tlour61 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 It started that he called me up to go out. We have gone out with each other 3 times after a 4 month breakup. The thing is he don't call me up. He keeps on asking me to call him. If I don't he doesn't call. I'm finding that weird because when i do call he is happy that I called. I'm finding that weird and turning me off. Link to post Share on other sites
Light Breeze Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 He's not putting any effort into this "new" relationship of yours or he just wants that ego boost from you calling him first all the time. If it's turning you off then you need to speak to him about it or walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
WonderWoman911 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I wouldn't call him anymore. Allow him to show interests in reaching out to you. Always initiating phone calls are annoying and just like you said, a turn off. If he don't bother in calling you, don't press the issue. At the end of the day,he is your ex. So sometimes it's best for the person to remain that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 According to your past posts, you were the one who broke up with him. So maybe he needs you to show him you care enough to "chase" him a little, hence the request that you are the one to initiate. It's a matter of pride and self respect for him most likely. Being dumped, rejected, discarded is hard on the ego. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
flightplan Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 If want ducktape is saying is true... you dumped him... then don't expect the normal chase game from this guy. If you broke it, you fix it. Sounds like he's interested, but gun shy given the background. You need to show more initiative if you want it to work. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 If you broke it, you fix it. Sounds like he's interested, but gun shy given the background. You need to show more initiative if you want it to work. Totally agree with this ^^, As a dumpee who really DOES want my ex back, I would say that if we started dating at some point, I would need her to show more interest than me especially at the early stages. Even though in the back of my mind I would want to run right back into her arms, I wouldn't actually do that until I knew for sure she was 100 percent committed to the idea of us. That means I would need her to do some chasing in order to feel like she was as invested in reconciling. He's probably testing your level of interest to make sure there is balance in the relationship and he's not setting himself up for more heartbreak. KTB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
EuTuBrute Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I agree with all the above posters. I also tried to date my ex again. She was the one who broke up with me. In the second attempt it was always me trying and arranging for us to meet up. She didnt put any effort into it. It led to us not seeing each other anymore. It order for a relationship to work it takes two! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tlour61 Posted January 21, 2015 Author Share Posted January 21, 2015 I did ask him the question last night on why he has been having me do the calling after the first time he called me. He said he was lucky that I love him and that he wanted to do things my pace. After the breakup I did try to talk to him about the problem he was not having it. It surprise him that I didn't try again and went to the NC. I didn't even visit his parents during the holidays. I went when I knew he was not there. Which he said that bother him. Last night was the first time we talk in a very long time. Link to post Share on other sites
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