smoothcriminal94 Posted February 1, 2015 Share Posted February 1, 2015 My boyfriend and I split nearly a month ago due to constantly arguing. We were together a year and it ended on our anniversary. He ended it and put me out the house. I was heartbroken. I now live 60 miles away with my parents. He told me he wanted to go NC for at least a month and I agreed. He lasted a week before he contacted me. I ignored at first but ended up replying after he tried a few times to speak to me. So basically after 2 weeks of on off talking, he messages me to say he wants to meet up and see how things go and made it pretty obvious he made a mistake as was very apologetic, when he comes back from work (he's offshore for a month). I went mad saying how can you expect me to want to be with you after what you did?! You don't just click your fingers and expect me to come running back! I basically ignored all his messages after that for a few days. But ended up chatting again. It's the weirdest thing though, the first 2 weeks I was a mess and would have done anything to get back with him. But now I know he wants to try again I literally have no interest and feel nothing for him. I don't know wether this is just because of all of this happening recently and its all a bit much of if I have genuinely lost feelings for him. The feelings changed so suddenly. We have been talking every day for the past week and I find it hard to talk to him, totally uninterested and as if he is a stranger. Its just not the same. So I don't know wether I should cut off contact and not speak to him again. I'm afraid this may be too drastic as I did agree to meet up when he's home. Maybe the feelings will come back then? Maybe not. I'm unsure on what to do. I don't want to waste time and get hurt again. Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted February 1, 2015 Share Posted February 1, 2015 The human mind wants what it doesn't have. Ever seen a kid witness another kid borrow one of his old toys, one that he hasn't touched in years, and all of a sudden, it's the best toy in the world and the other kid is not allowed to touch it? It's the same. You acted out of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 You were together a year. A week or two is too soon to consider reconciliation. Things are still too fresh for either of you to know what to do. I would recommend a much longer period of (real) no contact - a month or two, like you originally agreed to - before you re-evaluate your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
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