indyboy362 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Does this count as breaking NC? I've been in NC for 2.5 months and it's been difficult as hell, but I'm getting through it. I've blocked her on facebook, unfollowed her on instagram, and deleted her off my snapchat list. But when I make stories she can still view them. Is this a bad thing? Am I breaking NC when she sees what I'm doing with my life? I know I can set it so that only my friends can see my stories but maybe it's a good thing that she can still see my life. Part of me enjoys this small connection that I still have with her and maybe making her a little jealous with the snaps. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
towardthefuture Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I'd say it's bad for your healing for two reasons: 1) On the YOU end, it's REMINDING you of her. 2) On the HER end, you should be a GHOST, like a complete dead person 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author indyboy362 Posted February 3, 2015 Author Share Posted February 3, 2015 If I wanted her back someday would being a ghost be a better strategy than having her sometimes see the awesome things I do in my life from time to time on snapchat? The relationship was so special and I'm sure she misses me and she'll realize her mistake eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Does this count as breaking NC? I've been in NC for 2.5 months and it's been difficult as hell, but I'm getting through it. I've blocked her on facebook, unfollowed her on instagram, and deleted her off my snapchat list. But when I make stories she can still view them. Is this a bad thing? Am I breaking NC when she sees what I'm doing with my life? I know I can set it so that only my friends can see my stories but maybe it's a good thing that she can still see my life. Part of me enjoys this small connection that I still have with her and maybe making her a little jealous with the snaps. Thanks How do you know she can or does see them if you've deleted her? Link to post Share on other sites
towardthefuture Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 If I wanted her back someday would being a ghost be a better strategy than having her sometimes see the awesome things I do in my life from time to time on snapchat? The relationship was so special and I'm sure she misses me and she'll realize her mistake eventually. No one knows. Something tells me if she really wants to find out what you're doing in your life she'll find a way to do so, either by asking you directly or some other zany means. Maybe it is better to show change. That said, in the couple months immediately following the breakup you should go full NC both because you're clearly looking for her validation from that actions you're taking (a sign you're not over her) and because NC raises her curiosity level in you, especially if you've 'been improving' -- her imagination will make you appear more improved and more mysterious than you actually showing your improvements. Link to post Share on other sites
Author indyboy362 Posted February 3, 2015 Author Share Posted February 3, 2015 How do you know she can or does see them if you've deleted her? It shows her username in the list of all the people that have viewed the snapchat story. Link to post Share on other sites
dezzy1028p Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I'm actually having the same feeling too..i deleted and blocked my ex from everything. Except my ex can see my stories on snapchat. Recently, they deleted me (they werent on the "added friends" list anymore) and I was actually somewhat hurt by it when he did. I felt as if he was hurt by seeing my stories or just gave up...i was curious why they left now after 2 months since the breakup. You might get hurt if they stopped viewing your snapchat or just deleted you as a friend. Anyway, for me, he recently added me again and I feel like he is just messing with me now. I wanted that attachment too, but I know the curiosity kills me when he views my stories on snapchat since idk how he's reacting to them. So now, I'm just leaving it for friends to see instead of everyone. That way I know he wont view my story and not having that connection is better for my healing anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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