Cosmogrl14 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. I love him with all my heart but I have made a lot of mistakes which has caused him to lose confidence and trust in me. I have been faithful to him throughout my entire relationship with him so I haven't cheated. When I met him I was not in any committed relationships and was hooking up with a couple guys but said goodbye to both of them when my boyfriend and I got together because he made me feel that I deserved more. I want to spend my life with him and we have even gotten to the point to where I am leaving my clothes and stuff at his place. We live an hour apart so with our work schedules I can only see him on the weekends. He is a shipping coordinator and I am a hair dresser so our schedules don't give us much time together. Unfortunately my problem is that he doesn't feel I am committed to this relationship. I don't have a car, I still live at home with my parents, paying loans and trying to save money for a car among other things as well. I want to show him my commitment and have even gone to thinking of getting a tattoo for him. I don't want to keep him waiting for an answer so i need something to do to show him I am committed to him ASAP. Please help me!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
remote Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 There are many ways to show commitment in a relationship, and IMO getting a tattoo for someone is a terribly bad idea. Care to elaborate what kind of mistakes you made that made him lose confidence and trust? The best is to talk to him and find out what are the actual reasons why he doesn't feel you're committed and work from there. To me, tattoo shows nothing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 An hour apart is NOT long distance. Since you have a job & live at home presumably you have the opportunity to save for a car. Are you doing that? For now, keep up the communications. A text, a FB note, even an occasional snail mail card will remind him that you are thinking about him & he's important to you. Plan something romantic for Valentine's Day. Whatever mistakes you made in the past, do not repeat them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmogrl14 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 (edited) I have forgotten promises and haven't followed through with compromises that he and I have come to make. He isn't the main reason why I would get a tattoo certainly wouldn't be getting his name tattooed to my body or anything like that. And no matter how hard I try I just seem to keep making the same mistakes regardless of whether I'm aware of it or not. I just don't know what to do because this isn't who I really am. I'm not the forgetful girlfriend who doesn't care. And yes reason I am working so much is to save for a car. I just started a new job at another salon and so far making more money. But am having such a hard time saving. Edited February 4, 2015 by Cosmogrl14 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 . But am having such a hard time saving. Do you have a budget? If not keep track of your spending. Write down every penny you spend & on what for a week. Analyze that data & see what you can cut out. If you have a coffee habit, start bringing it from home etc. Before you spend any money ask yourself do I want this more than I want a car to see my BF? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I have forgotten promises and haven't followed through with compromises that he and I have come to make. He isn't the main reason why I would get a tattoo certainly wouldn't be getting his name tattooed to my body or anything like that. And no matter how hard I try I just seem to keep making the same mistakes regardless of whether I'm aware of it or not. I just don't know what to do because this isn't who I really am. I'm not the forgetful girlfriend who doesn't care. And yes reason I am working so much is to save for a car. I just started a new job at another salon and so far making more money. But am having such a hard time saving. What type of promises and compromises are you failing to fulfill? And what sort of mistakes are you talking about? It would help us if we knew what was going on; we can give better feedback that way. Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Yes, I have an idea for you. What ever you do, try it to be a surprise. Next week try to take half day off work, and go to his place without letting him know, and wait for him there. If you can't wait and you leave in his place a gift, it's OK. You can take call him and play a song he loves to hear (on the phone), Or play an "I love you" song. Yes... Clichés like that do the work as long it's not on schedule and comes by surprise. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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