A Partners Sexual Past....An Article

[Tony T]

In the past few months there have been many posts regarding the trials and tribulations of partners' sexual pasts. Many people have broken up upon learning of the multiple sexual experiences, one night stands, etc., of their partners. Many just can't handle that information.

 

Here's a link to a very good article at MSNBC's sexploration area. You can simply copy the URL and paste it into your browser:

 

http://www.msnbc.com/news/538303.asp

 

I think you will find it very enlightening.

[nabul]

I think that the question: "how many partners have you had?" is absolutely silly, unncessary.

In the past few months there have been many posts regarding the trials and tribulations of partners' sexual pasts. Many people have broken up upon learning of the multiple sexual experiences, one night stands, etc., of their partners. Many just can't handle that information. Here's a link to a very good article at MSNBC's sexploration area. You can simply copy the URL and paste it into your browser: http://www.msnbc.com/news/538303.asp I think you will find it very enlightening.

[Miss Mojo]

I think that the question: "how many partners have you had?" is absolutely silly, unncessary.

 

personally, i don't see anything wrong with that particular question. i know a lot of people who don't mind knowing numbers, but nothing else. it's never worried me if a boyfriend has told me numbers - but no more details, thank you very much. but the one problem that can arise (and has for many people), is that they can't handle it when they hear it, when they thought they could.

 

now on the other hand, it's totally tacky and crossing the line when you talk about the details of what happened....that's something that should remain sacred and it's totally unclassy to say, "i did this with them, they did that with me...", "this one person i was with had a big/small (insert body part)". that's just grose.

 

i guess the moral of the story of is, don't mention it because the person who thinks they might be able to handle it, may ultimately be the person who just can't handle it at all in the long run. i think it's natural to be curious and it's natural for some people to want to know and hope that you're not with someone who has unprotected sex or are just a possible notch on a bedhead.

 

curiousity killed the cat, but curiousity can also kill the relationship. especially when you can't handle something you thought you could.