Been there , done that and have the wedding rings to prove it.

[Been-There1997]

Well just stumbled upon this site. And had to laugh. As I have been there and did it and have the wedding rings to prove it.. My situation is so much different than most though. Mine started out with ME dating him , him and I broke up. He got with his ex wife and me with my ex. We continually seen one another while he was dating , engaged and married to his ex etc. Though she knew about me from the start. She knew we were together sexually the whole time they were dating as well as married too. She whined about it but still married him. She should have had the clue when he married her , that I was with him (sexually) on the day that they married even. We never kept anything secret from her. She asked , we told. Ok , we did this for quite a few years , and then finally bit the big one. His relationship/marriage failed as did my relationship with my ex. Though my ex didn't know about my now husband and I. Him and I ended for total different reasons. We came together and discussed our failures ,what to do about them , looked for answers together etc. Ended up he proposed to me once again. And that time I accepted. He had proposed to me when we were 18 and I had told him no that I was not ready for a marriage then. And evidently neither was he. Well anyhow , his divorce came and went. We married as soon as his divorce was final. Two days later to be exact. What a blow that was to his now ex-wife ! LoL

 

We have been married for almost 8 years , it will be 8 this Halloween(2005). We have had good times and bad just as everyone else has. But I honestly feel that I have married my true soul mate. It seemed as if something always pulled us back together. And this time we just took it one step further. However , in my course of marriage I have realized that yes while I am happy etc. That it was not probably the best thing I could have ever done. That was to "assist" someone in cheating on their wife etc. So my views have changed about being faithfull etc. And I have came to know what it is like to be a spouse , worried about getting cheated on etc. I have not and feel that I have not been cheated on as well. But should he ever , I pity him and whomever he chooses to step out on me with.

 

There would be no end in sight to my wrath. I have learned my lessons about what was done in the past etc. And sooner or later sneaking around with someone behind their spouses back will catch up with you . One way or the other , either through guilt or the spouse themselves will catch up to ya.

And most times it is not pretty , nice and so on.

[newby]

well thats kinda like his WIFE was also the OW.

[lynnered]

[lynnered]

Originally posted by lynnered

yup agree newby!!

so it can work out !!

thats what i get from her post !!

i mean shes saying shed be pissed,

but at the same time she ended up happy,

so thanks Been-There1997

LOL

[newby]

yes lynnered, ha ha

BT'97 you are like a big advert for being an OW!

but seriously no i really got that since the wife came after her/you then she was actually the ow to your relationship despite the fact that he married her later, she was just the ow that got married during her time as ow!