Selena's 10th Anniversary Of Her Death Made Me Think

[Naive]

Yesterday was the 10th anniversary of Selena's death and they had this BIG tribute for her that is going to last all the way to next week. I have to accept that when she died it was shocking for me because I actually liked her singing but I know of a lot of people that did not know who she was and now that she is dead they hold big tributes for her. This made me think a lot, why is it that we wait for someone to die to take them flowers and honor them, etc??? Why not do it when the person is alive?

 

There is no point of doing all this big things for people once they are dead because they don't know anything anymore. I guess it's a way to make yourself feel better.

 

Don't mind me, sometimes I get all weird about the strangest subjects!!!

[tanbark813]

I know what you mean. Unfortunately, the reason for this is mainly people acting out of self-interest. I'm sure some people really are/were genuinely saddened by her passing and want to show in some way what she meant to them. I think these people are in the minority though. I think a lot of people just like to involve themselves in tributes (or protests or other highly publicized events for that matter) to make themselves feel like a better person and make themselves feel like they're better than other people. It's kind of like, "Hey look at me. I'm sensitive and deeply moved by this tragic event, therefore I must be enlightened or elevated in some way."

[Naive]

Originally posted by tanbark813

I know what you mean. Unfortunately, the reason for this is mainly people acting out of self-interest. I'm sure some people really are/were genuinely saddened by her passing and want to show in some way what she meant to them. I think these people are in the minority though. I think a lot of people just like to involve themselves in tributes (or protests or other highly publicized events for that matter) to make themselves feel like a better person and make themselves feel like they're better than other people. It's kind of like, "Hey look at me. I'm sensitive and deeply moved by this tragic event, therefore I must be enlightened or elevated in some way."

 

 

Exactly!! That is what pisses me off because about3/4 of the people did not do such a big commotion over her when she was alive!! Instead of doing all that they should pray for her family's pain so that they can be strong around this time.

[LittleMiss]

I live in South Texas close to her home town, and there was a lot of commotion around here yesterday. It really affected a lot of people around here. Mostly the his panic community. We were so proud of that girl. She made such a difference in Tejano music and opened up a lot of doors for female singers that are around now. There are a lot of people around here who knew Selena. She loved people and was really sweet. I know when she was alive she was a BIG thing around here. We couldn't get enough of her. I personally was a big fan. I know when she was alive she was treated like royalty, and people always showed her their appreciation. Now people are saddened and really, truly miss her. A lot of us feel like we lost a friend.

[Naive]

I am sure that there are a lot of other people like you tabatha that feel genuine sadness over her loss but there are many more that started making a fuss about her until she died. I mean she was a great singer and an extraordinary person but I cannot help but get offended when they make such a big fuss about her when they never even heard of her songs until she died. Regardless of anything though she is a rising legend!!!!

[LittleMiss]

Originally posted by ~Naive~

I am sure that there are a lot of other people like you tabatha that feel genuine sadness over her loss but there are many more that started making a fuss about her until she died. I mean she was a great singer and an extraordinary person but I cannot help but get offended when they make such a big fuss about her when they never even heard of her songs until she died. Regardless of anything though she is a rising legend!!!!

 

I agree with you. It's sad that she wasn't appreciated until she was already gone and there was a movie made about her life.

[Naive]

Originally posted by g_tabatha

 

 

I agree with you. It's sad that she wasn't appreciated until she was already gone and there was a movie made about her life.

 

 

There you go that's exactly what I meant!!!

 

By the way, what happened with your pimped out avvie?

[LittleMiss]

I missed having a pink eye

[quankanne]

Regardless of anything though she is a rising legend!!!!

 

maybe people want to jump on the bandwagon now, especially the bigger names? Not that I'm dissing Gloria Estefan, I think she's a great gal, but it's kind of odd that you didn't hear a lot of "hey, I think Selena's the greatest thing since sliced bread" when she was alive from people at Estefan's level ... that I know of, so it makes me wonder is someone's milking her fame for all it's worth (not talking about Selena's family here, either) ...

 

I hadn't realized it was the 10th anniversary until I picked up the dallas paper and they had listings of what was going on around the state -- I figured a lot of the Tejano groups would get together in STX to do tributes, but then again, she was pretty big in Houston.

 

I honestly wish we could have seen her continue her career -- she's much more talented than Jennifer Lopez could ever be, in my not-so-humble opinion.

[LittleMiss]

Originally posted by quankanne

-- she's much more talented than Jennifer Lopez could ever be, in my not-so-humble opinion.

 

I couldn't agree with you more!

[moimeme]

People take people for granted. You think someone will live a long time and so you'll have time to let him or her know you care. And then - *poof* - they're gone and you feel bad for not having said anything to them and you try to 'make it up' afterward.

[Nicholas]

"Hey look at me. I'm sensitive and deeply moved by this tragic event, therefore I must be enlightened or elevated in some way."

When musicians close to me die, I get extremely emotional.

 

I would be very upset if someone thought the above about me, if I ever did participate in some form of tribute. Because the benefits of pointing out a "poser" are greatly overshadowed by the detriment you'd be doing to them, I would say you should give people the benefit of the doubt.

[westernxer]

I, like most people, didn't even know who Selena was until they announced her death on television. Now that she's deceased, her legend will continue to grow, moreso than if she were alive.

 

As with most pop stars, which Selena certainly was, celebrity will fade. Luckily for Selena, she was killed while her star was on the rise, which makes her passing even more tragic. I don't think her music was anything special, but then again, I wasn't a teenage latina at the time she was killed.

 

Kurt Cobain's death affected me more than any other, but he had already reached his commercial peak before he decided to blow his brains out. It's too bad... he was such a great musician, yet he couldn't find the strength to defeat his demons. Now his legend is intact.

 

If you're a beloved musician and you die prematurely, you will be forever worshipped by the masses, even if you haven't reached your full musical potential. If you're lucky enough to live into your golden years, a la Johnny Cash, Ray Charles, and Bob Dylan, who's still going strong, then you have to wait it out as the next generation steals your thunder while simultaneously kissing your ass.

 

Regardless, Gene Simmons will still be tooting his own horn about the genius of KISS, and David Bowie will still be... well, David Bowie, even after heart surgery. The Roling Stones will still be selling out across the globe, even if it's just for their older hits, since no one cares about their new material. I think audiences just want to make sure Keith Richards isn't a mummy.

 

The dead are truly among us.

[tanbark813]

Originally posted by Nicholas

When musicians close to me die, I get extremely emotional.

 

I would be very upset if someone thought the above about me, if I ever did participate in some form of tribute. Because the benefits of pointing out a "poser" are greatly overshadowed by the detriment you'd be doing to them, I would say you should give people the benefit of the doubt.

 

If you reread my post, I stated: "I'm sure some people really are/were genuinely saddened by her passing and want to show in some way what she meant to them." So you happen to be in that minority.

 

I do, however, think a lot of people just jump on the bandwagon. Besides, my thinking that of people does no detriment to them anyway and it's been my experience that people are given the benefit of the doubt too often.