WonderKid Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 You are not deluding yourself you are believing yourself. What doesn't look good for someone will look great to someone else. If you don't love yourself you cannot do much good when getting into the dating game. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 Have you visited a bank about getting approved for a mortgage? There are options with low down payments. Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 See when people need a loan; they put on a suit, and go crawling to the bank! Link to post Share on other sites
Author verhrzn Posted January 22, 2015 Author Share Posted January 22, 2015 Have you visited a bank about getting approved for a mortgage? There are options with low down payments. Yeah. 'Fraid I make too much money to qualify for assistance as a first-time buyer, but am too poor to actually be able to afford the down payment. It's a weird middle ground... Link to post Share on other sites
chumble Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 Buying a house doesn't always make sense financially anyway. Without someone to share in it, it's kind of just a big empty box. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 Why all this talk on your body? I am thin and have an absolutely banging body and I have not found the right guy yet. I was the only person out of 30 people at my family Christmas who was SINGLE. Guess what? My cousin is a newly wed and he is MADLY in love with his fat Mexican wife! I am MUCH more attractive than her societies standards but hey, she found a husband and they were SO obviously madly in love! Link to post Share on other sites
Author verhrzn Posted January 22, 2015 Author Share Posted January 22, 2015 Buying a house doesn't always make sense financially anyway. Without someone to share in it, it's kind of just a big empty box. Well the house is mostly so I can stop dealing with the hassle of renting with a dog. It is so incredibly difficult to find a decent and affordable place that allows dogs, and the ones that do sometimes have extensive breed and weight restrictions. Also I love to paint and DIY my spaces, and rental agencies tend to frown on that. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 A house would mean I could have 2 dogs without constantly worrying about renting/having to worry about breed-weight restrictions/if the landlord is going to kick me out for some totally normal pet behavior. I could paint the walls and do home improvement projects that I enjoy. Marriage would mean someone to help carry the burdens with, someone to share every day excitement with and have fun conversations with and explore sexy things with. Essentially, a best friend who I also want to bang. Marriage (as opposed to just dating) would mean I get to see the person every day and feel we are committed to each other for the foreseeable future. Children would mean someone I can introduce the world to, someone who I could teach and be taught by, and who I'd get to see grow and mature and learn and experience whole different parts of the world than me. Pretty standard stuff. - There are places in the country where you can buy a house for quite cheap. Even in places where the houses don't come cheap... you can get a great deal if you are willing to take on a fixer-upper. (I love 'Rehab Addict' on HGTV!!). This is how I managed to afford a very nice house, in a beautiful historic district, that will be paid off in about 5 years. I did most of the work myself, and saved a ton of money. - Marriage is a worthy goal, but maybe focus on building a life with someone? Marriage (as you know) doesn't guarantee you will have a partner, and it may even keep you from doing some other things you like if you pick unwisely. I speak from experience on that... It sounds like you are looking for a life-partner. Maybe focus on that first? The rest will take care of itself. - and about kids... there are lots of ways to be part of a child's life. Big Brothers/Big Sisters... YMCA/YWCA... camp counselors... foster parenting (which has no age restrictions, by the way). I know it is not the same as having your own kids...But it is a way to have that need filled... and will put you in the social circle of people who also love children. A good friend of mine met her now husband while volunteering for Big Brothers/Big Sisters... she was in her mid-thirties, never married, and had basically given up on having a family of her own. They met, married, and she has two kids now. Link to post Share on other sites
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