Chris715 Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I've posted about this on the forums before but never as a dedicated topic. Problem is I'm 24, single most of my life, and with a pretty bad receding hairline that is a huge shot to my confidence when it comes to dating and asking girls out. It's currently not noticeable with my short hair and bangs but I'm sure it will only get worse from here. Whenever you ask girls about it (and really I've only seen it asked online) you always get the typical answers "confidence matters, not your hair" or "just shave it" etc. but I can't help but feel a lot of them say these things to just make the guy feel better. Ladies, please, looking for some HONEST opinions on whether you're put off by a guy in his 20's with a receding hairline.
Author Chris715 Posted January 28, 2015 Author Posted January 28, 2015 A few more things just to give people a better idea where my mindset it currently: Trying to make myself look the best I can with what I have. Keeping my hair short, styling it with gel. Like I said looks ok right now but I'm sure it will get worse as years go by. I'm tall, have good facial hair, am in decent shape and am working out to get into even better shape, so at least I have those things going for me if I am balding. If I just can't put up with it anymore I might try shaving my head eventually, and if that looks bad I'm seriously going to consider hair transplants. Call it shallow or stupid, whatever, I don't care.
orangetree Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 Honest opinion- I date the guy as a full package, not his hair. If he's attractive, makes me laugh, is intelligent and a good for for me, I seriously do not care about a receding hairline or other minor flaws. My boyfriend also has some hair loss problems, but more on the backside of the head- I honestly don't mind at all. And you shouldn't either. By the way, many famous men who are well known for being good-looking have receding hairlines- Jude Law, Matthew McConaughey... 2
Phoe Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I don't care about a hairline, it's not the guy's fault! As long as you keep it groomed it's fine. If you left your hair ungroomed and unkempt then I'd tell you to work on that, but that is totally regardless of the hairline.
ASG Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I've dated plenty of guys with receding hairlines and plenty of just straight up bald guys! Works better for me if you shave, but honestly, there's more to attraction than just the hair...
losangelena Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Hair/hairline has never been an issue for me when it comes to dating. And I say that completely honestly. Is it something that's keeping you from approaching women? Or something that you feel women are flat out rejecting you for? If it's the former, then that's a pathology that you're going to have to work to get over. I have a mole on my cheek. It's not like, HUGE, but it's noticeable, but it's been on my face so long that I don't really notice it. It's only when kids or babies fixate on it that I even think about it. I'm sure there are some guys who aren't into it, but I don't let it stop me from talking to dudes or dating them.
bathtub-row Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 One of the biggest loves of my life was a guy who I thought was not at all good looking when I met him. But it was his unwavering great mind and confidence that blew me out of the water. Then he became the most handsome thing I ever saw. Men often think that just because they're attracted to looks, that this is the primary thing that women focus on. A lot of women are more interested in kindness and confidence. Having said all that, though, I don't think a receding hairline is anything to get worked up about. William Hurt has a receding hairline and I think he's incredibly handsome. Learn to be confident about who you are and you'll be amazed at how attractive that is to women. 1
carhill Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 The nearly universal description of unattractiveness on LS is 'fat, old and bald'. I don't see it as being so pervasive in real life but did hear enough 'if only you had hair' over the decades to get the drift of such comments. Heh...
PogoStick Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 The nearly universal description of unattractiveness on LS is 'fat, old and bald'. I don't see it as being so pervasive in real life but did hear enough 'if only you had hair' over the decades to get the drift of such comments. Heh... It's true. Youth is attractive, and all 3 of those qualities implies being old: fat old bald You can also add in any other feature that makes you look old: poor skin-dry, leathery, freckles/sun damage outdated clothes and hairstyle the way you speak wrinkles drooping eyelids (one of the top cosmetic surgeries for men) lack of muscles the way you move yellow teeth Anyways, if you only have ONE of those qualities, you're not doing too bad. Focus on accentuating the positive qualities.
preraph Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 If you have a good shaped head (ask a barber) you would be better off shaving it. It wouldn't be as big a thing in an older like 40-ish age group, but at 24, it's hard to deal with. I have a close friend (female) who has been balding since your age and she has hers cut very short just to minimize the effect of the bald patches. I did know a young guy with very thinning hair who was in a band and used creative methods to maximize what he had. I'm sure since he had money, he probably also did plugs. And these days, you could consult with someone to see if there's any creative way to add extensions or something like that to fill in a patch, but receding is probably harder to deal with than the back or top bald spot. Be sure and try the products for it though because my girlfriend found they had some small limited value.
freetolove Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 You can try shaving it off. It doesn't bother me unless it's a combover. Personality and face also makes a difference.
Author Chris715 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Posted January 29, 2015 Hair/hairline has never been an issue for me when it comes to dating. And I say that completely honestly. Is it something that's keeping you from approaching women? Or something that you feel women are flat out rejecting you for? If it's the former, then that's a pathology that you're going to have to work to get over. I have a mole on my cheek. It's not like, HUGE, but it's noticeable, but it's been on my face so long that I don't really notice it. It's only when kids or babies fixate on it that I even think about it. I'm sure there are some guys who aren't into it, but I don't let it stop me from talking to dudes or dating them. It's something that keeps me from approaching women. I've never actually been rejected before, at least not with the initial date (not saying much though, I've only asked out a few girls in my life). I realize it's mainly a mental thing as like I said it's not THAT bad right now.
losangelena Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Then as much as you don't want to hear about it being a confidence thing, it really is a confidence thing. If you're automatically assuming that your receding hairline is the thing that's going to keep women away, then you're absolutely right—because it's the thing that's keeping you from approaching. I can't give you exact methods of getting over this. But for you, I'm sure this truly is purely a mental hurdle. I'm sure you embody a dozen good qualities that would make you an excellent catch. It's just that your hairline has become so forefront in your mind, it's obscuring your view of all your other attributes. 2
Methodical Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 A guy's hairline isn't that important to me and the shorter you keep it, the less obvious it is. Whatever you do, DON'T do the comb-over. That looks hideous. As for hair itself, cleanliness and groomed takes precedence over a guy's hairline. FWIW, I know several guys who shave their head and to me, they look more attractive. A great personality, charismatic, attentive, physically fit/takes pride in appearance and hygiene - those things are by far more important than hair
Omei Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 A guy friend I used to talk to online in a video game from my guild in my WoW days I thought he was 40 when I saw his picture later on I found out he was 3 years younger than me and im in my 20's. While I find it unattractive that doesn't mean to say if the right guy came along and he had a receding hairline and made efforts to court me who knows I could fall for him ive fallen for men I have found unattractive at first before, so who knows but upon just a glance no I wouldn't find it attractive. I suspect once I hit my 40's I will be more accepting of it. That is my total honest opinion 1
mario_C Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 I commonly hear from women in O.L.D. and life in general, that the man must have "all his own hair" (whatever that means) and "no baldies" plus lots of hostility towards halo effect or bald spot syndrome. And of course, we keep starting threads about this issue so it's obviously on everyone's minds. Honestly, stringy or "mad scientist" hair you can always control, but when your hair falls out there's not a damn thing you can do about it short of surgery, which won't help per the above quote.
AliOop Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 A receding hairline wouldn't bother me at all. Some of the sexiest men I've ever known were bald.
Omei Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 A receding hairline wouldn't bother me at all. Some of the sexiest men I've ever known were bald. But you say some of the sexiest men you have known were bald and I agree they are! but will you say... "some of the sexiest men ive ever known had a receding hairline"? meaning not bald.
losangelena Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Okay, also, just to clarify, what do you mean by "receding hairline," OP? To me, a receding hairline means that hair is creeping off your forehead. "Balding" makes me picture someone losing hair on top, moving outward. In this scenario, a "balding" man would be more of a candidate for shaving it all off. Whereas a man with a receding hairline may just have a high forehead. Seems posters are tossing the terms about as if they were all the same.
Omei Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 (edited) I think he means something like this.... http://a57.foxnews.com/global.fncstatic.com/static/managed/img/Health/2009/July/660/371/640_Statham.jpg?ve=1 or this http://www.stylist225.com/uploads/8/3/3/8/833856/653227_orig.jpg But god are they sexy maybe I will take back my statement of saying I didn't like men with receding hairline I didn't even notice these actors had it until now and ive seen them in films so many times! Edited January 29, 2015 by Omei 3
regine_phalange Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 The sweetest man I ever met had a handsome face and a receding hairline. I found it adorable. I still think of where he may be from time to time, and how bald he may be now.... Bottom line, if a woman fancies you then she'll fancy your receding hair. 1
Standard-Fare Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 OP as you're seeing on this thread it's not a dealbreaker for most women. However given your insecurities, I'd suggest that you go to a well-reputed hair salon and talk very honestly with a stylist about your concerns and your best options. It'd be great if you found a cut/style that doesn't draw attention to your receding hairline but also doesn't try too hard to hide it in shame. Or maybe he/she would recommend that you do go ahead with shaving it off or doing a buzz cut. Confidence is key. Really, a bald head or receding hairline is no big deal if the guy wears has some dignity and pride about it. 1
Bellaisa Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 It doesn't sound like you want an honest answer. Women have already told you that it is the confidence that matters, but you don't believe it. Not every woman is going to want to date a guy with a receding hairline, but most women will not care if the guy has the attitude they are looking for
Author Chris715 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Posted January 29, 2015 I think he means something like this.... http://a57.foxnews.com/global.fncstatic.com/static/managed/img/Health/2009/July/660/371/640_Statham.jpg?ve=1 or this http://www.stylist225.com/uploads/8/3/3/8/833856/653227_orig.jpg But god are they sexy maybe I will take back my statement of saying I didn't like men with receding hairline I didn't even notice these actors had it until now and ive seen them in films so many times! Yes this is what I'm talking about and dealing with. Of course it's not nearly as bad as them, compared to that I currently have a full head of hair. However like I said someday that could be me, hence looking for the input from women.
Omei Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Yes this is what I'm talking about and dealing with. Of course it's not nearly as bad as them, compared to that I currently have a full head of hair. However like I said someday that could be me, hence looking for the input from women. Well congrats on changing my mind, I didn't think it was attractive but surfing through some pictures I have seen of men that ive always found hot but never even once noticed their hairlines at all, so yes I now agree confidence and personality is total key. 2
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