I'm thankful for...

[fivejcb]

Right now just glad to be alive, and that every morning brings a new day.

[Satu]

I'm thankful for every chance I get to fly.

[Ruby Slippers]

I'm very thankful that I'm back in a place with weather that allowed me to start playing tennis about a month ago. I'm thankful that I'm getting my tennis legs back

 

I'm very thankful that I have the freedom to take breaks from work to play piano! It's always hard to focus on Fridays. I recently got my keyboard set up again, and I'm learning

right now. Next I'm gonna learn

. Usher did a nice cover of this at the Grammys, with Stevie joining in on harmonica at the end, which is what reminded me of what a beautiful song it is. Definitely feeling dreamy lately

 

I didn't get to take lessons as a kid, but I just became friends with this sweet old lady down the street who travels the world singing in religious performances. She gave piano lessons for years, and loaned me her teaching book to inspire me to get back to practicing. She said she'd be glad to help me with anything I need - on her lovely baby grand piano. Very thankful for that!

 

I'm thankful that several old friends from Chicago that I've kind of lost touch with got in touch with me this week - all in the same week, telling me they miss me. Good news for us is that I'll be visiting Chicago this summer and will get to see them.

 

Lots of good mojo in my life lately, and for that I am thankful!

[thestaircase]

I am THANKFUL for having Ms. Ruby Slippers as my friend here in this Forum. And very THANKFUL for her giving me helpful and informative advice about childhood trauma, love, relationship, marriage.

THANK YOU for being patience to read my thread, which contains tons of bad English grammars due to English is not my first language.

I have the tendency to over-analyze things, you can see from how much I dissect my own husband. I think I rip my husband up and dissect everything he do, lol

Thank you for being patience with me, you are a very kind heart woman. Good Karma will come to good people like you.

 

 

Talking about astrology, this is what he said about Gemini women and Cancer women. I be frank, seem like you are the perfect wife.

And a Gemini woman like me is too independent for any man, lol

 

Uh... me, the Gemini women:

Gemini women are intelligent: [They are typically clever, knowledgeable, and excellent communicators. They are often quite inquisitive and quick thinkers.] -------- I don't think I'm intelligent, I think I'm stupid. BUT I sure see things in big picture, and I leave 'exit" for myself and for my own husband.

 

Gemini women are carefree: [They are usually fun to be around and are unlikely to be clingy or high maintenance.] -------- This is true, I am NOT clingy at all. Never once I cling to my husband. He would be thrilled if his wife cling on him, but I dont' think he will ever get that out from me.

And I'm not high mantennace. I'm good to go with just jeans, shirt and simple pair of high heels.

 

Gemini women are very independent: [They do not like to be pinned down by anyone or anything. Freedom is extremely important to Gemini women.] ------- This is 1000000% TRUE for me. It could be from my Gemini sign, or it could just be from my childhood/background.

 

Gemini women tend to be very good communicators: [They are clever with words and very talkative. They are often social butterflies.] ------- Well, I'm an extrovert, I do love to talk. I lay everything out on the table for my husband to know prior to marriage. Everything, completely everything. From my childhood to sex to how we going to handle financial after marriage.

This actually help alot in maintain my marriage, because he step in the marriage knowing exactly what he going to get out of it.

 

 

Now to the lovely Cancer women:

Cancer women are deeply caring and sympathetic: [They are kind hearted and have a natural instinct for nurturing. They are good at making other people feel comfortable and providing support.] -------- Just like you Ms. Ruby Slippers, I think you make a great wife and great mother from these traits.

 

Cancer women are often sensitive and emotional: [it is not rare for Cancer women to have lots of mood swings. They can also be very sentimental. However, they often hide their emotions behind a shell of indifference and act tough on the outside.] -------- I don't get the mood swing vibe from your posting here.

BUT my Cancer best friend sure have mood swing. She phone me and cries on the phone; cries and cries over her boyfriend doesn't want to married her. I don't mind her event or cries over the phone, I got monthly unlimited plan on my cell phone, lol

She sure have more feminine traits than me. To me cries is like lose a war battle. To me cries is like surrender. No way I will cries in front of anyone, not even to my husband.

 

Cancer women are typically passionate and sweet: -------- I think this is very true for you Ms. Ruby Slippers, this help alot in relationship and marriage. I think any man would be lucky to married you.

 

Many Cancer women are shy: [They can be fear rejection. Sometimes they may become a little clingy.] -------- I don't get the shy vibe from your post.

 

Cancer women are extremely loyal: [They are very unlikely to betray their friends or be unfaithful in a relationship. Stability in relationships is very important to them.] -------- This is good traits for being a wife. Any man would be lucky to have a Cancer wife. I think my husband would be much more happy if he have a Cancer wife.

 

I'm testing my husband love again, let see how long can he handle a Gemini wife like me.

And I'm thankful for having an awesome husband! He sure is too extreme and intense when it come to love, but overall he is a good guy. And I'm thankful for finding a good guy, which is not easy to find in this days and age.

Edited May 6, 2015 by thestairs

[thestaircase]

Ms. Ruby Slippers,

I have 2 articles link for you, it will give you alot of hope in Online Dating

It positive news article on Online dating

 

This one title "Marriages Among Those who met Online are just as stable as others."

Marriages among those who met online are as stable as others, study says - The Washington Post

 

This one title "One third of married couples are met online, and they MORE satisfied and Less Likely to split up"

A Third of Recently Married Couples Met Online and They're More Satisfied and Less Likely To Split-Up - Forbes

 

See that is good news for Online dating, so don't give up hope. Perhaps your other half will me someone from Online.

 

 

I didn't met my husband online, we live in the same neighborhood, God damn it!

I'm going to read to him about the article about 1/3 of marriages nowadays are met online. I already know the shocking look on his face.

Because To him, couples met are through "Familiarity" like live in same neighborhood, go to same church, family know each others, go to same school, etc...

 

My husband is really behind when it come to technology. He NEVER go online. He go online for 1 reason only, that is if he have no choice but to apply for a job online application.

 

Everything else is through his cell phone for communications. He doesn't even watch TV, unless it is NEWS, when the TV is on he watching NEWS only. He would died if he can't watch News for one day, lol

Edited May 13, 2015 by thestairs

[gaius]

I'm thankful for every chance I get to fly.

June 1st for me! :bunny: I get to see my baby TPA again.

 

I'm thankful for second chances.

[Hopeful714]

I'm thankful for Everything. There's just too much to list.

[amaysngrace]

I'm thankful that my daughter's heart murmur requires no further tests at this time. Her EKG was nothing out of the ordinary as far as innocent heart murmurs go.

 

[Tayla]

I am thankful for the plan of salvation and the fact that though people on earth might not forgive me my mistakes and fidn em wanting lacking and not worthy of a chance....that god does and will and loves me regardless of my mistakes...i was forgiven.....

 

 

 

i am also grateful that i can choose to do the same...i can forgive mistakes of others....and i am grateful i have that capacity to forgive when sometimes instead i feel like tying people to ceiling fans and hitting top speed.......i am glad i have never yet tied anyone to a ceiling fan.....

 

i am grateful that i can learn something new everyday...

i am grateful for fish friday a new tradition i have decided i will follow...i made lemon herb and garlic baked fish......and my girls said it was beautiful....deb

 

^^This brings about a blessed heart^^^,

Thank you Deb, you place things in perspective. You really are inspiring given the path you've persevered thru to be here. Thank you for being you!

 

recently made small amends to my son, for that chance, I am gratefull.

[Satu]

I'm thankful that there are other people who I can be nice to.

[Ruby Slippers]

thestairs, thank you for all the astrology info! I don't have time to review it properly right now, but I will come back to the links when I can.

 

I've been extremely busy with work and life lately, and I'm very happy to say that I've started to meet some amazing romantic prospects! Of course, you never know where it's going to go, but I'm just so happy that I seem to be getting VERY close.

 

I've hit a powerful stride in life, am feeling very positive and hopeful about the possibility of finding true love, and everyone seems to be noticing! Now the only problem is that I have tons of work pouring in, a fun upcoming mini-vacation, and I suddenly have at least a dozen good-hearted, sincere, suitable romantic prospects vying for my attention! They are from all different walks of life, and I'm strongly drawn to two of them in particular.

 

One of them has a ridiculous amount of things in common with me, all the way to our highest aspirations in life. We think in the same way, want the same things, have the same open, vivacious, positive nature. I'm just getting to know him, so we'll see how it turns out.

 

The other one responded to something I posted online, a heartfelt ode to true love. I didn't even include a picture of myself, just a mystical art image, but he wrote me just to rave about how what I wrote was one of the most beautiful things he'd ever read. (Along with about 200 other men expressing similar feelings!!) He wrote me this long, beautiful, romantic letter, responding to everything I said in detail, and he included some pictures of himself and he is absolutely gorgeous! And more than that, there is just something magical about him. I feel like I know him from another life or something. He's living a simple, frugal, somewhat bohemian lifestyle, like me doesn't buy into the consumer brainwashing BS, volunteers for a cause that is dear to me, dresses like a debonair gentleman from another time, or at least a smoky film noir movie I sent my pictures back and he raved, and seemed to have similar feelings about there being something uniquely alluring about me to him. I already get the feeling that we would look really good together. We've been writing these... almost love letters back and forth and I keep thinking about him. I'm trying not to get attached to any one particular person, because you just never know, but wow, I feel there is something fated with this one. We're both musicians who are longing to devote more time to music again, so I think if nothing else, we can help inspire each other in that way.

 

I'm standing on a diving board above this big, beautiful pool of love, and the water looks fine! Once I identify the right man and take my time to make sure he's the right one, I cannot wait to leap right in and make a big splash

 

And even if none of the current potentials are the one, I'm just so happy and excited to be meeting all these kindred spirits, men who are unjaded and committed to finding true love. They are out there! The avalanche of earnest, heartfelt letters I received in response to my true love letter is proof of that

[alphamale]

I am thankful to be both alcohol and nicotine free

[misspond]

I'm thankful for my lovely children and my awesome friends. And my determination to get through the worst of times.

[Ruby Slippers]

A few days ago, I had this excellent first conversation with a wildly creative and interesting romantic prospect, touching on science, mythology, and mysticism. Then the very next day, I got an e-mail from a long-standing client asking if I would help him with a wildly creative and interesting project (with a good budget) that revolves around science, mythology, and mysticism.

 

I love these moments of synchronicity! They always tell me I'm onto something good.

[thestaircase]

Ms. Ruby Slipper, you should met that online man that you mentioned in the above post. The one that into music like you, the one that wrote you the long romatic letter.

Don't drag it too long, time won't wait for anyone. If that man live close by you, then met up with him for a coffee.

 

Anyways, back to thread topic. I'm thankful to have a loving and caring husband. Eventhough our Synastry astrology chart say we are not compatible and our marriage and love is fatal, lol

Everyime I brought up astrology topics with my husband, he call me silly!! because he doesn't believe in astrology stuff.

 

 

Yesterday as I was cooking, being multi-tasked that I am, I cut my finger when cut meat with a knife. It hurts because it bleed and everytime I wash dishes, the cut get in water and bleed again.

Husband came home eat dinner noticed the cut on my finger, so he wants to wash dishes for me. He kiss my hand as well as kiss my finger where the cut is, he sure is a sweet husband.

BUT then when he wash dishes, the plate broke, LOL!!

 

He good at doing all the heavy stuff around the house. he good at fixed cars, carried all heavy stuff. BUT when it come to the simple washing dishes, plate broke. Uh.. his big hand just can't seem to wash dishes the right way, lol

I still love him, but this is like the 2nd time plate broke when he wash dishes, sigh...

Edited May 24, 2015 by thestairs

[SpiralOut]

I am thankful for my good taste, ability to organize, and creativity.

 

 

I am thankful for my adorable cat who cuddles with me on weekend mornings and greets me at the front door when I come home. Also for the good people I've met this past year.

[Ruby Slippers]

thestairs, I just wanted to give you a post-date report. I met the Scorpio tonight, and we had a wonderful time!

 

We met at a pub, and as soon as I spotted him and walked up to him, I saw his eyes light up like "wow!" So that put me immediately at ease. I could tell he was attracted to me by the way he was looking at me and talking to me. Our excellent connection in writing and voice translated immediately to in person, and it was even better in person. We're both tall and sporty, so we just seemed to fit together. We sat at a wraparound booth, and he scooted over close to me.

 

I thought he was cute, too! Beautiful, expressive eyes, wonderful beaming smile, really nice, articulate hands, tall and fit. He smelled good, too. He was wearing just a little cologne, and I liked his natural smell underneath it. I love nice hands, and he gestured with them a lot while he was talking, so I kept wanting to hold his hand - but held back!

 

We had beers and talked about all kinds of things. The conversation just flowed effortlessly. We were laughing and there were absolutely no lulls. He's an excellent conversationalist! Very inquisitive, and asked really interesting questions.

 

We closed down the pub, and then we decided to walk down the road to the waterfront. The moon was bright, and he always walked closer to the traffic He occasionally made contact, brushing against me, touching my arm. It felt really easy and natural. I got a really good, natural, sexy vibe from him. Eventually, I linked my arm through his. We walked down to the end of a pier, and talked about deeper topics under the moonlight. By this point we were facing each other directly, very close to each other, looking straight into each other's eyes. It was intense and really sweet!

 

He remarked several times that it was uncanny how much we have in common. It really is. Again, one of us would talk about a subject on and on, and the other one was in total agreement.

 

I couldn't help noticing that I was getting turned on just standing near him. Like, very turned on, physically, noticeably. I felt like I wanted him to kiss me. It was so romantic Then he said out loud that he felt very drawn to me physically, loves that we're both tall and sporty, but he likes what I said about taking our time and letting the anticipation build. I was glad he said that, because at that moment I felt almost powerless to hold back!

 

After about an hour of just standing on the pier in the moonlight talking, we walked back to the pub parking lot, and he walked me over to my car, then gave me this amazing hug! He just enveloped my whole body with his, and held on for a good long while, and it felt awesome! I was feeling these intense, warm tingles all over my body, especially in the places where he was touching me!

 

Then he pulled back, and he was just looking into my eyes, studying my face. I was thinking KISS ME! lol And then he laid this intense, passionate kiss on me! Then he kissed my check, my neck. He pulled back again and brushed my hair back, studied my face some more, held my face in his hands and just looked into my eyes. It was seriously the most intense, connected first kiss I've had possibly EVER!! Then he kissed me again, even more intense this time, with more dynamics, kissed my cheeks, my forehead. I was getting sooooo turned on. I think he was, too.

 

After the kiss, he was like "WOW", and said sweet things about what a delight it was to meet me and spend the evening with me and touch me and kiss me

 

He said he wants to plan a real date for when I get back from my trip. He said I had his rockets firing up big time. I had to agree, and told him that feeling had started over an hour before.

 

Yaaaaay, best date in I don't even remember how long!!

Edited May 28, 2015 by Ruby Slippers

[thestaircase]

Whoa! So ROMANTIC!! Heck, why didn't me and my husband have romantic dates like this? Pfffffff!! My husband is very slow when it come to romantic. He jump straight o the point, as blunt as he can be, lol

 

See now you get your kiss. Remember how you always said that you have not kiss anyone for 18 months. See now you have your kiss, whatever comes will comes.

 

Libra rule romance. Scorpio rule sex, definately go for the Scorpio. I don't know what Virgo rule, but Virgo can be picky.

My husband have both Virgo Venus and Virgo Mars, this is very picky placement. Virgo are well known to be criticizer, and both of my husband Venus and Mars in Virgo that means he picky when it come to choose partner and picky in love too.

 

 

I share in my thread, I didn't even lost my V-card until I was 29 yeas old. You know that is a ridiculously old age for a woman to lost her virginity right?

And me being a Chinese girl is not an excuse for me to lost my virginity at such old age, LOL

Trust me, nobody have it worser than me when it come to the romance department.

So Ms. Ruby Slippers, I think you much more lucky than me when it come to love.

 

You should start a thread the dating canidates you have. Like ask for suggestions/opinions on which canidates to choose, dates ideas/tips, etc...

We can go there to discuss about upcoming dates of yours, hehe

You seem to have ALOT of canidates. Pretty sure this 2 won't be the last canidates. Remember you said you an idealist, so you will choose the best one out of all canidates.

 

 

Do you mind PM me your birthday? (We keep it private just me and you)

I want to study your astrology natal chart. I do know a bit about astrology, and I'm curious to see your chart see if there any indication when you will find your soul mate.

If you don't feel comfortable share me your birthday then is fine. I'm just very interest in astrology and I want to read your astrology chart.

Edited May 28, 2015 by thestairs

[Ruby Slippers]

Yes, I did finally kiss someone again, and it was an excellent and extremely romantic, sweet kiss!! And actually, it's been 19 months! lol

 

I don't think I agree that I'm luckier in love. You are married to the love of your life and working toward creating a family! It doesn't get any better than that. I'm still searching - getting much closer, I feel, but not there yet.

 

I don't want to start a thread about my dating candidates, because I've noticed that you always get a certain degree of cynicism and negative commentary about things here, and I just do not need that in my life right now, not at all. Posting all the details here would open myself up to everybody else's baggage. At this time, not interested. Now, if I have a specific problem or question, then I will start a thread.

 

And yes, I intend to keep dating until the right man makes himself clearly known. I've decided that I am open to kissing if it feels right, but that's as far as I'll go. I won't do anything more until I pick the right man. And I'll be honest with everybody about the fact that I'm dating and seeking Mr. Right. And then, it's on

 

I might do the chart you mentioned and send that to you, but not today. Doing all my final trip preparations, getting excited!

 

I hope you have a wonderful rest of the week!

[Satu]

I'm thankful for a full days flying tomorrow and a good weather forecast.

[thestaircase]

Hi Ms. Ruby Slippers,

When are you going to go on the date with the Virgo? You mentioned he younger than you, how much younger? Update me on the date okay, he seem like a very romantic man to wrote you that long romantic letter, and do research to help you with your new Laptop.

My husband never wrote me any romantic letter, lol

 

I have a question to ask you, sorry TMI ahead...

When you take your 'Birth control pills', did you have breakthrough bleeding? How many months does it take for your body to get used to the BCP?

 

I have breakthrough bleeding in April, my cycle was messed up. I took the pregnancy test in April and it was negative.

I took my pills everyday on time, so it 99% safe when you take the pills exactly on time everyday.

 

Maybe I should change my Birth control pills? Because my body still not getting used to it yet, it keep give me breakthrough bleeding. And this is 4 month already, aren't I suppose to get used to it by now?

 

I pee this morning and there red blood when I wipe. It red blood soak the toilet paper, I'm kindda scare.

Uh.. my husband is at work, and I'm working today too, and I'm scare.

I'm not going to tell my husband about the blood because I know he will get panic.

 

Since last month I bought extra pregnancy test to leave at home just in case. Should I take the pregnancy test again for this month May?

The chances get pregnant on the pills is very slim when you take it on time everyday, it 99% effective.

Arg!! My cycle still not regular, and now I'm seeing red blood. I'm still getting breakthrough bleeding? I thought BCP suppose to make your cycle regular.

 

This week is not my placebo pills week, so I'm not suppose to bleed this week. It is possible I'm getting breakthrough bleeding before the sugar pills again?

Edited May 29, 2015 by thestairs

[Ruby Slippers]

Hi, thestairs!

 

I will meet the romantic Virgo when he asks me to. He's already told me several times he would like to meet me and get to know me, but we've discussed that we both prefer a more classic approach where the man is the knight and the woman is the lady. So I think we would both find it more romantic for him to ask me out. I'm back from my trip now, so he can ask me out anytime

 

Yes, I did experience some breakthrough bleeding with BC pills during the first few months, and occasionally beyond that. If you're having heavy breakthrough bleeding four months in, I think you should see about switching to a different pill. Different types with different hormone amounts and proportions are available, and the first one you try might not be the best fit. Sounds like this one isn't quite the right hormone balance for you and you need to try a different one.

 

I doubt you're pregnant, but you can take a test if it eases your mind, and use a backup BC method until you get the right pill. Good luck!

[thestaircase]

Thank you for let me know your experience with BCP,

 

 

I did seek medical advice, they said it nothing serious. It just my body trying to adjust to the hormones level of the pills.

The hormones might not build up correctly in my body, so I still have breakthrough bleeding. So they need to adjust the prescriptions, like higher dosage pills.

 

 

When you on Birth control pills, you NOT ovulate right? If not ovulating then there no egg, then you can't get pregnant.

Well unless you got lucky and fall in that 1% of those who get pregnant on the pills. BUT I took my pills exactly on time every month for the past 4 months already so the chances are very slim.

 

 

About the Virgo guy, maybe you don't like him that much? I'm sure if the feelings is so strong and you like him ALOT, you wouldn't mind ask him out for a coffee. But I agree with you, that the man should take the first move. Please let know your date with him okay, he seem like a romantic guy.

[Ruby Slippers]

I reconnected with an old acquaintance at the festival this weekend. We had marvelous conversation, and he seemed to be enchanted with me. Among many things, he was telling me about how he just bought his own private plane and is having so much fun flying it. He flew himself to the festival.

 

He just texted and asked me if I want to go FLYING with him later this week. Wooooah. Helllll yes I do!

 

Looks like I've now got another amazing romantic prospect, who's going to take me on a helluva first date

 

What's so cool, though, is even a private plane ride isn't gonna win my heart. Only true love will do that But hey, step right up, fellas, and show me what you've got

[Ruby Slippers]

That's right - the combination birth control pills that contain both progestin and estrogen do two things. First, they prevent you from ovulating, so you don't release any egg to fertilize. Second, they thicken the cervical mucus, so even if an egg is released, the sperm have a much harder time reaching the egg. The progestin-only pills (mini pill) thicken the cervical mucus, but only prevent ovulation in some women.

 

I like the Virgo guy, but I guess it's part of my personal mythology about love that the man approaches and drives the relationship forward. I want to be with a man who is enamored with me and truly in love, and I'm pretty convinced that such a man won't let anything get in his way of pursuing the woman, asking her out, and moving the relationship forward. If he's not interested enough to do that, I'm not interested, either.

 

I have NEVER, EVER asked a man out.

 

I like him and think he's a great guy, but he is 6 years younger, and I can kind of tell. It feels like maybe we're at different life stages. I'm definitely ready to find Mr. Right, and I feel like he's still finding himself, getting his footing in his own life. I'm not totally solid in my own footing, but I have a much clearer vision of what I want for the rest of my life. Because of this, it seems that men who are a little older are more on the same page. I will definitely go out with him if he asks me out, but he'll have to step up and make it happen. I already made this pretty clear to in the knight and the lady conversation, and he said that's perfectly in line with his approach to dating. I'd expect him to ask me out soon, but I won't be offended if he doesn't.