Was dating but now friends

[supertrooper257]

Hello everyone, I met this girl online and we decided to meet. A week after we first met we decided to start dating and the dating lasted for about 4 weeks. We get along great and are very compatible in many ways. We have very similar personalities and interests. Over the course of the 4 weeks we were intimate and had sex, all that good stuff. Going back to compatibility, so far we are spot on. Personality, sexually, interests, everything is almost spot on with being compatible. We genuinely have a lot of fun together. This is where things get weird. A few days ago(at the end of the 4 weeks dating) she broke it off and said that even though she really likes me, she just doesn't have the "butterfly feelings" and that she wishes she did have those feelings and that we should just be friends for now. She explained that during the 4 weeks her feelings were confused but now she says she figured how she feels(which is the just friends). I understand where she's coming from, but there's stuff that just doesn't add up, which I'll get to later. To add more to the previous topic, she is going through some problems. She has PTSD from a traumatic childhood experience and says that she isn't looking for a relationship until she deals with this. A little side note to that, she said that even if she did have those butterfly feelings for me she'd still have us take a break while she deals with this and we would pickup afterwards. Now onto the stuff that doesn't add up, I get that she could have confused feelings but the thing is confused feelings don't let you go for 4 weeks of having sex and being intimate. There is something more there even if she doesn't realize it. Another thing to add to this from my perspective is that I can feel that there is something different between us, something special if you will. This isn't a feeling of attraction or anything like that. This is a feeling of I can just tell that there is something special between us. I guess you could say it's instincts. It's a feeling of where you can tell that two people have a special connection. Which btw, being able to tell that connection between people is something I'm really good at. Just so you don't think that this is some random thing I'm putting in just for us. My main theory on why this happened is the fact that we immediately started dating instead of building a friendship first. Instead of knowing each other, trusting each other, knowing each other better and having that foundation that should be there before you try a relationship with someone. I really think that had a huge effect. Even though we get along amazingly, we were sexual and intimate, outside of talking online we've only known each other for a month. I think that not having the time of knowing each other, even though we are amazing together and all that jazz, hampered the ability for feelings to develop. I'm not saying the ability isn't there, I'm just saying that we basically rushed it. I'm sure I forgot some stuff but it will come up in conversation if this post actually gets attention. I'm looking for real conversation about this. Ask questions, give advice, tell me your take on it. Anyway, thanks for your time.

Edited January 18, 2015 by supertrooper257