights and its been only on my work nights which has been making it annoying because im tired.

 

Its like 3:51 am right now =/

 

This sounds awful. Do you have a reason to be afraid it may really happen or you just suffer during the dream?

Dreams can have a big impact in our daily mood. I understand. Do you think a lot before going to bed?

[Omei]

This sounds awful. Do you have a reason to be afraid it may really happen or you just suffer during the dream?

Dreams can have a big impact in our daily mood. I understand. Do you think a lot before going to bed?

 

 

There's no reason I can think of we live alone in our two bedroom, there's only 4 ppl per floor so im really close to my neighbors, were also in the suburb area and there's additional secured door that requires another key to get in besides just your apartment door key so were pretty darn safe.

 

Yet I do the door stopper thing as if someone's going to bust in on us while im sleeping.

 

I do think a lot before bed but its not about what is happening in my dreams

[WonderWoman911]

I know these dreams can be terrifying to you,especially since you're keep having them. I'm a person who have crazy and weird types of dreams from time to time, and I always seem to analyze it and understand its meaning. And once I ponder on it, there is always some type of truth from it in some type of way. That's just a gift that I have.For starters for you, if you don't already, I would get an alarm system. This can give you a little more type of security than your door stopper. Two, I would talk to your daughter to make sure no one is messing with her. Is she going to a daycare or friend of the family house? How about her school or any neighbors that may seem suspicious? Just carefully think about everything. You're keep having these dreams, so it's a reason for it. The dream you are continuously having are not typical everyday dreams.

Edited January 16, 2015 by WonderWoman911

[spiderowl]

Have you seen or heard something recently that might have made you think of this? Has your daughter said something to you that stuck in your mind? Have you had any experiences of sexual abuse yourself that maybe makes you more afraid it might happen to her?

 

Could it be that she is reaching an age where she is becoming more independent and spending more time away from you - with her friends, at social groups, school - situations where you cannot be there to watch her and protect her. Maybe her growing independence makes you feel she is more vulnerable than the baby/toddler stage?

[Omei]

Ive never been sexually abused

And the dreams arnt about that its dark and disturbing involving torcher and pain

 

I wouldnt talk to my child about someone messing with her over a dream I had because her behavior hasn't changed shes still the always happy kid.

 

It may be the independant thing thats possible my daughter gos to the cabin (my parents house) every weekend but shes been doing that ever since she could walk, I trust my parents 100% as I remember their parenting and fully agree with their ways I have pretty much based my parenting skills off theirs there's is a little something that's always kind of bothered me my parents have friends who has all the children in their family come down to the lake every second weekend my daughter loves this shes friends with those children and I trust my parents judgment in their friends but the mother kinda lets them run lose and wild my dad always complains about her ways ive met this woman various times shes real laid back but I don't truly know her and her husband but my parents have for so many years it does bother me sometimes when my parents let them babysit im never there to see what gos on so sometimes I wonder but I have met them and all the kids enjoy each other and my parents love my daughter so very much I know they would never unless they had full trust.

 

My daughter is beyond thrilled to go each time and I know that if something was happening to her that wouldnt be the case.

 

I think a alarm system is too much for an apartment where I can see the door down the hall from my bed if someone was to ever break in an alarm system doesn't make them freeze I do the doorstopper because in my mind id have 7-10 extra seconds to find something to defend myself while they try to shimy the door open, idk im weird.

 

I do often very often think about how id feel if something happened to my daughter she's everything to me she fills me up with every ounce of happiness and love I could ever have so I often hope that nothing tragic ever comes to her in her lifetime. Maybe I worry too much!

[spiderowl]

I'm sorry, they sound like horrible dreams. It could be general anxiety. I get patches like that where all sorts of fears appear to surface from nowhere and bug me for days; it's like becoming oversensitive and feeling extra vulnerable for a while. If it goes on for a long time, you might want to think about seeing a therapist to talk about it, or your doc to see if anti-anxiety medications might help. There's no harm in increasing your security measures if it helps you to sleep.

[Omei]

I'm sorry, they sound like horrible dreams. It could be general anxiety. I get patches like that where all sorts of fears appear to surface from nowhere and bug me for days; it's like becoming oversensitive and feeling extra vulnerable for a while. If it goes on for a long time, you might want to think about seeing a therapist to talk about it, or your doc to see if anti-anxiety medications might help. There's no harm in increasing your security measures if it helps you to sleep.

 

Oh yeah? Do you really think anxiety feels this way?

 

I would of never thought to have it and would think about meds

 

I have had patches before where they come and go and im normal again

[spiderowl]

It can. I have a friend who's started feeling anxious recently. She also has patches of it where she starts to think of all the disastrous things that can happen and feels worried about being alone, etc. It can seem to come out of the blue. If nothing specific has triggered warning signals that your daughter is a risk, it could be generalised anxiety. Do you feel anxious about other things as well?

[Omei]

It can. I have a friend who's started feeling anxious recently. She also has patches of it where she starts to think of all the disastrous things that can happen and feels worried about being alone, etc. It can seem to come out of the blue. If nothing specific has triggered warning signals that your daughter is a risk, it could be generalised anxiety. Do you feel anxious about other things as well?

 

I think it was just some kind of anxiety as they have stopped now, maybe things that worry me just really effect because now that I think about it I often have dreams about things that worry me and then they come true when I sleep.