Mi7522 Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 (edited) You have been broken up for two weeks. What exactly have each of you been doing since then to resolve the issues that caused the break up? IMO that is not near enough time to fix whatever issues you two had to end the relationship but who knows maybe everything was a misunderstanding that is easily resolved Edited February 10, 2015 by Mi7522 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 I can't handle it anymore. He was supposed to come out Thursday and then we changed it to Friday and he didn't come out either day; all which were his idea. Today I messaged him saying "I just wanted to say that I miss hanging out with you. I'm sorry if that makes you uncomfortable but it's how I feel. I don't expect you to reply or reply at all but I just felt like letting you know that I wish we could start over from square one; I'm sorry for what happened between us; and I honestly just miss getting the chance to hang out with you" He replied "Hey, sorry for the delayed response...I'm at work and trying to get out early because I'm not feeling too well..." I replied "It's okay. I'm sorry for my delayed response...I just needed to get that off my chest...feel better...I just wanted to know how you felt as well. Not like physically felt but what I sent earlier." I haven't heard from from since then which was a few hours ago. What do I do now? I miss him so much. Link to post Share on other sites
EternalSummer Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 Hun...I say, just chill out for a little. I mean, he is sick, and it's only been a couple of hours...I know you wanna text him again, but just relax a little bit. Have you been doing anything to occupy your time? Link to post Share on other sites
Cedar27 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 Do nothing. Don't reach out to him anymore. You've done your best, you communicated to him what you want, how you feel, etc. Time to put the ball in his court and step away. Realize that this is your best chance of winning him back, but it is also the most difficult. So do you want to take the easy way (keep bugging him) and ruin all your chances? Or do things the hard way (no contact) and give yourself the best odds of reconciliation? If he wants to see you, he will find a way. You don't need to put any more effort into this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 I have been trying to but I just can't seem to focus at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 I know that's what I am supposed to do but I feel like his nasty "friends" are going to open there mouths again and keep him from seeing me. Link to post Share on other sites
Cedar27 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 If your ex really wanted to see you it wouldn't matter what his friends said. If his friends are that big of an influence on him that they would keep him from you he is not the type of person that should even be in a relationship. why are his friends telling him not to see you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 His friends were the one's that told him "You're not happy in this relationship" and he didn't stand up to them. These are also the same "friends" that pressure him to go out and drink even though he says no. Link to post Share on other sites
Mi7522 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 What has happened for you to think his friends are nasty? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 Instead of being supportive of him meeting someone outside of the group of people they met at school, they made me feel unwelcomed and in turn made my ex feel like he wasn't happy with me b.c I wasn't friendly enough with them. Mind you for a month I was in NYC helping them move and getting to know them Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 They would hog him all to themself and tell inside jokes and he would get looped in bc he didnt want them to feel like he was ignoring them but in turn his friends turned him away from me and now I just want a moment of him to myself to show him like "HELLO YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME!!" Link to post Share on other sites
Cedar27 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 Your ex's friends sound like a bunch of children, and by extension your ex boyfriend also has quite a bit of growing up to do. Perhaps you should allow your ex to find out the hard way where his priorities lie. It sounds like right now they lie elsewhere. Certainly he has little motivation to get back with you right now, that we know for sure. How old are all of you? Are you all college aged? Because it sounds like a lot of this friend drama is real immature. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 I'm personally 21 as his my ex. His friend's rang from 20-23 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anthonyl Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 And just like that he told me he has no feelings for me but does actually still want to be my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 And just like that he told me he has no feelings for me but does actually still want to be my friend. Then that alone should tell you all you need to hear. You want more and he doesn't. You need to stop contacting him because he has made it pretty clear by his words and actions. The fact that you haven't met back up and the day kept changing should tell you something. Stop trying to force something that is not mutually there and move on. You can go out and find someone that has the time and wants to be with you. It will happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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