toolforgrowth Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 A lot of men feel the same way about women. I love my GF, but I've had my share of crazy women come in and out of my life and screw it up in many imaginative ways. I was single for a year and a half and loved every minute of it. I enjoy female companionship, but I'm never getting married again. That's for darn sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 Life is what you make of it and longevity is far more complex than swearing off the opposite sex. I want a quality filled life, not a quantity one, and men bring so many gifts to my life I couldn't imagine swearing them off. Life is what you make of it. We just have to make sure to choose our decisions/actions carefully. But most of my friends growing up were guys, my closest person in my life is a guy (and has been a guy) and while I have a few long term close friends, I just tend to "get" men better. My happy medium has been women in the horse world or women who are not the prototypical female. I just tend to not sure share similar interests and thinking styles. But to each there own, there are great people in both genders and life is a rich smorgasbord of experiences and interactions. Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Hmm. I think I'd prefer to be dead than live to be 109. Can you even have sex at that age? Agree and best photo ever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ebelskiver Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 I know!!! They showed the picture of the 116 year old woman and I was thinking, "I'm really not sure that's a win folks." Probably around 70 is the time to kick it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Share Posted January 24, 2015 The important question here is, who pays for dinner? Him of course...he's getting free sex and probably even a free place to do it at (my place). I mean, isn't how it usually goes? The guy pays for dinner cuz he expects sex in return? Maybe I'm a little o'l fashioned here. Link to post Share on other sites
EveAFlame Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 But men are so cute and they kill bugs. I quite like them! A mutually beneficial arrangement with an attractive man can go a long way to putting a bounce in my step. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Him of course...he's getting free sex and probably even a free place to do it at (my place). I mean, isn't how it usually goes? The guy pays for dinner cuz he expects sex in return? Maybe I'm a little o'l fashioned here. So you're saying that usually guys pay you for sex? Thanks for clearing that up. Happy meal for a blowjob sounds great. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Him of course...he's getting free sex and probably even a free place to do it at (my place). I mean, isn't how it usually goes? The guy pays for dinner cuz he expects sex in return? Maybe I'm a little o'l fashioned here. So from your pic, you are very pretty. But, no did I say no. Just no. Where on this planet did you get the idea that paying for dinner=sex? This is a fun time, good food, flirty convo; And you are checking his self out. Where is he coming from in his current lifestyle? Is this something that matches/have in common with my sexy self? Gloria, you pick. They pay and expect zippo in return. When you meet the man that get's it all right for you. Buy that man a beer and do what you do. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 F Yeah, I knew someone was gonna say what you said and you have a point there. 60 Minutes last year had a good story about certain people who were selected and followed to see like how people were living longer w/o stuff like lost of memory and all that. They really couldn't say there was a definite this or that that we could all follow. So yeah, I take stories like the one I posted here with a grain of salt...but I still think she has a point. Relationships rock us at our core. If we are having guy/gal drama it affects us in many ways. That's one reason I go into my droughts. I rather be alone on a Saturday nite with something good to eat, a beer and something on the TV rather than deal with guys and their crap. or posts like yours go eat whatever on whatever day of whatever month keep going while looking at stories about again...whatever we all have views just cos a dog bit you once not all dogs bite bitch dogs are far worse understand la femme chien? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Share Posted January 24, 2015 So from your pic, you are very pretty. But, no did I say no. Just no. Where on this planet did you get the idea that paying for dinner=sex? This is a fun time, good food, flirty convo; And you are checking his self out. Where is he coming from in his current lifestyle? Is this something that matches/have in common with my sexy self? Gloria, you pick. They pay and expect zippo in return. When you meet the man that get's it all right for you. Buy that man a beer and do what you do. Dude, the chick in the Avatar is not me, that's Demi Lovato Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Dude, the chick in the Avatar is not me, that's Demi Lovato Don't call me dude. Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 For her generation... And maybe culture too.. She probably is right that avoiding a relationship with a man has led to a longer life... In her generation, women were mostly baby machines and household pack mules. A few were lucky enough to have caring, generous, responsible husbands like most of the women in my family. I just got back from a visit to the Taj Mahal, where I learned that the woman that place immortalized died after giving birth to her fourteenth child in almost as many years.. She was a young woman. I dunno. I am thinking the Majaraja should have been happy with thirteen kids if he loved her so much. Oh... And later on... Turns out that the eldest son had his other brothers killed off. Lovely. But yea, if the man can't be a partner, then don't bother. You should make a thread about your trip, I have a bunch of questions now. Like if you managed to avoid Delhi Belly or not. I know it's proven you live longer if you eat a very low calorie diet but who the hell wants to live a super long life where you can't eat much or enjoy the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Share Posted January 24, 2015 Old fashioned girls didn't hunt for a FWB, they hunted for husbands. Me, I don't pay for friends, even friends I'm having sex with. Well, then no sex for you.... BTW, I sometimes pay for my friend's and even family's entire meal - thank you. It's nice to treat people and show appreciation for them. And, again, your response supports this thread. Even in the simplest arrangements I've tried to make with men, men still make it difficult. That's why I guess I refer so much last to my recent FWB...it was refreshing to be in a casual situation with a guy who didn't treat me as a receptacle for his semen. And, another reason why I go into my droughts...I've seen some post here that a FW situation would be ideal for me, but they way guys wanna handle FWB situations is also off-putting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Share Posted January 24, 2015 (edited) Sure, me too. That's because I know those people are willing to pay for me too. You just said the guy should pay for you because he's getting sex. Big difference. Think about how off-putting your scenario can be for some guys. A woman expects us to pay for the privilege of having sex with her? No wonder you like this idea so much! You get a guy to take you to a dinner and a movie, all free, then you get laid at the end of the night Don't hate the playa, hate the game... Look, fact is men pay for women's attention or a prostitute. At a bar, you get her a drink. If you marry, you buy her the house and all that. If you weren't looking for a FWB, you'd still have to take your girl out for dinner and I'm sure you're not doing it just to watch her play with a fork and knife - you having sex with her as part of the RL you're paying for is what's the expectation. BTW, thanks for making me look like an entitlement princess. So, if I'm a FWB, on top of the guy having to place no effort into getting sex, if I expect him to pay if he takes me out, then I'm taking advantage of the situation? Got it. And, that's why I'm single...cuz it's either pretend I wanna be in a real RL and suffer from some guy calling me all the time, spending all/most his time with me - suffocating me so I can have sex in a situation where I'm treated with some respect and he might even pay for a dinner or movie....or, it's be a FWB where I'm on call whenever a guy wants to jizz in me and if I ever emerge in public with him, I better go 50/50 or just pay my own way...in essence, I'm paying my own way for a guy to just jizz in me.... BTW, on top of all the "I won't pay on a date" bravado, still tons of guys getting in situations/marriages/RLs where there's little to no sex, no cooking, no TLC, woman is fat/unkept - yet their woman is "kept" (her housing, bills, etc are paid all/in part by him). Edited January 24, 2015 by Gloria25 Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 I'm thankfully not familiar with all this "guy drama" that everyone speaks about, although I see in many of my friends that it does indeed cause them a lot of stress and anxiety at times. However...and this may be a bit of an unpopular opinion here...but I feel that their attitudes and behaviours tie in with this drama quite a lot. I've never had these sorts of issues. I know I've been lucky also, but I truly believe that being a good judge of character and having boundaries works wonders. I've never had that feeling of sitting by the phone waiting for someone to text. I've never sat there trying to analyse the meaning behind what someone says...if I wonder, I ask! If I don't feel 100% respected I bail without a second thought...way too many fish in the sea. Independence goes a long way...don't place your happiness in someone else's hands...it will never, ever work out well for you. Two independently happy and stable people coming together gives the best success. I don't think avoiding men is the only way to cut the drama, I think altering and being aware of your own behaviours, and not settling for anything less than you will be happy with is the way to go. Even if giving up men was proven to extend my life...I'd take a loving, fulfilling relationship over that in a heartbeat, and die a happy woman 1 Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 And, that's why I'm single...cuz it's either pretend I wanna be in a real RL and suffer from some guy calling me all the time, spending all/most his time with me - suffocating me so I can have sex in a situation where I'm treated with some respect and he might even pay for a dinner or movie....or, it's be a FWB where I'm on call whenever a guy wants to jizz in me and if I ever emerge in public with him, I better go 50/50 or just pay my own way...in essence, I'm paying my own way for a guy to just jizz in me.... In essence you're paying own way for a guy to "just juzz" in you? Is having sex not a mutually enjoyable activity? Do you not want it also? You get nothing out of it at all? You're kind of making this sound like you're literally pimping yourself out for movies and dinner. If you enjoy having sex with these men, and enjoy going out and spending time with them, you're not degrading yourself by paying your own way sometimes. Not that I necessarily have anything against you letting them pay, just thought I'd point this out, as you're reasoning seemed a bit off to me. You have a pretty grim view on things from what I can tell...I really hope that one day you can find happiness and feel content with where you are...whether that's in a FWB arrangement, a serious relationship, or single. All the best Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 The secret to a long life is genes Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 The secret to a long life is genes And not getting hit by a car while crossing the street. Or being around angry dudes with guns that don't get any female attention. Or flying on an Airbus, especially of an Asian Airliner. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 The secret to a woman's long and successful life, is that: She needs a man with a great sense of humour; one who can lift her spirits when she feel down, makes her laugh and brightens her day.... A man who is practical, useful and versatile; who knows to put the trash out, repair the faulty lamp, fix the dishwasher and hang up the picture.... A man who is good-looking, clean, well-presented, courteous and treats her like a queen, by acting like a prince. A man proud of his appearance and grooming.... A man who is an absolute bomb in bed, Between the sheets, he caters to her every whim, brings her to mind-blowing orgasms, and knows exactly which buttons to push, when and how.... But the MOST important secret to a woman's long and successful life, is... ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~... that these 4 men, never meet..... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 And not getting hit by a car while crossing the street. Or being around angry dudes with guns that don't get any female attention. Or flying on an Airbus, especially of an Asian Airliner. Or dying from a heart attack due to obesity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Divasu Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Agree and best photo ever. Thankies, I picked it out myself :laugh: I know!!! They showed the picture of the 116 year old woman and I was thinking, "I'm really not sure that's a win folks." Probably around 70 is the time to kick it. Right? At that age - most likely all your friends and family are dead. Forget that! Well, not in the case of this 108 years old man: Why Do Some People Live To 100 Years? - Forbes The answer seems to be, having the right genetics. I concur. Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Women live longer than men on average anyway. We got the shlt end of the stick on that deal, fellas. So if you make it to 50 or 60 you will still probably have decades left to tend to your cats and do whatever else old ladies do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 My great grandmother that lived to 105 told me the same thing. She never married and lived a stress free life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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