Bf doesnt want to spend time with me on birthday.

[FaithisMe223]

Well my birthday is coming up and I am excited yet kind of down. My boyfriend actually made plans for himself on my birthday. He and his buddy are going to a basketball game on the same day. I wasn't even told this only way I found out was I was with my bf and he and his friend were talking and I was in the middle and he (his friend) asked my bf is he was still up for the game on the 23. I was shocked at first and I didn't want to say anything in front of his buddy. I waited and then I asked him about it. He came up with some stupid excuse saying "i told him I had plans" I know for a fact I didnt even say that. He then with an attitude said that he will cancel and go with me. They way he said it with an attitude made me say eff it. I do not want to be a second choice on my birthday. I guess him seeing a basketball game is way more important. I don't understand why he would up and make plans for that day. I am extremely hurt by this. It just seems like he doesn't even give a crap that he did this. I just need advice.

[Gloria25]

Is there some mystical reason for people to actually have the party and/or celebration on their actual birthday?

 

So, if it falls on a Monday, the day that pretty much everyone returns to work and are pretty much exhausted after a long day, then you gotta do something on that day?

 

I think birthdays are overrated....and with age I don't see why each and every birthday must be some over the top celebration.

 

To me, a birthday best served is getting on your knees and thanking God for another year of health, happiness, and blessings.

 

But, in your case, if he didn't plan "anything" to do with/for you, then I'd be worried...I'm not worried if it happened on the actual "day" of my birthday.

[eye of the storm]

So many variables,

 

How long have you two been dating?

Does he often forget "important" dates?

Does he consider birthdays important?

Did you communicate in plenty of time before your birthday that you wanted to spend it with him?

Did he think you might have family plans on that day?

Is it a big or important game?

Is this a friend he rarely sees due to (fill in the blank)?

How serious are you two?

Did he know it was your birthday?

[Darren2013]

I'm not into gift giving. I don't buy gifts when I have a gf on he birthday.

[eye of the storm]

Darren, would you buy her a gift if she had gotten you one on your birthday and told you exactly what she would like on hers?

[Els]

How long have you been together?

 

What sort of 'attitude' did he say it with? Could it be that you're just imagining it, and that he had genuinely forgotten it was your birthday and was actually willing to cancel his plans for you?