Which gender ends relationships?

[Acacia98]

OK I have 2 serious questions, 1) I guess it's been documented that women initiate more divorces, has it ever been documented which gender ruins more relationships? 2) why do so many people love to try to DIVIDE people by gender anyway, does it help anything or serve any purpose besides having a whole half of population to blame for stuff? I have been dumped and my closest friend was dumped, it's not "rare"!!

 

I find the whole gender debate tedious, Rejected Rosebud. You find people the world over making generalizations about all men or all women because of a study that was conducted on a cross-section of middle-class Americans (for instance) in one particular college town/university city. I think I prefer to talk about individual experiences. And if I go down the road of generalizing, then I'm gonna make generalizations that explain why both men and women behave a particular way.

[autumnnight]

When I was engaged way back when, one of my friends who had been married awhile said this: Don't start doing something that you are not happy to do for the rest of your life once you start.

 

I thought that was kind of mean, honestly. But she was right, and it was not an indictment against her husband. When people start doing things for us, after awhile, it becomes a "given." I remember living alone again and realizing that I was the only one who was there to take out the trash lol. It's sort of a rotten bait and switch for someone to do something for their spouse every day or week for ten years and then one day not only decide "I quit," but to then get MAD that they have to do it.

 

If something is not working, then you talk about it, you don't change the rules without telling anyone and then pout.

[clevelander321]

this is a funny view, imo. you're assuming women fresh out of a marriage and likely saddled with 2+ kids are going to be hot and get hit on and reap financial rewards? ummm... no. perhaps if she was still in her 20s and married for about a year. women who have been married any length of time - and who have kids - rarely end the marriage looking as hot as they did when they entered it. and they probably didn't have kids either. not sure they are going to have a lot of options when they hit the dating scene. and seeing as how many women quit jobs to be stay-at-home moms and support their husbands... well, they don't benefit financially either because many gave up education and schooling for a family, so finding work is harder for them.

 

Yes, logicallyt this makes sense.

 

However, in real life, things are much different.

 

A woman who is "unsatisfied" in marriage has no problem starting to date while still being married. These are the women who typically end a relationship. They wait until someone else better comes along. Often times the woman will not even view this as cheating.

 

You will rarely see a woman leave a man over little things unless she is already cheating.

[Robert Z]

I think I have a pretty good understanding of why men commit suicide two to four times more often than women. Women tend to feign suicide [so called failed attempts] while men actually kill themselves.

 

Thank god for escorts.

 

The more I read here, the more I think marriage is a sad joke. It often strikes me that women should just marry women. So much criticism over such trivial nonsense. I guess I was a fool to try to make my marriage work. I should have just taken the first good excuse and ditched her.

Edited February 18, 2015 by Robert Z

[ktya]

It does come from a place of fear and pain but if this kind of thing doesn't work then why do men who truly care and don't treat women like toys so often end up alone and heartbroken? Why do I so often see these men getting dumped for men who treat women like options? Can you not understand why witnessing and even experiencing this would be become discouraging to men? The player is more often than not an act of desperation for men who tried the other way and it blew up in their face.

 

The underlying causation for this differentiation is that what women say they want and what they actually want are two entirely different things.

 

They SAY they want a nice guy who will treat them nice and always be there for them. Then they get with such a guy and they doormat him and say he's too needy and too easy to push around.

 

They SAY they dont want a slightly arrogant aloof guy who couldnt be bothered because he could easily just get another girl. And then they get him and struggle to remain the apple in his eye and cry by the phone when he doesn't call.

 

I'm not saying being a player (ie. lying, cheating and secretly dating multiple women) is good at all. Honesty is the best policy in all respects.

 

But Woogle is right. Women are attracted to men who have options. That single guy who hasnt been laid in four years all alone with his cat and his books may attract some women, but the vast majority are after the guy they can smell the pussy on his dick.

 

Dont beleive me? Watch the guy who posts an OLD profile where he's surrounded by hot chicks in every picture go on four dates a week.

[ktya]

The more I read here, the more I think marriage is a sad joke. It often strikes me that women should just marry women. So much criticism over such trivial nonsense. I guess I was a fool to try to make my marriage work. I should have just taken the first good excuse and ditched her.

 

There's a movie called The Naked Truth with Julia Roberts.

 

She calls into the guys relationship show, single and alone and says something to the tune of:

 

"I just want to find a guy, who will walk down the beach with me with a glass of red wine, watch the sunset with me and snuggle under a blanket as the stars come out" (I am going from memory this is not an exact quote)

 

the guy on the show says

 

"Your problem is that you are lesbian. You dont want a man. You just described a woman. You are a lesbian, a woman is what you want."

 

I laughed so hard I almost fell off the couch because of how true it was.

 

I had broken up with my fiancee a year prior and she dragged me into couples counselling (what a waste of time). She complained about how I was into paintball and I had my buddies over and how I would wrestle with them and how we always talked about our sport.

 

I was like Im a red blooded A-type personality male what do you expect. The counsellor laughed really hard at that one and tried to get back to the basics that men and women are different.