Jump to content

Is it ever acceptable to use an engagement ring twice?


Recommended Posts

The way I hear girls talk about wedding rings sounds like a bunch of guys sitting around comparing the size of their schlongs.

 

I remember listening to my brothers fiancée going on about it... Diamond had to be x size and it had to be "white" gold. Looks silver to me.

 

My mother has one of my Great Grandmothers rings set aside for me when a chap wants to propose. Its pretty, understated, fits and the diamonds are well set so they shouldn't fall out while mucking out and washing up.

 

I know I am probably a bit off the wall but I hate large jewels. To me they are vulgar and I believe that anything worn like that should compliment a womans beauty not over shadow it.

 

Each to their own.

  • Like 1
Link to post
Share on other sites
I remember listening to my brothers fiancée going on about it... Diamond had to be x size and it had to be "white" gold. Looks silver to me.

 

My mother has one of my Great Grandmothers rings set aside for me when a chap wants to propose. Its pretty, understated, fits and the diamonds are well set so they shouldn't fall out while mucking out and washing up.

 

I know I am probably a bit off the wall but I hate large jewels. To me they are vulgar and I believe that anything worn like that should compliment a womans beauty not over shadow it.

 

Each to their own.

 

Depends on the age and the body of the woman ... sometimes something is needed to distract.

Link to post
Share on other sites
CrystalCastles
and pigs fly in this fantasy world of yours

 

Why is it a fantasy if a woman doesn't want a diamond engagement ring? I wouldn't want one- I hate diamonds and I think they're ugly.

Link to post
Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011

I'm not engaged but if I was proposed to, I think I would want the ring to be only for me/never been worn by another woman before (unless it was a ring passed down generations) :)

Link to post
Share on other sites
Diamonds seem like such a marketing scam. I can't think of anything that depreciates faster. You spend $5,000+ dollars on them and if you wanted to sell it the very next day, the best you are going get for it is $500 from a pawn store or local jeweler. I don't really trust most of the chain jewelry stores and I feel like the more boutique jewelry stores want you to pay a fortune to cover their overhead.....she is very practical with money but not when it comes to this. The way I hear girls talk about wedding rings sounds like a bunch of guys sitting around comparing the size of their schlongs.

 

Seems like your desire to recycle the ring isn't so much because it's an heirloom and you wanna keep it in the family, it's more about your not wanting to spend money on a new ring.

That's cheapness being masked by sentimentality.

  • Like 3
Link to post
Share on other sites
Seems like your desire to recycle the ring isn't so much because it's an heirloom and you wanna keep it in the family, it's more about your not wanting to spend money on a new ring.

That's cheapness being masked by sentimentality.

 

Yes, Dave you were almost on a winner with that heirloom spiel but you ruined it with your follow up post.

"Diamonds seem like such a marketing scam. I can't think of anything that depreciates faster."

 

Hmm...

Link to post
Share on other sites

I remember being given a gold bracelet by a bf once, but by chance I found out he had actually bought it for a former gf.

I was heartbroken at the time and that was just a bracelet, an engagement ring is a big deal. Men see practicality, most women take that sort of stuff really seriously.

 

But I would not be in a big hurry to give the heirloom ring away to anyone as yet. Giving it to the child of the first wife may seem like you are giving the first wife the gift, she may sell it and use the money for herself, second wife may not be happy.

If you re-do it for the 2nd wife, then the first born child may then get upset.

I would think very carefully re any heirlooms; they can cause huge upsets in families.

Link to post
Share on other sites
and pigs fly in this fantasy world of yours

 

Believe it or not we do exist! My engagement ring is a ruby with two diamonds.

 

I get lots of compliments on it.

 

OP: agree with others that you should talk to her about it, and be prepared to accept her POV. I think I would be able to look past the association of the stone to a first wife, but would want a significant re-setting.

  • Like 1
Link to post
Share on other sites

If Liz Taylor was around I am sure she would say its okay to use an engagement ring twice...maybe even several times .

Link to post
Share on other sites
×
×
  • Create New...