sunshine008 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 I've read many posts on here but have never come across something like this.... I was with my MM for 2 1/2 years and then one day, he doesn't "feel it" anymore with me. He doesn't want to talk, reason or see each other. He was in the process of divorce, the wife moved out, and he was going to be free in a month. Yeah, I guess he really wanted to be free. But what a callous way to do it. I don't think highly of him at all...I have no respect for a person who can do this to someone...and he is a tiny, sad man now. I wish him nothing. Has this ever happened to any of you? All of a sudden.....gone. Guess he really did want to be free. Me? I'm doing fine now...realizing what a scum he was. Thanks for listening. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 I'm glad you're doing okay now. Maybe he changed his mind on the divorce, maybe his feelings for you disappeared, maybe he realized he wanted to be single, it could've been a handful of things. That has not happened to me, however I have heard of this happening- it's usually in cases where the MM changes his mind in the process of the divorce proceedings. All that matters though it that you're doing okay now. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Many men will USE a transition woman to get through or over a divorce. However, her usefulness runs out and he wants to be free of any relationship or doesn't want commitment. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 That is really sad and hurtful. I can't say I've ever heard of someone doing this. You're obviously better off without him but what a heartless and chicken way to handle things. Link to post Share on other sites
Be_Strong Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Sounds like he just wants a fresh start all around. He'll play the field now as a single guy and don't be surprised if he tries to get you back if he has no luck. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 I've read many posts on here but have never come across something like this.... I was with my MM for 2 1/2 years and then one day, he doesn't "feel it" anymore with me. He doesn't want to talk, reason or see each other. He was in the process of divorce, the wife moved out, and he was going to be free in a month. Yeah, I guess he really wanted to be free. But what a callous way to do it. I don't think highly of him at all...I have no respect for a person who can do this to someone...and he is a tiny, sad man now. I wish him nothing. Has this ever happened to any of you? All of a sudden.....gone. Guess he really did want to be free. Me? I'm doing fine now...realizing what a scum he was. Thanks for listening. Some people can fall in and out of love fast. Unfortunately as painful as this has been for you, he has every right to change his mind and end it with you. Just like he's ended his marriage. Seems the guy wants to be free and not committed to anybody. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lurkeraspect Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 To me it sounds like he has either gone back to his marriage or has found someone else. He doesn't sound like much of a catch for anyone. I'd chalk this up to lesson learned. No more married men, hopefully. Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 What a jerk! I think you dodged a bullet as painful as it is. Forget him and let him go and make a new life. Poppy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Ive read many stories including my own where they just up and poof, done. And while it does hurt, it hurts worse for those who feel it slipping through their fingers, see the writing on the wall and the AP is hot and cold strings them along and it ends horribly. This was quick for you though not painless. You will be able to recover in time. Best wishes, be glad this user is gone. Link to post Share on other sites
FireandIce007 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 The affair was a symptom of the problems that were going on in his marriage. You were filling a void and many times an escape from his marriage. Now that he is free and single to do as he pleases he doesn't want to be tied down again. Why would he? Don't be surprised if he had other AP's. I'm sorry 2 1/2 years was spent on this man that just 'didn't feel it' anymore. Pick yourself up, dust your shoulders off and be grateful its over. You've learned a valuable lesson from this. Don't get involved with a married man that promises you the world, especially that he's leaving his wife. Now your left wondering what happened and you deserve so much more. Its a blessing in disguise. Smiling darling and know that you are better because of it. Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 How are you doing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshine008 Posted February 13, 2015 Author Share Posted February 13, 2015 How are you doing? Hi Jellybean89 - thanks for asking. Actually, I am doing very well. I realized a few things and it's helped me immensely. First, I had to change my way of thinking. It wasn't me at all that caused this, it was him. I was never mean or hurtful to him but after he told me goodbye, he was very hurtful and spiteful to me. We talked only a few more times after that, but what he said was very hurting. And I never talked or would talk that way to him. It showed the true person he really is. Why would I possibly want THAT in my life? Things work out for a reason, and now I know why. Second, I needed to breathe. People always say keep busy, and that does help, but when I finally sat by myself, took some deep breaths, it all became clear to me: I didn't deserve to be treated like this at all. If he can find someone as loving and fun as me, let him. But, I doubt he will. haha How are you JB? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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