ww Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Ladies ...I will try to keep it plain and simple. Read between the lines too! Have you ever felt like your world is breaking apart after being dumped by Mr:BIG? Ever felt like noone will like you anymore? noone will find you sexy and attractive? Not even cute? And when some guys tried to be nice to you , well you just treated them like worse enemies of (wo)men kind? And you felt so useless igly and worthless that you did not even noticed how many interesting guys are ozt there???? Well I`ve been there too!!!!! But today as I was standing in cash-line at the supermarket someone approached me right there , talked to me ..and ladies:GAVE ME A SMILE! Offered me a coffee cup and told me I look great! Well someone just made my day!!!!! And I am happy. Wanna know why? Bc not for a single moment I haven`t compared him to my ex MM!!!!!!!!! Now that `s a big change! I think I am healing! Or I already did. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ww Posted March 30, 2005 Author Share Posted March 30, 2005 lol..and sorry for the typos Link to post Share on other sites
Author ww Posted March 30, 2005 Author Share Posted March 30, 2005 And I also wish you a great spring and lots of Cupid arrows! Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 What are those????? Link to post Share on other sites
Donut Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Yay, there IS life after the ex! Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 although i'm still too terrified to say .... i think i've been hit by one! or maybe just grazed we'll see. the SG i've been seeing for over a month now that i've been complaining about because i've been too afraid to feel anything for him ... well, today on the way home in the car, i was thinking about him and i felt those butterflies that i haven't felt in soooooo long! surprised me enough that i almost drove off the road! he's gone on vacation for two weeks and we won't be in contact much, if at all, while he's gone so i'm still not sure if the butterflies were because i miss the conversations or that i'm starting to feel something and miss him!!!! so, yes, it's spring. life is renewing itself and there IS life after being dumped by Mr. BIG!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 that's good news. Glad to hear that. Wish you and everybody else the best. Keep moving ww. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Sure, there's . May be a better one. It all depends on you. Link to post Share on other sites
fanou22 Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 Since you guys are using the MR. BIG analogy.... Didn't MR BIG want Carrie back only to have her tell him no? The lesson people, once we start moving away, we have the upper hand Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 Didn't MR BIG want Carrie back only to have her tell him no? or did they end up together? either way, you're right. now that we're moving away from them we're taking the control over our lives back from them. with each step it becomes easier. i still expect to have "one of those days" when the emotions come pouring back over me... but it's been a while. for the first time in months, i'm starting to feel like me again. i know there's a ways to go...he's still on my mind, but little by little there are other things that are becoming priorities in my thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 I know what you mean Izzybelle... little by little. I still get this twinge of nostalgia sometimes thinking about him... but the nostalgia stops at that. Could never go back. Though because I am sooo analytical and have to analyze and disect every piece of my life, I sometimes replay what I would have done or would do if he calls me again. I can honestly say that I would just hang up the phone. The chapter is closed. There is NO going back. The agony and pain is not worth rehashing. I am at peace with that, although there are some days (like today) that I just want to scream about how life is not going MY way. hehe. Still beats the heartbroken days ANY day though... How is everyone else doing?? Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 P.S. Love the Mr. Big analogy! hehehe Link to post Share on other sites
curly Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 ww - WOW! You've come across in some many posts as being harsh and bitter? I'm not familiar with your story and would love to hear it. You sound like you're getting stronger. Good for you! Izzy - butterflies for a SG? WOW! Strange feeling, huh? I envy you, I want that. Butterflies for someone that's available. Sounds like a good path. Much better than following the "pining after MM" path I'm on. Can I just "follow the yellow brick road?" LOL. Again, good luck and keep on in a good way for you. SummerRae - Can I get a piece of that strength? I need it. Keep having too many thoughts (ok 24/7 thoughts) about MM. Either way, - not trying to be a "know-it-all" but Sex & the City is one of my favorites - and Carrie does end up with Big, he finds her in Paris and moves back from CA to be with her. He says She's the "One." Again, fairy tales don't exist. I found that out when I got married and divorced not too many moons later. Life is ****ty. Drama comes when you least expect it. My father has terminal cancer. That hurts. ... But we really need to exit from the drama our MM have carried out with us. The W is probably not even aware of the drama her boring H is carrying out. How f***ed up is that? Sorry for the long post but I'm rambling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ww Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 Curly hey, my story is just like any of these stories posted here. We met , we fell for each other ( well at least I did) he was married and so on....agony, pain,letting go... But yes hey! I am getting stronger day by day, little by little...and just like SummerRae said: THERE IS NO GOING BACK Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 That's a positive sign ww. Keep going. Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 i fulfil these criteria, good for you ww, who knows maybe men smile at you the whole time but you never noticed it til now! thats a good sign you are open to it, thinking enough of yourself to see it. i am feeling okay too, not because i am over him but because he has told me the cold harsh truth and i have no choice now. no choice is so much easier to deal with. Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 i think many if not most of us have hit those low points. those feelings that made us feel so terrible that we weren't sure if there was any way out of that black hole that we'd been sucked into. and i know there were times, for me, when it all first happened, that i was too afraid to crawl back out. facing reality was difficult. i know other times i've posted here, i've said the whole mess felt like i'd been led down a rosey path and then thrown into the rose bushes. i think my wounds are healing, and as time goes on, i'm finding fewer and fewer thorns still stuck in my heart. when we start feeling more positive about ourselves, that is when things start to happen. when you walk around with that spring in your step and a smile on your face people are going to be more likely to notice and smile back. when i was at my lowest, i know i walked around a lot with a pained look on my face and probably spent most of my time looking down, just making sure that i was putting one foot in front of the other to get wherever i needed to go. every day tasks were a hastle to get through when all you want to do is curl up in ball and cry, hoping that some morning you'd wake up and realize that it had all just been an awful, horrible, no good, terrible, very bad dream. and for me, feeling those butterflies again, has been wonderful. i still don't know, and i'm still afraid, to give into my feelings .... i don't trust .... i'm still afraid to think that the future really could be wonderful. but, as each day goes by, the fear is slowly leaving my heart and i'm feeling more hopeful. and SG helps with that. he knows i'm afraid and knows i was hurt pretty badly and knows not to push too hard. but he's there. he's thousands of miles away right now and in a time zone that's 5 hours different, but he called last night! just to see how my day was and to let me know all the wonderful things he's been doing. ok that part i wanted to smack him for! he's someplace a whole lot warmer than it is here and was rubbing it in that he's going to come back tan! but my skin's darker than his to begin with so he had a bit of catching up to do. but even with that conversation, i struggled. i wanted to tell him that i missed him, but he's only been gone a few days and i was afraid that if i said those words, i'd scare him off. so instead i just told him that it was really good to hear his voice...and he said the same. so life goes on, and i continue trying to just put one foot in front of the other. but the difference is that now i feel like each step is leading me to a more wonderful place and further and further away from the pain! Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 izzy, i'm really happy for you, dont worry about what you feel ready to say, it sounds like you are doing just fine!! Link to post Share on other sites
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