Poppy47 Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 I was lunching with a couple of friends the other week. One of them was quiet all lunch time and we asked what was troubling her. She said her long term lover and AP had died recently. They had been lovers for 27 years. She is a professional woman , who never wished to marry or have children. He was her colleague in the field. A few of her close friends knew of the affair. She was always very happy with the arrangement. Now of course , she is grieving the loss of a very long relationship. I think this must be the longest affair I have ever heard of. Has anybody else heard of something similar....the OW being quite content with the arrangement and having a completely separate life over a long period of time? Poppy. Link to post Share on other sites
aninnymouse Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Katherine Hepburn was in a long term affair with her colleague/co-actor for many years until his death. She never married. Never had children. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Yes. It is assumed there are certain stereotypes in affairs of both parties and the dynamics around them. But there are many OP that see the affair as icing on the cake in their lives and have no interest in a different arrangement. Link to post Share on other sites
Broom Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Wow. Seems like she was pretty satisified in her situation. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 I've heard of extra long affairs. Where I'm originally from, some men go as far as to have a whole other secret family elsewhere. Whether the OW is truly happy or just takes it for what it is because she thinks is better than "nothing" is another thing entirely. For me, the length of a relationship doesn't really speak to its health or how truly satisfied people are with it. Not to say this woman wasn't satisfied, I don't know, but I'm just saying that people stay married and stay in all kinds of relationship arrangements out of complacency, fear of not finding better, comfort, it went on so long already so why bother change it, etc. so it's possible in a long term affair that some of the same kinds of things come into play. Whether one is a professional or not is neither here nor there, professional women and men have their issues like everyone else, high achieving people are not exempt from their foibles in matters of the heart. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 So for 27yrs she scre*ed over another human being [his wife/SO]. Real catch that one ... Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 I doubt there are many women who would be completely happy with this arrangement. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 Katherine Hepburn was in a long term affair with her colleague/co-actor for many years until his death. She never married. Never had children. Their relationship was an extraordinarily steamy affair, They were both bisexual. .... Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 I find the psychology behind this interesting. Look at how hard of a time APs have when seperated, I guess what keeps them calm is the knowledge that their partner is still out there. But your colleague can't contact him anymore. On a sidenote, if her AP was married; how ironic, the wife grieving on her husbands' grave even though he probably played her for a fool all along. Link to post Share on other sites
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