evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 DO NOT be her 'friend'. Being her friend is not what is best for you, right now. You have an agenda and you'll hang onto every word she says, in the hope she will come back to you sooner than planned. You MUST go No Contact. It's the only way to stay sane, move on and retain your self-esteem and dignity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
towardthefuture Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 i believe her as much as i dont want to i do. its just something thats been a problem quite regular during it is that i was texting her to much. so i guess it got to much! im happy atm i just want her back as well! im happy being her friend as then i know where i stand! whatever happens happens! I believe her. she wants you to be her gay best friend, not her boyfriend. She basically told you that straight up. In six months she's going to ask you for tips on how to give her new boyfriend better blowjobs. Have some self respect dude. Just move on. Or be her girlfriend, I don't know you. Maybe you're cool with that. Whatever floats your boat. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jake2495 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Share Posted January 18, 2015 im in no contact but i want to be her friend in the future! Link to post Share on other sites
runredlights Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 Read page 3 of the famous gigs article by capital P. Do what he says. Get your balls back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 im in no contact but i want to be her friend in the future! Oh. no problem in the future! But you have to wait until you feel what's known as 'benign indifference'. When you can see her in the arms of another man, looking adoringly into his eyes and holding his baby, and thinking only "meh, I'm really glad for her... I must buy some tomatoes".... In other words when seeing you doesn't affect you emotionally so that you have backslides.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 she did say shed marry me in 2-3 years, and she said shes thought about the future, apparently i text her to much and she thinks being broken up will allow her to realise its not all bad being with me! I'm sorry, but that's not how it works!!! She's messing with you, wants you to be there for her, in case she needs you for any reason. That's very selfish of her. Think about it a bit more deeply. If you were her, will you do what she's doing to you? (according to love) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 i guess. i just know her so well and she said that when she was with me, n the smae room doing things, she didnt ever want it to end and she couldnt do it so we kinda just said it was mutual even though she instigated it Oh, whether she knows it or not, this was a masterful bit of manipulation on her part. She got you to take equal responsibility for a mutual breakup that she wanted and you didn't. That way, you can't make any complaint, can't make any requests or demands or anything, because she will just come back to you with "Hey, you wanted this too, remember?" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jake2495 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Share Posted January 18, 2015 i personally would do it if i had tried everything else and it was hopeless i would have to do it. but i would of suggested a break which i think is what she meant but i over reacted and caused it! Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 A break = a break-UP. There's no such thing as a break. it gives the lazy partner a way out. Either way, she would have taken the ball and run with it. Fast. And far away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jake2495 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Share Posted January 18, 2015 im sure it will all be fine! just got to stick with it! and see where it takes me! whatever happens happens! Link to post Share on other sites
Jake1234 Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 me and you are in pretty much the same boat! im 3 weeks in and i want to be friends and get her back butttt its better to try and move on! its okay to want them but go no contact and get back to her once a month or so and see what she does. if she replys then just chat as friends if not then go no contact again! i wish you the best of luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
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