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[mystic29]

Hi so here we go ive been a military wife for the last 8 year me and my so got married at 18 had our first child at 20 ..A few months after I got pregnant everything went bad .He had just left for his first Deployment I got a message from a girl telling me that he was hers and I should back off ,we spoke about it and he admitted he cheated .I felt betrayed that girl made my whole pregnancy a nightmare .He begged for forgiveness I forgive cause thats who I am .. He claimed he stopped as years go by I keep finding out about more women everytime he would beg for forgiveness and I would forgive because Some may say im stupid but I loved him and I also cared about what if people find out..I put up with his **** then I decided ok since he wanna cheat two can play that game I started having an affair with a younger guy he treated me better than my husband did and made me feel great and alive .. FFWD baby number 3 he asked me to moved back home so I can get a house for us so he can get out the military and we can settle ..unfortunately I didnt find a house we started living with his mom which he insisted I love my mil and his family and they adore me ...couple months later he told his mom he had a female family friend that didnt have anywhere to stay if she can stay there cause she was living on the streets until she get herself together ..His mom said no I practically begged her cause she believe in me and she agreed,for I see how unhappy he was n he love helping people .Couple months later I found out he was sleeping with her everynight i went to bed in every room .that was empty I told him she had to go or ill leave ...she left went to another country ,then she came back and claimed she started life over ..Few months later he found out about my affair he was devastated he told everyone even though I never let anyone know what he was doing I just let it be .His mom talk dto me she talked to him she totally understand where i was coming from with everything .Anyways fwd I just found out IM pregnant with bb number 4 he said ok wwe got our own place he told me i had to quit my job cause the commute was 2 hrs I did .He however stays on campus during the week so he go to school since the commute is also 2 hrs .A few days ago I got this weird feeling he was cheating again so I decide to see what it was I called the girl phone from an unknown number and he answered So i text from an app and ask who it was the reply I got was its my man watever ..He then took the phone and call back saying that o Im her man what u wanna do something or u just gonna be quiet without knowing who it was ..I then said yea thank you for confirming ...I'm confused I love him I do everything to please him Im pregnant with baby number 4 and at this point of my pregnancy I dont know what to do or say I been trying my best to be strong I dont know what to do ...He text me after and said I can sign the divorce papers that he gonna file ...I dont know what to do please any adive ..I know everything might be everything and confusing please excuse

[beach]

Can you move in with family and get a job to support yourself?

 

You need to make decisions to take charge of your life and begin becoming independent and self supporting.

 

He's a serial cheater - don't expect HIM to change. Change comes when YOU change things.

[LoveMyCat]

Hi so here we go ive been a military wife for the last 8 year me and my so got married at 18 had our first child at 20 ..A few months after I got pregnant everything went bad .He had just left for his first Deployment I got a message from a girl telling me that he was hers and I should back off ,we spoke about it and he admitted he cheated .I felt betrayed that girl made my whole pregnancy a nightmare .He begged for forgiveness I forgive cause thats who I am .. He claimed he stopped as years go by I keep finding out about more women everytime he would beg for forgiveness and I would forgive because Some may say im stupid but I loved him and I also cared about what if people find out..I put up with his **** then I decided ok since he wanna cheat two can play that game I started having an affair with a younger guy he treated me better than my husband did and made me feel great and alive .. FFWD baby number 3 he asked me to moved back home so I can get a house for us so he can get out the military and we can settle ..unfortunately I didnt find a house we started living with his mom which he insisted I love my mil and his family and they adore me ...couple months later he told his mom he had a female family friend that didnt have anywhere to stay if she can stay there cause she was living on the streets until she get herself together ..His mom said no I practically begged her cause she believe in me and she agreed,for I see how unhappy he was n he love helping people .Couple months later I found out he was sleeping with her everynight i went to bed in every room .that was empty I told him she had to go or ill leave ...she left went to another country ,then she came back and claimed she started life over ..Few months later he found out about my affair he was devastated he told everyone even though I never let anyone know what he was doing I just let it be .His mom talk dto me she talked to him she totally understand where i was coming from with everything .Anyways fwd I just found out IM pregnant with bb number 4 he said ok wwe got our own place he told me i had to quit my job cause the commute was 2 hrs I did .He however stays on campus during the week so he go to school since the commute is also 2 hrs .A few days ago I got this weird feeling he was cheating again so I decide to see what it was I called the girl phone from an unknown number and he answered So i text from an app and ask who it was the reply I got was its my man watever ..He then took the phone and call back saying that o Im her man what u wanna do something or u just gonna be quiet without knowing who it was ..I then said yea thank you for confirming ...I'm confused I love him I do everything to please him Im pregnant with baby number 4 and at this point of my pregnancy I dont know what to do or say I been trying my best to be strong I dont know what to do ...He text me after and said I can sign the divorce papers that he gonna file ...I dont know what to do please any adive ..I know everything might be everything and confusing please excuse

 

You have already stayed married to this guy for way too long...forgiving a cheater is seldom in your best interests. Better to have left the first time, now you have four kids to raise...but it is too late to do anything but move forward. You need to get a lawyer right away and he needs to pay to set his family up with a place to live. In the meantime I hope your in-laws will help you out. Loving him is beside the point now, even if you somehow do, though I have to wonder why.

[Sassy Girl]

Please stop bringing children into this mess.