Does it ever feel bar-hopping/Clubbing gets old for single women past 30?

[spanishchick00]

I'm in my 30's and I'm already sick of it. I didn't get a chance to go bar-hopping/clubbing in my 20's, and I think I would of had more fun being young and such. I have been going to some shows at the clubs and gone to a few bars recently and its gets old. I feel like I should be settled already being in a long term relationship doing couple things, instead of still trying to be wild, going to bars/clubs.

[almond]

There are plenty of other ways to occupy yourself and socialise if you're tired of bar/club hopping.

 

There are plenty of nice bars that don't encourage "wild" behaviour, with a more mature crowd.

 

If it's not working for you, then simply do something else. If you want a serious relationship in your 30s, I'd say a nightclub is the last place you should be looking really.

[Ebelskiver]

I'm 38 and I met my current bf at a bar. It was the first I'd been to in at least a year, probably longer. I don't go out to bars with him now either. But you can meet people that way.

 

Honestly, online dating has been a total crapshoot for me. I resolved to only meet people in real life.

 

What do you like to do? Can you join groups or clubs where people do that? I took some classes for fun at the local community college. I ended up meeting a fair amount of folks that way.

[Gloria25]

Well, I still like loud music, dancing and the whole flashing lights, smoky rooms...

 

But yeah, the club scene has grown old for me. Rude, pushy people. They step on you, spill their drinks on you and the guys (even some gals) just wanna dry hump you.

 

I really like to dance. I like music...it makes me happy and excited and stuff.

 

Now, I just will have a couple of drinks and/or beers and just turn up the music in the privacy of my home. Shoot, plus it's cheaper. A nite clubbing at a minimum for me is $60.00.

 

But now, I'd only prefer to go out to like a lounge type atmosphere. Where there's a small dance floor - in case you wanna dance - and food and/or entertainment.

 

Lol, if I was coupled up I wonder if the guy would mind me playing music and dancing with w/o him around the house...lol. When mum is home I don't turn up the music much. I'll just turn on music when I'm making breakfast and/or cooking - but that's usually Spanish soft pop/rock - not the louder/exciting stuff.

 

I do play music now and then when I'm "gettin' it on" So, I guess that's when a partner would partake in the music at home...I don't play it loud and crazy though.

[ascendotum]

Maybe its more your mindset as to why you are not enjoying yourself. I'm going off the comment.."I feel like I should be settled already". If you feel like that you will feel out of place and a bit self conscious at a bar or club, especially if its full on doof doof music and full of drunk juniors.

I went to them in my 30s, but it was not meant to be the highlight of my week. As almond said there are different types of venues that cater for different markets/age groups. Go to the ones that are bit more relaxed or up market or cater for older crowd or are have eclectic mix of patrons. There should be live music venues too that cater for different types (if you live in reasonable size city). It certainly has greater appeal when you're young and happy to get boozed all night and meet lots of strangers I have to admit. If the people you are going with act immature or still like to do shots all night or the people you meet all seem to be idiots or your friends are regularity going home with guys (when you dont) and give you a hard time for not acting wild, then it wont be so much fun for you.