don't understand

[caligirl2005]

I have been married 1 1/2 years and our marriage is dwindling. Right now our jobs have us seperated by 2 hours. My husband is gone a lot with his job. So when he is home, it is still hard to see him. He doesn't have a liscense and refuses to get one. He won't come home unless he has a ride or I go get him, he refuses to take the train. his friends are his world, i feel like he is married to them. He also talks to me like crap. And just plain out doesn't care. Its either his way or no way. I've threatend to leave numerous times. I think I have fallen out of love with him. We recently moved to california last summer and since we have been here, we have fought and fought, and I don't know what to do. Nothing we try helps, we tried to goto counciling that didn't work.

[Devildog]

So many questions.

 

Are you guys a young couple? Was he perhaps not emotionally mature enough to get married?

 

What is his reasoning behind not getting a driver's license? Is it a cultural thing?

 

Where did you move from? Is this closer to his family and friends and seperating you from your support group?

 

Is he from the US originally? Different countries and different cultures might play a role in his expectations and treatment of you.

 

Whose idea was counseling? I am assuming it was yours. Was he a willing participant or did he go "just to shut you up"? Counselling is only effective if both parties make the effort and want to be there.

[VenusJ4F]

I can understand how you are feeling. My husband and I have been going through a similar situation. What I have found best is let him know your frustrations and that you want to talk about this when he is ready. You can not force him to talk before he is ready. You need to take care of your self and find out what you want. Then let him know. You need to honest with him and your self.