spanishchick00 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Has anyone ever added their FWB and what was the outcome? What's the rule? I mean, its not like a one-night fling, its obviously someone you have been seeing for awhile, yet maybe those fizzle overtime, but do they really remain on your friends list after the fwb thing is done and over with? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 (edited) Do what you want.... I mean, I've seen people posting all these stupid pics of them smushing faces with some idiot they barely have a few months of seeing...idiots. I would not add as a friend someone I was seeing as a FWB. I'd explain to them the truth - which is I reserve adding people I'm adding on FB that I'm seeing/dating, only when we become serious (i.e. a husband/wife) because other than that, it gets too complicated. I set up my FB to have an easier way to connect/keep in contact with family and real friends (no the 400-800 acquaintances everyone adds as a "friend"). To me, adding some guy I'm just dating to my FB is akin to taking them to a formal family dinner/function. You don't introduce someone to the family/fold that isn't someone you're not serious about. And, I'm sorry, no matter how many "smooshy faces" you put of someone you just met on FWB and think you are all in loooove, you're an idiot. BTW, I do make "public" what I'd have no issue with someone interested in me dating would see about me. So, yeah, I do use FB for that purpose too, so again, no reason to add them as a friend cuz they can see all they need to know about me that I make public. Edited January 20, 2015 by Gloria25 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I wouldn't think it would be at all a good idea because presumably if you've got a FWB, you're also still dating other people you can take more seriously for the long term. A new guy isn't going to be impressed that you have a FWB. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I wouldn't think it would be at all a good idea because presumably if you've got a FWB, you're also still dating other people you can take more seriously for the long term. A new guy isn't going to be impressed that you HAD a FWB. There, I corrected it for you ^^. IMO, you just willy-nilly, adding Tom, Dick, and Harry (and/or pictures of them) to your FB is also just gonna open up the door to future guys to question your dating history. There's gonna be a digital stamp of your dating history (unless you close your FB upon meeting the guy you wanna be serious with - which will probably end up with him asking why you don't have a FB ever). Again, just too complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spanishchick00 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Share Posted January 20, 2015 Well, yeah, family members are on facebook too, so that would be like taking a sneak peak and looking into my FWB family. Who can explain that anyway? "This is the girl I've been ****ing for a year!" Not too classy. Hmm.. then again, he has no problem adding these girls that are friends that he met on meetup...so then again, they are probably just friends and he's not banging them. Ugh...See, what facebook does to people? I saw that he adds these gal pals on there and then it makes me think there's something more going on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 If the FWB find out that you have a new BF/GF it can go either ways: they can get jealous and start messaging your partner that you are trying to date or they will remove you from their FB. Add wisely. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Well, yeah, family members are on facebook too, so that would be like taking a sneak peak and looking into my FWB family. Who can explain that anyway? "This is the girl I've been ****ing for a year!" Not too classy. Hmm.. then again, he has no problem adding these girls that are friends that he met on meetup...so then again, they are probably just friends and he's not banging them. Ugh...See, what facebook does to people? I saw that he adds these gal pals on there and then it makes me think there's something more going on. Well, it could be something is going on...you gotta find out what adding all these chicks mean to him. I mean, outside the virtual world, I've seen females with lots of male "friends" who were like blue-collar golddigers...I don't know how these chicks do it, but they juggle these guys pretty well. They always seem say "oh, we're just friends" and unless these guys sit down and have a talk with each other, they'll probably never know. I mean, the "town ho" that was with one guy I posted about here in my past, that was her M.O. and she told him she didn't want him to tell people they were seeing each other cuz people are gossips...Well, he bought that story hook, line, and sinker. So, I gather she told that to all the guys and none of them were bold enough and/or wiser to check into all these "friends" she has. So, for all you know, he may add them as friends on FB and when they wanna post pics of them doing things/smooshing faces or whatever, he may be like "oh, no, I don't want people gossiping". There you go... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mario_C Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I actually invited my college FWB to be a FB friend and she agreed. She's been one of the more pleasant of my school friends that I've gotten to know all over again - but maybe that's because she doesn't post too much. j/k I did my share of listening to her when we were intimate, it's all good. And I'm glad she didn't turn into a jerk like most of my other school-turned-FB friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spanishchick00 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Share Posted January 24, 2015 I think if I were to do add my FWB on facebook, I would be obsessive facebook stalking him. Also, I would get extremely jealous of I saw that he keeps adding these so-called female friends that are "single." Now, if it was over between my FWB and I, how likely will he delete me? Is there such a thing as friends with a FWB? Seeing that he's friends with these females from meet-up groups, I get a sense that he's there to meet new people, and obviously they do see these same people from these groups from time to time-so they are friends-but how likely will it be that he will date them? The thing is I don't "hang-out" with my fwb-we don't go out-he's never asked me to tag along..we just head to the bedroom with the occasional small talk. Is it right to assume-he has a friendship with them and not me? And if he was done with me, he would delete me? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 I think if I were to do add my FWB on facebook, I would be obsessive facebook stalking him. Also, I would get extremely jealous of I saw that he keeps adding these so-called female friends that are "single." Now, if it was over between my FWB and I, how likely will he delete me? Is there such a thing as friends with a FWB? Seeing that he's friends with these females from meet-up groups, I get a sense that he's there to meet new people, and obviously they do see these same people from these groups from time to time-so they are friends-but how likely will it be that he will date them? The thing is I don't "hang-out" with my fwb-we don't go out-he's never asked me to tag along..we just head to the bedroom with the occasional small talk. Is it right to assume-he has a friendship with them and not me? And if he was done with me, he would delete me? Well, it's none of your business what he has with those girls. You are his FWB - unless you two made up some rule to advise each other if you are seeing other people. I don't wanna know, but my last FWB would volunteer that info. Also, I am confused as to what you're asking would justify him deleting you and/or adding other people....cuz, again, that's why I wouldn't add a FWB as a friend on FB - too complicated to manage it. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 (edited) I never did that. Well I added the one guy but that was after we stopped having sex and decided to be just friends. He is married now with three kids, it's good to see. If he is sleeping with you he could be sleeping with other girls too, hooking up with them at bars, might even get himself a girlfriend. Depending how he is with social media, he might post pics of himself with a new girl all the time. Can you handle looking at that? It might be best to avoid that drama. Edited January 24, 2015 by SpiralOut Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie1231 Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 It sounds like you want more than FWB if you think you'd be obsessively stalking his FB. I've had a FWB in the past, and we were and are FB friends. The only reason I would ever look at his page was if I wanted to see him - I would check to make sure he didn't now have a girlfriend that I would be offending by texting him. The rest of the time, I didn't really care what he had been doing. We would like each other's pictures sometimes, but neither of us obsessed about the other at all. If you think that you would do that or you care that he has girl friends, then maybe you want more out of the relationship and are allowing it to be FWB since that is all he's willing to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Whenever I've had a FWB they've been friends first, the benefits came later, and the friendship remained in some form (whether merely friendly when we bump into each other, or happy to grab a drink when in town) afterwards. So they were already on my Facebook friends list, and I see no reason to delete them when the sex stops! I have a few people I've had casual sex with on my list, whether it be FWB specifically, or people with whom I slept with while deciding whether to start a relationship or not and then deciding to just stay friends. Not gonna go around deleting people who are good people, and I get on well with and like to see how their life is going, just weren't right for each other. If I had a FWB who I really wasn't friends with, I just met them, slept together casually, and then had no friendship left at the other side then I wouldn't be likely to keep them on there or add in the first place as I wouldn't consider them as friends and I'm choosy about who I add to Facebook for privacy reasons. Not sure why it'd ever be an issue. Wouldn't dream of asking my boyfriend or any boyfriend to go through their list and point out who they have and haven't slept with, it's childish and insecure. So not sure how it could cause any problems in my relationship unless I was with someone crazy insecure and jealous, with whom it wouldn't work anyway (been there, done that, got the t shirt). Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 ALL of my FWB remained friends afterwards. That's the real idea with FWB - the friendship remains whether or not there are benefits. You can add them on FB or whatever you'd do with any friend. If you question that, you have a f-buddy, and there's no reason to add them on FB. Link to post Share on other sites
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