b52srock Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 I must admit I'm a bit confused at this point in my life. STBex has suddenly been in town for the last three weekends in a row rather than being out of town with his wh*re (or holed up in his apartment with her). He's been spending time with the kids again, even having them spend the night a couple of times. He came over for Easter dinner...complimented me on the jewelry I was wearing, helped put the dishes in the dishwasher, etc. Thanked me profusely for the excellent meal. Just went on and on. Came over on Monday to take the kids to school and again complimented me on the outfit I was wearing. Also said he was going to come over and start doing some of the repairs on the house. Now here's my dilemma... Is it possible he's spending more time with the kids because he really wants to or is it because he just got the latest set of divorce papers referencing his affair and the possibility that his wh*re will be called as a witness should things go to trial? Is his being here alone for the past three weekends because they've actually broken up or is it again, because of the current set of divorce papers? I think I'm truly going nuts! Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 no i don't think you're going nuts and any of the things you mentioned could be true. there is always the possibility that he's realizing what he's giving up, as well. that he's realized that the grass is only greener because of all of the fertilizer that was on it. but, i also know that it's human nature to try to read into a situation and play it over and over again in our minds to try to come up with the outcome that we want. and the only way that you'll know is to ask. but be prepared for the answer. perhaps there are some ways to approach the question without really coming right out and asking... letting him know that you and the kids really appreciate the amount of time he's spending with them and being around as much as he has been .... maybe you can lead into the conversation. but then there's also the question that with EVERYTHING that he's put you and your kids through, do you really want him back? do you still feel that you'd take him back? and if he is just afraid of having his OW called as a witness, would you take him back simply because of that reason alone? i'm sure there are a lot of questions floating around in your head and i do hope that your relationship with him is still at a point where you can have open conversations with him about it all. good luck, and i hope that whatever the answer and outcome is that it's what you truly want in your heart AND is what will be best for you and your kids! Link to post Share on other sites
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