Otter2569 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 After I got divorced I swore I would never marry again (I'm sure everyone says that!). Five years later I am dating an amazing woman that is the love of my life. We have both been married before and we both have teenage kids (that get a long great!). What would you do for a second wedding. I want something small, intimate and classy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Elope if you've both had all the getup before. Nice place of your choice and a small intimate gathering or just the two of you. Spend more on a nice honeymoon. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Share Posted January 30, 2015 My thoughts exactly!!! Something warm and beachy!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Use the opportunity [2nd honeymoon] to have sex without being afraid to scare the kids or be interrupted by the kids. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Share Posted January 30, 2015 Definitely thinking small and nice but was wondering what to do, if anything, since we both have teenagers? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Definitely thinking small and nice but was wondering what to do, if anything, since we both have teenagers? beach barefoot with those you love around you......or a garden wedding...a grove of pine trees....the smell is intoxicating......deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Share Posted January 30, 2015 Its funny, the two of us would be fine eloping or doing something with just us I love the garden idea! Since we both have kids I somehow feel the need to include them and make them part of this. At the same time they are teenagers - any negativity, smart ass remarks or bitching would really make me regret having them present. I want it to be special:love: Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Would you consider getting married on a cruise ship? You may have to book one adult into the cabins with the kids but then you just switch key cards once you board. You can have the wedding on board in the chapel or on a beach somewhere. N.B. you have to bring your own officiant. The ship's captain no longer does weddings. Another option might be a justice of the peace or City Hall ceremony then a party before you go on HM. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Definitely thinking small and nice but was wondering what to do, if anything, since we both have teenagers? I just celebrated my one-year anniversary with both me and my new husband who are in our 50s and he has teenage children. We had three events: 1. In California to get the legal part done, we had a small civil service at the courthouse. The whole "ceremony" took about 8 minutes and we didn't get to say anything to each other, just listened to the officiant. That was attended by close friends of mine (witnesses) after which we went to lunch after at a favored ocean-front restaurant. 2. Three weeks later - over Thanksgiving - we flew to the East Coast where my husband's aging parents and other family members live. At that event, we had a more "formal" ceremony where we got to say some vows to each other and include his teenage children. In that case, I had three rings; the engagement ring and then two small bands - one from my husband and a "family" ring that his kids gave me to bring us all together. So I now where a sandwich of three things. It also gave the opportunity for two of my friends who live in Europe to attend since it was a cheaper flight for them. My new bro-in-law and sister-in-law had a similar ceremony five years ago but with their teenage kids, they started with separate family candles and they all brought them together to light one, unity candle. You could also have small vials of sand - representing each person - who all pour together to form one, blended union. 3. A few months after the ceremonies, we threw a "reception" party at our house that I catered myself. That was just an opportunity to introduce mutual friends to each other and celebrate the union in less-formal circumstances. The most expensive thing about that was that I hired a guy to set-up and shuck oysters for our guests. It was great fun. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
girl-in-boots Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 2. Three weeks later - over Thanksgiving - we flew to the East Coast where my husband's aging parents and other family members live. At that event, we had a more "formal" ceremony where we got to say some vows to each other and include his teenage children. In that case, I had three rings; the engagement ring and then two small bands - one from my husband and a "family" ring that his kids gave me to bring us all together. So I now where a sandwich of three things. OMG that is so beautiful and such an wonderful gift from the kids OP maybe if you did end up combining it into a family holiday you and your SO could take a couple of days or so and head off on your own, obviously that is if the kids are old enough to be left. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted February 2, 2015 Author Share Posted February 2, 2015 CarrieT, that is a lot of wedding LOL I like the idea of something simple. Over the weekend my GF said that if I don't propose to her after a point in time that she is going to ask me to marry her. I thought this was one of the nicest things. I like the idea of having vows for each other but I know that I will probably be crying like a baby. Its probably safer and less emotional to go with the the "I do's" Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 CarrieT, that is a lot of wedding LOL It sounds like it, but it wasn't really... By doing it the way we did, we were able to involve everyone who wanted to be involved without having one BIG event. Three little ones that took far less effort and smaller venues (one restaurant, one Inn, and our house). Also, I bought my dress online. If you look at my profile picture, you will see me in a red dress which is what I wore on our first date. I was able to find the exact same dress in ivory for under $200 here. You could just find a park, hire a BBQ caterer, and invite all your friends to a big picnic and surprise them with the "ceremony!" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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