LifeandPerseverance Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Maybe I just desperately want to jinx myself here. After making fun of tinder and relentless manhating, I went on a first date last night. We went out for ice cream and ended up closing the place down. We talked for 3 hours (I didn't realize that 'til I got back in the car). I promptly fell asleep when I got home, but apparently he didn't. I woke up to a text that said, among other things "You're awesome, very cute, have the most emerald green eyes I've ever seen, oh and I enjoyed hanging out with you!" He made a comment last night about would I want to go hiking this weekend. He made no effort to touch me. Is a 3 hour long first date a good sign? Or just a sign I downright talk too much? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I'd say it's a great sign. Most people would want to end a bad date, or a date with a person they have no interest in, as quickly as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 It's not a bad sign, certainly. Stay cautiously optimistic. He certainly sounds interested, but just remember that long dates don't necessarily translate to long-term dating potential. It could just mean you're good at dates—you're easy to talk to, or he likes spending time with you. I think a lot of people think that long dates mean that they're "the one," but it could just mean that you're personable. Nothing wrong with that, by the way. I got tripped up by that, too. I'm GREAT at dates, but had to date about 30 guys before meeting my boyfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
4everloveu Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 My 1st date also 3 hours plus. But he didn't contact me for second date. So, it not really mean anything. Could be at that time only. At least my end on the first date. Good luck and hope your successful. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I hope you responded to his text and conveyed your enthusiasm for the first date and your interest in that hiking date. Don't leave the guy hanging when he puts it out there like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 It sounds great:) Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 It's more positive than negative. Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 "It's more positive than negative." That's a great way to look at it, I believe. It's still very early, so don't get too excited. You don't know each other yet. There could be curve balls, ahead. So just keep your wits about you and take things at a tit-for-tat pace. As Louis Armstrong sang, "We Have All the Time In The World." Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Time of dates is not an indication if the relationship will be successful. I hada 5 hour date once that didnt go past the 2nd date and another that was 1 hour and went for two months. Youre getting ahead of yourself. Pace yourself 2 Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 No, it's neutral to me. I've had one or two dates be so awful I bolted after an hour, but other than that length of date has absolutely not translated to likelihood of second date. I've had eight hour dates not progress onto anything at all, and two hour dates that have turned into relationships. It just means that at that time, you both preferred to be in one another's company than elsewhere. The person could think of you as a potential friend and just enjoy spending time with you instead of thinking of you as a relationship material, maybe they had time to kill and didn't want to head home before going out again, maybe they just had nothing better to do. The length of date is not relevant, but his comments after the date are positive, and most importantly the fact he's asked you out again is key here. He wants to see you again, and usually after a first date you don't ask someone out again unless you're into them romantically/sexually, whatever your long term intention. So, enthusiastically accept his offer for the weekend and see how it goes Remain cautiously optimistic, but don't overthink and overanalyse it to death or get excited thinking he's the one as your enthusiasm at this very early stage suggests you may be in danger of! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I'd say it's a great sign. Most people would want to end a bad date, or a date with a person they have no interest in, as quickly as possible. If only that was the case for me! I find it really annoying when women stay out of politeness because I start to think that 4 hours of flowing conversation and laughter is a good sign then when i get home I get the 'dear John' text about lack of chemistry. Id honestly rather they just cut it short if they arent feeling it and be honest rather than have apointless 'getting to know you' conversation when they know they wont even end up as a friend at the end of it. Its a waste of time. In the OPs case i would say the same that 3 hours means nothing at all, however if he has offered another date then it sounds like there is nothing to worry about there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeandPerseverance Posted February 5, 2015 Author Share Posted February 5, 2015 just mean you're good at dates. Yeah I was thinking that just might be what it is. Not gonna get my hopes up. Expect the worst, and if the best happens..well then, I can be pleasantly surprised He did text me yesterday, but that probably doesn't mean much. Link to post Share on other sites
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